how do you stay on path to lose weight through a heartache

RUN2CJ

So I know it should not bother me about my 12 year relationship that I just broke off anymore... But why does it still hurt to know that we called it off 6 months ago and his baby was born with someone else last week.... I don't feel like eating some days... Then I overrated to compensate on others... Has anyone else had to deal with a heartbreak? Everytime I think I am So over it... I find that the pain is still there, I am praying, & turning to God because that's all I know to do... Has your heart been smashed & how did you get through it...

heyydanie

Nowhere does it say that it shouldn't bother you anymore, and I think if I was in that situation it'd still bother me, even longer than 6 months. Think of it this way - you can't erase 12 years in 6 months.

As weird as it sounds, if I'm dealing with a broken heart, I take one day to just....wallow. One day where I don't have to do anything but stay in my pajamas, watch some sappy movies, and cry if I need to. Then the next day, i do the complete opposite. I'm up, doing my hair, painting my nails, hitting the gym, going to a bookstore, whatever would define your perfect day.

A friend of mine forced me to do this the first time I got dumped by a guy who I swore was the love of my life. After the second day was over, she said "See? Just because he's an idiot and couldn't see how great you are doesn't mean life has to stop. You're going to have bad days like day one, but you're also going to have amazing days, like today."

And she was right.

And as far as losing weight goes, let yourself grieve for a couple days. Then go back to hitting it hard. You'll get there!

liog

I ended my first marriage after a 10 year relationship (almost 5 years married). I had every good reason to end it, but I was still affected by the loss of what I wanted it to be. It took me a year to move past it. I started doing things for myself. I did not date for three years. I traveled a bit and started new hobbies, made new friends and went back to school. I bettered myself. All of those things helped me through it.

tashaa1992

I'm not trying to lose weight, but rather gain it. I broke up with my boyfriend last august, I chose to split up with him, we had been together almost two years. I loved mark, honestly from the moment I met him I knew it was him, and he said he loved me but his actions never showed it. He hurt me alot, triggered my eating disorder more and more. The person he was when we met isn't him anymore. It will be six months next week, and I would love to say you will get over it but I don't know if that's true. I certainly haven't, I love him, I can't stop myself, but I won't ever go back, not while he's the person he is now. We chat everyday, as friends but I want more, I believe I always will. I know some people think I'm silly because I'm only nineteen and it's all ohh you're so young there's plenty of fish in the sea, but he is the one, I just won't accept him like this. I stuck with him through all the hard times he was going through because that is what you do when you love someone, and I know I would still be with him if he hadn't repeatedly hurt me. I had to think of my health so I got the courage and walked away, I regret that decision every single day. I don't want him to meet someone else and share a future with them, I want a future with mark and mark alone, I want to be his wife and have his children.
I know some people won't agree with me but I believe you only ever love one person in that way. That person is your soulmate, the one. Yes, other partners can bring you happiness, but is it really that same happiness the first person brought you?
Just my opinion though lol.

Tasha
xxx

FatKidAtHeart88

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months. We decided that our lives were too busy for each other and that maybe sometime in the future it will be different. It still hurts to imagine that I wont have someone to hold and be with for a long time. But I know, just like my last breakup which was way messier and was 7 years long, I have to give myself time to grieve the loss of that relationship then pick up the pieces and try to move on.

My last relationship helped me through a lot of the pain but I don't think it will be such a great idea to get into another one so soon.

I have a lot of weight to lose and I know that I leave the gym happy. So you can bet tomorrow I will be in there doing something. But today I cry over my broken heart.

lonaneomaflame

I"ve never had a breakup like that I've been with my hubby five years and we just got married in july. I have however had a lot of heartache. In 2008 I lost my frist child to miscarriage, in 2010 My daughter was stillborn (born dead), and in 2011 I lost my youngest to miscarriage. I was still in highschool with each of my losses and there were days I could not make myself get out of bed, and many more days that I would have learned more sitting in my bed. To this day I still can only listen to two CD's worth of music with out ending up in tears. and I still have to force myself out of bed some days. I've gained a lot of weight from my depression so now I'm trying to lose it. being active, going to the gym is really helping me be happier. But I could not have done this last year, I would have failed. I could not have denied myself the ice cream or the cookies and made myself go to the gym on days I didn't want to go. So it really okay to wait tell your ready, to take days off when you need them because honestly physical health doesn't matter to much when you are in poor mental health.