Is this bribery or Incentive?

bilzprincess

As we get older we figure out the ways of our minds, and how we can trick our motivation into doing what we need. And I think for someone younger this is harder. They may not know entirely how to stay the course because they haven't learned what to do when they "day-fail". She will, but being a sounding board that helps her for brainstorming how to avoid that day-fail next time is invaluable. It makes ur incentives like love notes of support.

How fat is the no-bribe coworker? Something to consider is folks' own issues when offer u the no-support.

Ur niece will hv u in her court. Set up debriefing times for her to say "I fall off the wagon whenever I am at..."

when my mother comes to dinner (she's had bariatric surgery) my daughter and I eat on tiny plates like hers. It sets the tone of support and safety in the family. Ur a good aunt. Tell her ur struggles. Be there to pick up pieces, and teach what u know. Ur incentive plan is no different from my hubby and I saying "when we're at goal we're going to Vegas and dressing to the nines every single night we're there!" go, Auntie, go! Save one American young person from becoming an obesity statistic.

sculley

She asked for your help like an accountability partner please don't second guess yourself feel flattered she came to you and looks up too you

ahealthy4u

She came to you for help, then you decided to give her an incentive to keep at it.


Bribe would have been if you went to her and said if you drop 30 pounds I will buy you X.


At least in my mind they are two totally different things!

She asked for the help!!!

G30Grrl

First of all, she did ask you for help, and I applaud you for providing it, as well as the incentive. Second, this is NOT bribery is the offering of money or other incentives to persuade somebody to do something that is generally dishonest or illegal. Losing weight is neither.

This is behaviorism, a psychological method of using reinforcements/rewards to encourage positive behaviors. Almost every school teacher on the planet has used it in some form or another. So have employers (bonuses, merit raises, etc), coaches, as well as psychologists who write behavior plans. Even the military gives rewards (increase in rank) for good performance.

Research has proven time and again that people learn best when they are rewarded for the behaviors we want them to learn or increase. Kudos to you for knowing and capitalizing on that fact.

Emily_Katherine

I think what you are doing is very sweet! She is lucky to have such a kind Aunt.

mem50

If anyone is still here that posted......Good News.....It took her 5 weeks but the niece has now lost 7 pounds. I am so happy about that!!

When I told her about the "gift for goal" it really did seem to help her mind set. She was really thrilled to see how much she lost, but a little flustered that it was not more. Hey, slow and steady wins the race was my reply. Besides I feel that if you lose to much to quick it tends to show up again with "friends" LOL.

bilzprincess

So true! Best to lose slowly and permanently.