5'1 and wayyyy over weight!!! Need support!

Hi my name is Lisha I use to be in the army and was fit n gorgeous!! Then had my daughter got out of the army gained weight....got married gained even more weight then had baby #2 last year n gained weight AGAIN!!! Then had a miscarriage n gained EVEN more weight!!! I have very little support n the people i do have are states away! At my fittest i was 145lbs now I'm 185lbs n its depressing i nedd some motivation cuz im making my marriage miserable for me an the ppl around me please help!? I need some stay at home moms that understands how it is to help me through this n ill do the same for u!!!