"fat girl syndrome"

Erica_theRedhead

So I've always been a big girl, and during this weight loss journey have been shrinking in size, dressing nicer, going out more, and trying to date more. Last night, a friend of mine (who probably has too much confidence) and I went out and were meeting guys at the bar and doing the whole dating game thing. She asked me why I didn't make a move on a guy at the bar who I was into a little bit, and she brought up that I suffer from fat girl syndrome. That I need to be a lot more confident, wear more dresses/heels, and basically walk into a bar like I own it.

If you're a girl, have you ever had confidence issues and overcame them? If you're a guy, what draws you to a girl when you're out??

PinkEarthMama

There comes a point where you have to fake the confidence until it comes naturally. Set your mind to being sexy, confident, outgoing... and the rest comes naturally.

rougette66

the thing with me is that i used to be super skinny and now I'm not. everytime i walk into a bar i keep thinking I'm still this skinny chick that can own it. I guess that still works for me bc I'm the fat chick that still can own it. the trick is to just look at yourself in the mirror. seriously look at yourself and how well you applied your makeup, how smash your outfit is and how rockin you look. its all in your head. seriously. people perceive you in the way you project yourself. and btw you shud ttly make a move ^_^

-goodluck

JimieLou

When I was over 300 pounds. I had to fake the confidence and I wouldn't go out to the bar alone. I always had to have at least one other person. That way when the door opened and i walked in, all eyes weren't on the fat girl.
Now that I'm 230, I have a lot more confidence....REAL confidence. I wear heels and skinny jeans. I wear knee high black boots and cute shirts. and I rock them. I'm not afraid to go into a bar alone because I know that when the door opens, they're checking me out. I know that sounds very vain and maybe it it. I've found that with shedding the fat, I've gained self confidence. I get hit on a LOT...by guys I don't know and guys I knew before when I was fat. I'm very flattered, but take it with a grain of salt because if they didn't want me when I was fat they don't deserve me when I'm hot.
So rock the self confidence....fake it til you've got it!

JENN17501

you could rock a burlap bag Jimie! so amazed.