So my parents are telling me....

latinqueencee

to stop dieting. I hadnt seen them in about a week or so, and they were both pretty shocked when they saw me. they say my face looks drawn and I look old. My sister who was also with them said "Oh my God!!! Stop dieting already and start eating". I promise you, I am not eating any differently, I eat my calories as well as having my spike day, I still weigh 169-170, I am 5'7 and according to the weight charts I am still considered overweight. I am not starving myself and that is what they think, that I am not eating so I could lose and that is not true. I have been hitting Spin 3-4 days a week, I've maybe lost 3-5 pounds that I had regained because I stopped exercising for almost a month.
It sucks that they cant say "hey, great job, wow, I'm proud of you" instead all I get is negativity .

pintade66

keep on going, only yourself know what you want, not them, just by curiosity, are your family lean or overweight?

grod45

well you know how parents are, especially latin ones! your either too skinny or too fat! you never seem to be just right! Don't sweat it though. You know I was watching Joel Osteen today, he's a preacher, anyway he was saying how we need to learn to press the DELETE button on all negativity. People can hurt with their words without even realizing it. All you can do is be proud of how far you come. I know its important to have our families approval and recognition but it doesn't mean if we don't get it that we give up. Keep in mind they are use to seeing you a certain way so it probably came as a shock to them and caused them to worry. You know your healthy, you know what your goal weight is and you have the right to obtain what makes you happy. After all your responsible for you.:flowerforyou:

JenniferInNY

That's too bad. I say, as long as you're aiming for a healthy BMI (19-24), and are losing weight gradually, and including healthy exercise, you're in good shape. Unfortunately, for some people, food=love, and if you're not feeding yourself constantly then you're no loving yourself constantly, or something like that. My parents can't be pleased when it comes to my body anyway.

That said, as I've lost weight, I've realized that I do need to change up my style and beauty routine to look as good as possible. I have had to get new clothes to make sure my clothes fit. As my face has thinned out, I have needed to spend more time evening out my complexion since I now have facial contours. :-) Just a suggestion -- maybe you can take a fresh look at your style and beauty routine? It might help you look your best as you lose weight, and might cut back on some of the non-supportive comments.

ninerbuff

Better to show them actual medical proof that you're overweight than try to argue with them. Though I'm not big on the BMI chart, it's at least something they can see.



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Elizabeth_C34

Don't worry about it. Just ignore them and hit your goal. As long as your goal is a healthy weight, and you aren't starving yourself or doing some other crazy diet, you'll be fine.

They will get used to the new you in time. Focus on yourself.

cmeade20

It sucks. I lost twenty pounds and when my aunt saw me she asked if I had been sick. I think so much of this country is overweight that people getting used to it and are paranoid about eating disorders when someone loses weight.

xSophia19

Im sorry to hear this! Its not nice of your parents saying this to you, they should be really proud of you for loosing weight! Its not easy!!! You do whats best for you, and what weight you feel most comfortable at x