Do you ever feel like giving up?

paisley2288

I have SO much weight to lose and sometimes I just feel like giving up, pigging out, and forgetting about it. When you feel like this, how do you keep going? What motivates you?

carrieebg

I can understand. It runs around in my mind everyday to just give up. This journey is so frustrating, and the weight loss tips/advise are so many and they all say something different. Blah......:(

But don't give up!!!!! After all the tears and frustration I am much happier, thinner then I was with the frustrations of carrying around extra weight.

Stick with this for you. For how amazing your body will feel as you move throughout your day!! For how great it feels to do ordinary things with little to no effort:)

I struggle every minute of each day and I do it because there is no way I want to go back to being heavy. You will find your motivational "thing", I believe in you, you can do this:) One day at a time....

Lona728

I get like this all the time. That's why this time around I made a bet with a friend of mine. First one to lose 100lbs gets a prize from the other one. And on the 1st of every month we weigh in for a mini challenge. The one who loses the most % gets a $15 Gift Card to Cato's. It has really been helping me. I put my money where my mouth is

jaks97

I look at the small goals, the 5 lbs first, exercising for more than 10 min at a time, baby steps, drink your water and move. Something I didn't do today move. Tomorrow is another day take your measurments and don't trust that darn scale, I was discouraged with the scale but I took my measurements and said WHAT? but the tape doesn't lie.

Keep up the good work we are all here for you

paisley2288

Thanks everyone. It's just so hard knowing I have almost 200 pounds to lose! @Lona-- Cato is my favorite store EVER!

HealthyHappy120

All the time! But I remember when I didn't care I felt so depressed. Being healthy and skinnier is for you! To make yourself happier and confident. And plus I really wanna look good in a bikini this summer. Trust me I wanna eat pizza everyday but those 5 minutes aren't worth the sadness that comes with it..

Elf_Princess1210

Quite a bit, but my friends on here give me the strength to persevere.

PennyNickel14

Yes!

Sometimes I get bogged down with how long it is taking and how far I still have to go.

Keep Pushing through. That feeling will PASS.

A year from now you will be glad that you kept trying.

hiker282

You have to motivate yourself more than anything. Others can support and encourage, but determinatino ultimately comes from within. As my friend Max usually says, You have to remember all the negative emotions and associate them with being overweight and eating gross amounts of food. Then you have to think of your motivation and the good feelings that come every time you see the pounds coming off. Don't focus on how far you have to go, but focus on putting one foot in front of the other one day at a time. You can do this, but it is going to take time and a lot of effort. You can do this if you really don't want to.

Don't be consumed by the times you slip, but pick yourself up and start over. Don't wait until tomorrow to get back on track. Once you catch yourself, get back to a healthy place, go for a walk or something so you can reset your sights on the goal.

khambrown

i completely understand i have lost 11lbs and you would think that this would be great motivation to stay on track, yet i find myself picking up old habits and over eating or eating just for fun, it sucks

yoouperh

Not sure if anyone else does this, but, I have days where I think, SO WHAT! I'm fat, I'm going to live this way because no one cares...so I think about what I would eat if I didn't care, I track it and hit complete on my diary and look at the number it tells me I would be in 5 weeks. Is that food worth it? It hasn't been yet! And I doubt it ever will be! I clear out my dairy after that and plan my day like normal! When I go to bed at night I think about the choices I made and I'm proud and sleep well!

khambrown

this is great advice

lynnhuss

:happy: Of course, everyday I want to eat all the things that I love. But, I have to keep that end result in mind.....how darn good I'm gonna look and feel in my clothes and social situations when all this weight is gone. I do wish it would come off faster and I especially get discouraged when friends are loosing 3-5 pounds per week and I am loosing 2 pounds per week, but I have to pick myself up out of that thought pattern before it gets the best of me. Keep up the good work, it will pay off for you.

fitforlife34

191 lbs to lose? Is that more like 19? I think that could be a typo. YOu definitely don't look like you need to lose 191 lbs. heehee. I would give up too.

clarkeje1

You might fall off the wagon like I have and go over on your calories 3 days in a row but guess what. Tomorrow is another opportunity to make positive choices. So you can fall off and get right back on again

ahinski

I'm going to be very honest....

No, I never feel that way (anymore) because I've eliminated giving up as an option. Eating healthy and living a fit life is a now a non-negotiable part of every single day for the rest of my time on this planet. YOU can do that, too. Try not to think of your choices regarding food and exercise as a means to an end, but as a lifestyle. You are now going to treat your body (and yourself) how you were always meant to be treated. What you are doing is out of self-love, and to give up would be unloving. Giving up would be an act of self-hate.

Never ever give up--you'll miss the miracle.

garlic7girl

Of course, when I started my journey I felt like it but I said to myself, "ok do you want to keep feeling like you are 60 and only 30 y/o??" My health and health risks were worth fighting for! I would complain, "why is it so easy for some people? They can eat whatever and not gain" But guess what?! I had to learn not to compare my body to anyone elses because my body ismine and unique to me! I have to work it for me!!!!!! What works for you may not work for me. Plus, my goals may not be the same as yours. Why making mini goals and long term goals so important! Keeps you focused and grounded. The mini goals also help you see the light...if you only make long term ones you will get discouraged and give in. Maybe focus on adding one extra serving of veggies per day...change slowly but weekly with new attitudes!

MenaMena

After the 3rd week, I wasn't losing weight and didn't lose anything for about 3 weeks. I actually gained a pound even though I was being faithful to workout and staying within my calorie limits. What helped me not give up was the information and encouragement I receive on this site. The success stories and pictures are so encouraging and reassuring. The information that others share helped me to look at what I could consider changing to get things moving in the right direction.

Onward and downward!

saxnviolin

DOn't give up! We all feel that way once in awhile. You are absolutely gorgeous and you can do this!

beckylawrence70

In one word, NEVER, hang in there!

paisley2288

No, it's not a typo. 191 pounds. I am at 324 right now. lol not very helpful to say you'd give up too! but thanks for saying i dont look like i need to lose that much and thank you for the support everybody.

Tarzy19

it will all be worth it in the end good luck!

RachelM0717

I feel like this every day. Every day I have to re-convince myself to get on the treadmill, run, watch my calories, and work hard at losing weight. It sucks. However, it will be so worth it in the end. Plus, if we don't do it now, sometime down the road we're going to HAVE to do it (for health, health insurance, kids, whatever) and it will be so much harder.

When I need inspiration, one of my tricks is to go to Pinterest and look at the "Fitness" board. It's just box after box after box of inspirational quotes, pictures of people working hard and sweating, enjoyable low-cal recipes, etc. It always inspires me to get back to work or to put the Oreo down.

Good luck!

TheYankeeBelle

Hey there! Don't set yourself up for such a huge hurdle! I had a hard time with seeing the overwhelming number I need to see on the scale, so I made my goals smaller, much more likely attain. Others members have written similar things. Start with goals like 5 lbs to lose, or walking 2 blocks, or cutting back on your weakness food.

Although I didn't start with the obstacle you have presented yourself, I know losing weight just sucks. I've lost over 40 lbs in the past 4.5 months by having almost no social life. All I do is obsess over this website with counting calories and trying to get in some sort of exercise. I was active and healthy as a teenager and kept thinking, "Oh well, I've been in shape before, I can do it again easily" ....it turns out that's just not true. It takes work and sacrifice. I had a TON of fun putting on this weight and now I pay the price.

I've replied to others with the same advice: drink a TON of water (it has easily become second nature and I get crazy if I have to even run an errand without my water in the car and my skin has never looked better, I get tons of compliments, which is nice since I spent my teens and 20's looking like a "before" Pro-Active commercial")
2nd: get an Heart Rate Monitor. It is my ultimate motivator. Knowing how many calories I can burn doing simple things and even a super hard workout is amazing.
3rd: If you fall off the wagon, don't beat yourself up. It's going to happen and that's ok. I saw a cheesy (but true!) poster: the only thing standing between success and failure is giving up on success. You will have fail days, but what matters most is to KEEP TRYING!!

Good luck and keep us posted! You can do it; but only YOU can accomplish it.

Pepper2185

My motivating thoughts:

1) Tomorrow I will wish I would have started the day before.

2) I can do something good for myself every single day. It may not mean I lose three pounds that week, but I'm getting healthier and stronger every day - and when I get to my goal I will be a force to reckon with!!!!

3) In the end, after a binge, all I'm left with is guilt and bloat. Find happiness somewhere else, somewhere meaningful.

Macrocarpa

Yeah - it seems like weight loss follows the laws of diminishing returns - twice as much effort to lose half as much weight (

The temptation is always there. I'd love to grab a huge bag of chips, some full-sugar soda and a bar of chocolate and sit down to a few hours of Playstation...

So I deal with it by looking at the least flattering photo of me from when I was...bigger. Thinking about how it felt to be the big guy, how awful it was. Then I talk myself through all the wins along the way, how awesome it was to hit 5kg loss, then 10kg, then 15kg, then 20kg. Fitting into all the clothes I bought on speculation. Suddenly being able to feel my pelvis again. Running out of belt loops.

I don't wanna go back, and the chips / chocolate / soda = the first steps.

PinkEarthMama

You can't give up. You're too valuable to give up. You only get ONE life and ONE body, and without them.. you're nothing.

You deserve it. You deserve to be strong and fabulous and feel good.

I want to give up every day. It's hard. I'm hurting. I'm disgusted at myself. But nothing, NOTHING is more important to me than being healthy enough to do the things I want.

I really, REALLY hope you keep going. Dont' give up what you want for what you want right now.

leanmachinedream

I have 80lbs to lose and I get discouraged every day. My S/O always tells me to stop focusing on the big number and make mini goals - 5lbs, 10lbs at a time. That's what I do and it's helping. I want to quit every day. It's hard. Being sore, working out. fighting my old binging habit, making time for 4-5 mini meals a day, it's HARD.

But it will be worth it. I remember how unhappy I am like this and how I want to be healthy and I want to be STRONG.

alliekat893

I feel like giving up a lot of days. Some of us don't even have to eat "gross amounts of food" to gain weight. With insulin resistance, a glass of milk puts me over my sugar allowance and I feel l like I gain a pound!

The main things that keep me going is the accountability... people know I'm on a mission, and when they ask how it's going I don't want to say "well, I gave up" or even "I had a bad week and gained back some." The other big thing for me is the compliments. I work from home and when I do have to go in the office, hearing "have you lost weight?" from people that I hadn't told I was on a diet... is a really great feeling.

I try not to think of it in terms of how far I have to go. It depresses me. I've been setting mini goals instead. When I reach one, it makes me feel better about myself.

burstchair

Absolutely I feel like giving Up sometimes. But I truly believe that the way I will feel when I get healthy, will greatly outweigh the tough times. Hang in there. U can do it. Btw, I have well over 100 lbs to lose also. We can do it.

macnurseapril

Yup. Parts of me think it's just easier to keep eating, and doing nothing. But it's not. When I eat crap I feel like garbage, and it's just not worth it any more. When I skip two work outs I am irritable at work and with the kids. And there are enough irritations with those two things that I don't need to add to it.

Try looking at in what you have accomplished not what you have to do. If I think about the 130lbs I should lose, I just want to bale. Now.

I stopped for almost 5 weeks, and came back because it felt better. Way better.

So 9lbs, and we'll see what happens next. Because as corny as it it, I am worth it.