Rant for the ones we can't change...

lizziebeth1028

So today my perpetually dieting but never losing any weight obese friend told me she's starting a new 'diet'....either this Sunday or the Sunday after next. She hasn't decided what day would be best because she has a few events coming up which may delay the start of her new 'diet'. ARGHHHHH. I have tried to suggest MFP or just sensible eating, watching portions and even just walking but she is always trying a new gimmick diet. She totally does not have the right mindset and is setting herself up for failure. She's a smart educated woman but she just doesn't want to face the truth that there is no magic pill, fat flush, injections, vitamins ect. The big secret is just eat less, stay in a calorie deficit. It's simple, but difficult at the same time. It requires willpower and determination. I truly worry about her. She's a few years older than me....55 and very obese with a very sedentary lifestyle. She doesn't even look healthy anymore. She needs a major lifestyle change like NOW. Unfortunately you can't help people who won't help themselves. Only be there for them when they are truly ready to make that change! Ahhhh sorry a bit of a rant.

H_Factor

I agree that you can't help someone who doesn't want it bad enough. Perhaps you could try this (it can't hurt)...

"I know that you've tried in the past and are ready to try again. I know that its difficult to be persistent. I know that will power comes and goes. What if I had a will power pill that you could tailor make for yourself? Something that would help you through the rough patches. Something that would help motivate you to keep working through the various mental meanies that strike. Well, I read about one on MFP and I'm willing to share it with you. ... http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/H_Factor/view/recipe-for-a-will-power-pill-for-help-with-the-mental-part-of-the-journey-155978 "

and, if you want, you could direct her to my profile page which contains some very valuable items on it...including the basic "dieting" rules I follow and part of my own will power pill. best of luck to you and your friend