My boyfriend thinks MFP is for girls only

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  • queenpushycat
    queenpushycat Posts: 762 Member
    Here is my before and after and I owe a lot of my success to this website...ask him if he really thinks this is just for girls.

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    HOT.
  • FitLink
    FitLink Posts: 1,317 Member
    Sneak healthy things into his diet. Go for "romantic" walks together or go shopping but park far away from the store or walk around a mall.

    'Cuz guys love romantic walks and shopping at the mall? Whaddaya think guys? More romantic walks and mall shopping? (Sorry. I couldn't resist. LOLOL)
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    he's probably about the same overweight as I was before I started MFP (40 or so pounds overweight) and since I've lost almost 15 pounds, I'm trying to get him to do it too and he keeps telling me "that's for girls"

    It's really annoying because I want him to be healthy. He's already got back problems and has trouble sleeping.

    Sounds like an excuse to me. He may not be ready to commit.
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Hey, it's cool. I'm single. Not that I'm hitting on you or anything, but it's cool. He doesn't need to know...

    :drinker:
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    Here is my before and after and I owe a lot of my success to this website...ask him if he really thinks this is just for girls.

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    Yum
  • lauragoat
    lauragoat Posts: 197 Member
    My hubby has lost 60+pounds since thanksgiving...tell you boyfriend to get on the ball ... this will work for him too!!!!!
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    Hey, it's cool. I'm single. Not that I'm hitting on you or anything, but it's cool. He doesn't need to know...

    :drinker:

    Sweetie, you are so much the cutest, but you hit on all the girls. Have a little pride honey!! :flowerforyou:
  • H_Factor
    H_Factor Posts: 1,722 Member
    MFP is where the fierce folks hang out....but your boyfriend just isn't ready to go on his own healthy journey. He has to make the decision for himself. If he does, perhaps then he will take interest in all the awesomeness that is MFP.
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
    As much as I would like my husband to get on MFP or any program for that matter...he has to be the one to decide it is time. Shoot no one could have told me to do so. I do try to avoid enabling....by not purchasing unhealthy things to put in the cupboards or fridge.
  • DakotaKeogh
    DakotaKeogh Posts: 693 Member
    He's making an excuse to avoid tackling the problem. I couldn't have achieved my goal without MFP. And I make no bones about admitting that.
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    So then he has not seen all of the crazy hot men on here???? Hmmmm...he may have to re-evaluate..lol
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    Here is my before and after and I owe a lot of my success to this website...ask him if he really thinks this is just for girls.

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    HOT.

    You may want to add a SUPER before that HOT for this one...lol
  • extra
    extra Posts: 5 Member
    I agree that his comment may not have been the brightest and that he is probably using it as an excuse to not make a healthy change. However, one thing that is important for you to keep in mind is that when it comes to fitness and being healthy, you need to come first and do what you can to focus on you. As you continue to stick with the healthy habits that you have developed, he will hopefully see how important it is to you and may come around to using the same strategies as you. Don't push him too much about him using MFP. He has to want to be healthy and want to make a change in his life. Part of that may be helping him find a motivator. Until he is ready, the best that you can do is show him your successes and the joy you get out of being healthy.
  • Macrocarpa
    Macrocarpa Posts: 121 Member
    He's wrong...we may be under-represented in the message boards but there are a hell of a lot of men on here.
  • bjfrezell
    bjfrezell Posts: 241
    My husband and I are both using MFP and we're both losing weight. It helped when I showed him how easy it was to use MFP. Plus it helps us that we are both eating the same things for meals. It also might help when he sees how well you do by using MFP?
  • csrussell
    csrussell Posts: 6
    I am sure if you have gotten him to look at the replies to your post, he now knows that MFP isn't just for women. But, MFP really isn't the point. The point is to set goals and track performance towards those goals. It is no different than work or anything else that one wants to achieve. As my boss always says "what gets measured, gets done". So, he can use MFP, any one of many other websites or smartphone apps, an excel spreadsheet, or pen and paper. Just as long as he is setting goals and working towards them. MFP just happens to be a very good tool for that measurement.

    BTW, I am a guy and I have used this or another similar website for the last seven years. I don't have a lot of weight to lose, but I use the tools to keep the weight off and to keep track of my fitness.

    Good luck to you both.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Tell him the women post pictures in bikinis and undies. That should get him here.
  • naastrodamus
    naastrodamus Posts: 14
    I've only just started, but I'm finding that all the calorie counting and entering in meals and checking charts and stuff is REALLY satisfying the geek in me... it's like a fantasy baseball league, only I'm losing weight doing it instead of gnawing on Cheez-its all night while I pour over my stats.
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    I'd say it's a 60%women 40% men split, but tell him if he puts a skirt on when he logs in, it will make it ok
  • baddbob
    baddbob Posts: 133 Member
    Yep. Tell him Badd Bob says it's only for girls. Tell him this Biker has lost 27 pounds and I don't think I ever remember someone calling me a girl. LOL
  • baddbob
    baddbob Posts: 133 Member
    Sneak healthy things into his diet. Go for "romantic" walks together or go shopping but park far away from the store or walk around a mall.

    'Cuz guys love romantic walks and shopping at the mall? Whaddaya think guys? More romantic walks and mall shopping? (Sorry. I couldn't resist. LOLOL)

    Yeah.....I'm thinking using the shopping and long romantic walks is the right "hook." You do that and I'll just keep riding my Hog. Tell me how it works out for ya!!!
  • monkeymouse74
    monkeymouse74 Posts: 288
    Well, it was a man that told me about this site (He's my pharmasist who lose 30kg's useing it)! I think he's just not ready to make the change, after all, it takes balls!..:-D
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    he's probably about the same overweight as I was before I started MFP (40 or so pounds overweight) and since I've lost almost 15 pounds, I'm trying to get him to do it too and he keeps telling me "that's for girls"

    It's really annoying because I want him to be healthy. He's already got back problems and has trouble sleeping.

    Obviously MFP is gender neutral, but it sounds like there's a bigger issue here. If he's not ready to lose the weight, you can't make him. I know you want him to be healthy, but he has to want it for himself. I used to get annoyed when my husband first started losing weight and offering suggestions to me before I asked. I know I'm overweight, and I'm losing it now, but I am doing it in my own way and I am not following his same methods. He's proud of me, but I'm doing this for myself.

    We all want to share our success with everyone around us, but we can only give if someone is willing to receive. Let him do his own thing and just wait for him to ask before you offer too much advice. Otherwise, you'll be met with silly excuses like, "that's for girls".
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    Here is my before and after and I owe a lot of my success to this website...ask him if he really thinks this is just for girls.

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    HOT.

    uh.. yeeeah.
  • KandieLantz
    KandieLantz Posts: 423 Member
    Obviously he's never seen the HOT @$$ MEN on this site!! Oh, wait... on second thought.. maybe you should let him think it's just for girls! LOL
  • slayerdan
    slayerdan Posts: 193
    Then tell him he will fit right in.
  • xYumzx
    xYumzx Posts: 953 Member
    he's probably about the same overweight as I was before I started MFP (40 or so pounds overweight) and since I've lost almost 15 pounds, I'm trying to get him to do it too and he keeps telling me "that's for girls"

    It's really annoying because I want him to be healthy. He's already got back problems and has trouble sleeping.

    I want my friends and family to join to, but ive finally realize you cant make them want to do it. You just have to be there for them when they decide its time.
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    BF needs to get his head outta his butt! Unfortunately, so does mine (and he has the same issues, except he's more overweight than I am), and I've learned that I can't nag him into doing anything like this.

    Maybe when he sees your progress he'll feel differently, but till then, keep on doing what you know works for you. Perhaps your success will be the best "I told you so" lol.
  • BaconMD
    BaconMD Posts: 1,165 Member
    I have a girl's name, but I've got man parts.
  • DaddyofMEA
    DaddyofMEA Posts: 71
    I think he's just not ready to make the change, after all, it takes balls!..:-D

    This was spot on.

    Most guys who don't want to do something with there significant other will use the "its for girls" excuse.
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