ladies help please

mikey1976
mikey1976 Posts: 1,005 Member
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
i was wondering if this would be creepy. i have a huge crush on my cardio kick boxing instructor for the past all most year. we really never talk. she mention in front of the class for everyone to hear how she bought her own chocolate to and how she was going to go home and eat them alone. the she said pathetic she knows. I'm wondering does this mean she single? because i was thinking of sending her flowers with an original song i wrote but leave my name off. she deserves to know some one like her enough to do that. I'm trying to figure if this would make class awkward since there is only two guys in the class. please help i am clueless when it come to women

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  • Capt_Chev
    Capt_Chev Posts: 93 Member
    I would maybe try the flowers first and see how it goes over! I would most definitely let her know that they are from you. And then see how she reacts! Good Luck! :)
  • wedjul05
    wedjul05 Posts: 472
    Agree with CaptChav. I would do the flowers first only, put your name on them. It can only go one of 2 ways. Good luck.
  • frosty73
    frosty73 Posts: 424 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.
  • christina0089
    christina0089 Posts: 709 Member
    I would maybe try the flowers first and see how it goes over! I would most definitely let her know that they are from you. And then see how she reacts! Good Luck! :)

    This 100 percent! Save the songs for later! to much to soon might scare her off.

    best of luck! :flowerforyou:
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    If you never try you'll never know. I'd try just the flowers first and see how she reacts. You sound lovely and like she will be a very lucky woman! Go for it! ;-)
  • krnlcsf
    krnlcsf Posts: 310
    I agree with Frosty73... that's going a little too far to let someone know you're interested. Keeping it simple (going for coffee, or Booster Juice after a workout) is a better bet in the beginning, and is less likely to make things awkward if things don't go in your favour.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    Flowers are sweet, but the song might be over the top at this point. Keep the flowers simple. This is not the time for 2 dozen red roses. Go for some lilies or something more casual. Put your name on the card, anonymous could be a little creepy for a lot of women. Keep in mind though, you have to be prepared for her to say thanks and not have things go any further. Make sure that won't be too awkward for you.

    As other people have suggested, a simple invitation to coffee would also be a good bet, and possibly less awkward if it bombs.
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.

    THIS
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.

    Agree not to send the cd right now, but I think flowers are a lovely idea... I forgot to mention though... Do add your name! :-)
  • MrsM1ggins
    MrsM1ggins Posts: 724 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.

    THIS
    I agree. Why don't you just ask her if she'd like to grab a cup of coffee with you after a class some day?

    It won't be weird or creepy unless you make it weird/creepy.
  • juliekaiser1988
    juliekaiser1988 Posts: 604 Member
    Flowers only. Keep the note attached friendly, and not mushy. Start slow.
  • deejay7806
    deejay7806 Posts: 165 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.

    yeah..totally agree......deff ask her 4 coffe after mayb.... and c how that goes..... hmmm flowers n song wud deff freak me out... good luck in woteva u decide :-)
  • Emancipated_Tai
    Emancipated_Tai Posts: 751 Member
    Flowers are nice, but make sure she knows they are from you. And like someone else said above, ask her out of a cup of coffee or something.. nothing too abrasive so she doesn't feel the pressure of having to accept a "date". From there she can decide if things will go further. However, just know that once your in the "friends lane" it is almost impossible to get out of it.
  • lmalaschak
    lmalaschak Posts: 346 Member
    DEFINITELY wait with the song. Flowers would be great as long as you tell her it's you -- or just ask her out like everyone said!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Something in my gut says that before you send flowers to try talking to her first.
    Flowers may be a bit much from someone that has described themselves as something of a stranger to her.
  • StartingAnewDay
    StartingAnewDay Posts: 319 Member
    Definitely creepy! I have done the "anonymous note" thing in junior high, and although it was exciting at the time, the results were disastrous when the person realized it was me. You don't want her to think you are a creeper, and flowers and a song you wrote is over the top when you don't even know a person. As a woman, I would be ultimately freaked out! Keep it simple and ask her if she'd like to join you at a coffeeshop (or something like Panera bread) either before or after the workout. Save the song/flowers for later in the relationship.

    I have to agree with this, If you give flowers, and she feels uncomfortable, that will also make you uncomfortable.. and the class etc. If you just maybe hang back after class and ask would she like to have coffee or something sometime. It's a lot less pressure and more comfortable. Then no one will feel awkward and have to leave the class.. (that would be you since she's the instructor)
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    Send her a picture of your penis with a bow on it.... make sure your song is playing too. She is so yours!
  • Fit4_Life
    Fit4_Life Posts: 828 Member
    Send her friendship flowers and note that how much you appreciate her as an Instructor, and if she would like to hang out sometime to give you a call.

    Then see where it goes from there.. :)

    NOTE:

    She may have rules not to date people who she instructs. Some people are like that..

    Good luck to you.. :)
  • lq022
    lq022 Posts: 232 Member
    I havent read any of these other posts so I dont know if this has already been said ... but I'd just go up and talk to her. Ask her about the class .. ask how many calories she thinks the average person burns ... ask her to show you a specific move again .. Just try asking her for advice on her domain -- exercise! .. Do that for a few times, maybe crack some jokes and see how she responds. If she is single, she'll probably pick up on some of the signs ...if you see her at the gym outside of class (like say if she's a personal trainer) .. ask her if she can help you with your diet .. again, just as something to talk about . The point is to keep the conversation in HER element for awhile and then you can branch off into other areas.

    I think the flowers is definately a nice gesture, but it could come off as creepy .. anonymous or not. Especially if she is a pretty girl she probably gets hit on all the time from creeps ... dont let her put you in that category!!

    Another idea -- do you know if she is on facebook? I'm friends with my kickboxing instructor on facebook (as are other people in the class) .. and at least that way, you get a glimpse into her "world" and see what she likes and see if you have anything in common


    Good luck!
  • minime2b
    minime2b Posts: 168
    Ask her our for lunch or coffee (less intimate than dinner) No flowers yet. And do not do anything anonymously. If it ends up making things weird, oh well, nothing ventured nothing gained.:smile:
  • Allisonsmith99
    Allisonsmith99 Posts: 7
    Something in my gut says that before you send flowers to try talking to her first.
    Flowers may be a bit much from someone that has described themselves as something of a stranger to her.

    This in spades, talk to her first and keep it light.
  • Fit4_Life
    Fit4_Life Posts: 828 Member
    Send her a picture of your penis with a bow on it.... make sure your song is playing too. She is so yours!


    OMG!!! That's hilarious!! ^^
  • Amber82479
    Amber82479 Posts: 629 Member
    I wouldn't send anything anonymously, because that could defnitely be creepy. However, you certainly could make a nice gesture like sending flowers or asking her out to eat or for coffee.
  • Allisonsmith99
    Allisonsmith99 Posts: 7
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  • dhencel
    dhencel Posts: 244 Member
    Life is too short to wait. Try talking to her first about anything... That will give you a chance to let her know you... Go from there...
  • jfinnivan
    jfinnivan Posts: 360 Member
    Flowers at this point wold be much too creepy. Talk to her first, get to know her. After a while, ask her out for coffee if it feels right. Proceed from there. Don't rush.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Ask her our for lunch or coffee (less intimate than dinner) No flowers yet. And do not do anything anonymously. If it ends up making things weird, oh well, nothing ventured nothing gained.:smile:

    Yep. ^^^^^this.

    Anonymous is not the way to go. Be straightforward. Don't have your friend pass her friend a note in Gym Class.
  • frosty73
    frosty73 Posts: 424 Member
    Even better than coffee.... maybe a Jamba Juice! :smile:
  • Keto1on1
    Keto1on1 Posts: 23 Member
    MAYBE YOU JUST NEED TO TALK TO HER TO SEE WERE SHE'S AT BE FOR YOU DO ANYTHING. BECAUSE I BELEIVE JUST TALKING TO SOMEONE WILL TELL YOU IF THEY LIKE YOU ENOUGH TO HAVE COFFEE.:wink:
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Something in my gut says that before you send flowers to try talking to her first.
    Flowers may be a bit much from someone that has described themselves as something of a stranger to her.

    this is exactly what i was going to say...first step is TALKING TO HER!
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