Opinion: Have you ever stopped loving someone you were in lo

imfittted

I've been broken up with the second person I ever loved for two months and am wondering if I will ever stop loving him. I was thinking back to my first love (we broke up 3+ years ago) and I know I still love him, I have just moved on. Is anyone else like me in that once they love someone they feel like will never stop? Or have you loved someone who hurt you so much you have no love inside you for them anymore?

Please give opinions/stories as I am feeling a bit weird in this regard and would really like to see some other perspective, especially from wonderful people like you who don't know the specifics and can remain impartial.

Thanks in advance!

traceyjayne64

In 1988 i fell in love at first sight with someone, i was 24 and had 3 small children from a previous marriage.
We married in 1990 and our marriage was passionate and volatile, and we unfortunately divorced in 1994.
Although i went on to marry again i never got over the love i had for this man, i used to dream about him every night, crying when i woke up to realise it was just a dream. Not for one day did i stop loving him.
Then, in 2009, some 15 years later, i was going through a terrible time after the death of my father and all i could think about was this man, the love of my life. I looked him up on the electorol roll ( i had done this many times but there was usually a female listed at his address also and i wasnt going to get involved with that) but this time he was listed alone.
I took my chances and just went to the address and knocked on his door...the same feelings were immediate for both of us...that was March 2009, in December 2009 we remarried.
We are together now, extremely happy and both grateful that i went looking for him again.
He is, and always will be, the true love of my life .

imfittted

Wow, that is like a story from a movie! That is wonderful for you!

lmalaschak

I think people today tend to get too deeply involved with each other without true commitment, and so of course there are problems getting over someone you break up with. I'm not sure what to say except that it's not surprising that it is difficult to get over someone if your relationship was very close. Every breakup of this type is almost like a divorce, which SHOULD be hard to get over!

189andFalling

You do, but it takes a while! I remember my first love, took about 5 years to stop having feelings for her. What did it for me is we met up 5 years later and she wasn't the same person. She hadn't looked after herself, smoking & drinking too much, dropped out of university, etc... the odd thing is she turned me down the first time then it was the opposite way round when we met again!

I firmly believe that if she had decided to stay with me 5 years before she would be in a far far better place than she is now... I'd have taken care of her and shared the success I now have... but I guess that's just life!

The one thing I've learnt along the way is you never know what is going to happen next! The girl I'm with now is perfect for me and we are similar in so many ways it's uncanny! (and naturally it helps that she is a little younger than me and sexy as hell!).

Everything happens for a reason so keep on smiling .

tashaa1992

Hm well I know some people may not agree with this, but I believe there is a massive difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. When you love someone nothing they do or anyone else does or says will change your love for them, you will love them until the day you die, but when you are in love with someone you can fall out of love with them, therefore it is not neverending love.
I broke up with my ex mark last august and I still feel exactly the same way I did about him now, as when we were together. When I met him, I knew I would always love him. I was seventeen and he was twenty four and he has a load of health problems, etc but it never put me off, I was always there by his side. He has treacher collins sydrome and the fact people have said really horrible things to him about his disfigurements really upset me, I love him, he's beautiful.
Mark hurt me alot though, in the last year we were together. He made me feel more insecure within myself and as I was trying to fight my eating disorder I decided to break up with him, as he was triggering my anorexia more.
The things he did and said to me will never change how I feel, I love mark and I always will. I believe if he wants to he will change. I would take him back because he is the man I want to marry and have children with. I just want to spend the rest of my life with him. I know people think I'm just some little kid but I'm not, I know what I feel.

Tasha
xxx