Getting the hubby to get on this journey with me...

mandiemma

How do you get your significant other, who also needs to lose weight, to join you on the journey to health? I've been trying to get him on the healthy eating band wagon... I prepare every meal so it should be easy... however he is the king of sneaking chips and other "off limits" foods into the pantry(closet, dresser, etc.) when i'm not home...

I do not eat the crap he "hides", however, I would be a whole lot happier (and less carb crazy) if it wasn't in the house under my nose to being with...

What are your suggestions on getting your partner to join you?

BrettPGH

You'll make yourself nuts trying to force someone else to start losing weight. They really do need to make the decision on their own, only way it works.

But if you keep at it and he starts seeing your success there's a good chance he'll get on board. That works for a lot of people.

So just focus on you right now and hopefully he comes around. Good luck!

RDalton84

I just started showing my hubby the website and how easy it was to use and I guess through my excitement he decided to try it. I think once he realized it's not really a "diet" then he was on board. He started about 2 weeks after me and has lost almost 20 lbs. But I knew my hubby was unhappy with the way he looked and felt and it was taking a toll on his ability to do his job the way he wants to so he just needed a little encouraging.

mandiemma

You'll make yourself nuts trying to force someone else to start losing weight. They really do need to make the decision on their own, only way it works.

But if you keep at it and he starts seeing your success there's a good chance he'll get on board. That works for a lot of people.

So just focus on you right now and hopefully he comes around. Good luck!

Thanks... It's a very hard journey and I am going a little nuts (lol... not sure if that's the lowering of carbs or just going crazy in general) I do hope that he will see how hard I've been working and join me because I would like for us both to live a long healthy life together! :-)

mandiemma

I just started showing my hubby the website and how easy it was to use and I guess through my excitement he decided to try it. I think once he realized it's not really a "diet" then he was on board. He started about 2 weeks after me and has lost almost 20 lbs. But I knew my hubby was unhappy with the way he looked and felt and it was taking a toll on his ability to do his job the way he wants to so he just needed a little encouraging.

Lol I've tried showing him this site but he hates computers, phones, etc... In this day and age you'd think he'd be all over it... I can't even get him to sign up to Facebook... I'm happy that your guy joined you and hope one day mine will join me! :-) Good Luck!

southernyankee716

I agree with Brett. They're going to have to want it bad enough. I tried everything from being encouraging, motivating and supportive all the way making insulting comments like "you know those shirts don't come in a 4x "or "our sex life would be so much better if you lost weight too".

I started buying things that were healthier than what he was used to but not completely healthy. For instance, I would buy Trop50 Red Orange Juice and sugar free fudge pops. They're not the best but in my mind the orange juice was sweet enough to satisfy his soda craving and the sugar free fudge pops took the place of Little Debbie snacks.

Then, I showed him this: http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/kris-gethin-12-week-daily-trainer.html
Since then, he's been eating lean protein and veggies. He's stopped soda completely, rarely drinks the orange juice and he'll have sugar free jello instead of the fudge pops. Once a week we have a cheat day where we go out to eat and order anything we want. I was shocked that on our recent cheat day he chose a healthy option over his chicken finger sub.

Just stay positive! I know it's hard but I'm sure he'll eventually jump on the bandwagon, especially when he notices how well you're doing.

tamtamzz

Well, you cannot force someone to do something when they are not ready. Like my husband, this time around (because we have been on this merry go round many, many times) he said he was gonna get on the treadmill everyday, he was gonna start doing body weight workouts with me, blah, blah, blah. He came out f the gate blazing! He was one the treadmill, wouldn't eat a morsel of junk, it was awesome! Then the exercise dwindled down, and he went back to eating junk.

But you know what? That's his business and not mine. I just have to focus on what I'm doing and not let him derail me. he usually does the shopping so when he's talking about how he needs 'a little something sweet' I tell him, 'Well, make sure you pick up my protein powder and some oranges.' He sees me losing weight, running miles and having gains in the muscle department. He says, 'Gee, I need to start again.' I say, 'OK!' And start a workout. I don't nag, pressure or belittle him. He's simply not ready and when he is I'll be there for him, like always. What he does doesn't dictate what I do...we are married not joined at the hip.