Beeing polite

elekelk

The hardest thing is when people serve cakes and desserts to be nice and I really don't want to eat that. I usually try to eat little to be polite but it doesn't feel right. How do you do in those situations?

honeydoozy

As a serial-baker and aspiring pastry chef, I can totally understand. I'm throwing deliciously bad things at friends all the time (mostly to keep them out of MY kitchen/reach).

As a big girl, I'm also very aware of some folk's need to just say "no". Talk about conflict for me too! :laugh:

I think it's fine to politely decline a sweet treat, but if you feel like you need to do more to be "polite" - pay compliment to how delicious it *looks*, and explain that it's just not something that you can eat right now.

ElizabethRoad

If I don't want it, I just say no thank you. It hasn't been a problem.

slrrese

I am not a big dessert person and rarely eat them at all. If you are consistent and do that all the time then you will get a reputation of the one who "never" eats dessert and people won't take it personally; at least that is my hope. :-D

ElizabethRoad

I usually eat dessert but sometimes I don't. If anyone is going to get offended about what I eat then they need to deal with it. It's not rude to say no to food.

NikoM5

I usually say "Umm... I don't eat those kinds of things anymore, but you go right ahead". Ok, not really. I just stuff it in my pie hole and move on. Honestly, a cookie here or cupcake there isn't going to make a lick of difference unless it becomes a daily occurrence, by which point it's no longer an occurrence, but a poor diet.

j1wright

Ugh! I ran into this problem this weekend when I went to my Grandma's this weekend and she cooked this huge meal for me. I should have told her before I came that I was trying to watch what I was eating because I was trying to lose my baby weight but I didn't so I see it as my fault. I ate what I could and said no to what I could. I think there is a good balance of accepting the foods and declining the food.

ashnm88

I just say no thank you.

mrmanmeat

The hardest thing is when people serve cakes and desserts to be nice and I really don't want to eat that. I usually try to eat little to be polite but it doesn't feel right. How do you do in those situations?

I don't eat it.

I just simply say no thank you.

Why is that so hard for people these days?

Qarol

"No, thank you"

It's the "thank you" that makes it polite. :flowerforyou:

paulamarsden

i thought you were going to post something about people being polite on these forums?

i was going to tell you to dream on

AmberJslimsAWAY

The hardest thing is when people serve cakes and desserts to be nice and I really don't want to eat that. I usually try to eat little to be polite but it doesn't feel right. How do you do in those situations?

"Oh my! I couldn't take another bite! I am sooooo full!!" problem solved

tmoyer1209

I have that problem, too. In addition I also have a gluten intolerance and so have to question everything I eat like I am the Gestapo!! I am not fond of eating out anymore unless at a really close friend's house who cares enough to be considerate.

engineman312

i try and act all high and might, walk into the room where said horrible food is in, make a big show of not eating it, and then say "i don't eat that garbage" and walk out in a huff.

its weird, i'm not getting invited out for after work drinks anymore, but i think they're just jealous of me.

onedayillbamilf

I'm like a fly and land on it, eat it, then poop it out.

taso42

One time my friend gave me a tip to just take the cake and just mush it around with a fork for a while, to make it look like you ate some, then discard it. Less questions than if you flat out refuse the cake. *shrug*.

I can't really do this, because if I'm holding a plate of cake, it's gonna end up in my belly.

mooglysmom

As I am gluten free,.saying no has gotten... Easier, lol. But people don't always want to hear it! Just.be polite, and decline. Say you're full if need be. A lot of people get offended when you won't eat. I don't get that. My husband's grandfather is that way. Like what I eat at his house is directly related to how much I like him or not.

infamousmk

One time my friend gave me a tip to just take the cake and just mush it around with a fork for a while, to make it look like you ate some, then discard it. Less questions than if you flat out refuse the cake. *shrug*.

I can't really do this, because if I'm holding a plate of cake, it's gonna end up in my belly.

I couldn't do this because it's cake abuse.

Qarol

One time my friend gave me a tip

PurplePookie

i try and act all high and might, walk into the room where said horrible food is in, make a big show of not eating it, and then say "i don't eat that garbage" and walk out in a huff.

its weird, i'm not getting invited out for after work drinks anymore, but i think they're just jealous of me.

LOL! :laugh:

SiobhanDelaney

I'd be honest and say either yes please a sliver of whatever or i'd say, thanks for the thought but i'm only a healthy eating drive and i'm not going to ... Thank you so much. Job done. Or if i've a friend with me, i'd nudge her and say 'Want to share?'

TDGee

i thought you were going to post something about people being polite on these forums?

i was going to tell you to dream on

That stings. :flowerforyou:

MrsCon40

...Ok, not really. I just stuff it in my pie hole and move on. ...

Ok... if you'll excuse me for a moment I need to recover...

But really, OP, "no" means "no". Just be gracious if you feel you must decline.

CoryIda

I had to:

BEE polite, but you don't have to eat it if you really don't want to.
You can say, "No, thank you" or you can have a bite or two - it's not the end of the world. If you know you're going somewhere with treats, plan ahead.

Scott613