HELP!!!

lumina0o0

How do I get my husband to realize that he is not eating right? He eats whole cakes, pies, and Frozen yogurt cartons in one sitting. I've tried showing him what he's eating is not good. ie: we went out to lunch and the burger he got had 1146 calories in it and 3900+sodium. I've been telling him how many calories are in the dinners I make, I give him the same servings as what i'm eating. He thinks that because he's been losing weight going from an XL and 40inch waist band in pants when we started dating to a M and 36 pant, that he can eat what he wants. He eats these things in places of meals or really late at night. He's 5'10" and last weigh in he was 187lbs. I keep telling him that he is on his way to getting diabeites with the way hes eating, and he thinks I'm crazy because he's "thin"....now I'm no where close to being healthy, but I'm working on it so that I can set a good example for my kids...

Bikini27

Darlin', I feel your pain but no amount of telling him these things will make him change until he is ready. My brother is the same way and just does NOT want to listen to reason. So lead by example and love him through it. :flowerforyou:

meldry2000

I agree.. he has to WANT to get healthy on his own. And unless his doctor tells him that he has to change his habits, he probably will continue to eat the way that he does.. mostly because he can. Let him be. If he can maintain his weight eating the way that he does, he can consider himself lucky. And I'm jealous. I've never been able to eat what I want because of my weight or metabolism or genetics or whatever.
Don't "nag" him about his diet and I hope that he can be supportive in your weightloss efforts.

lumina0o0

Its great that he can stay thin that way, but I'm concerined that he's the "fat skinny". Eating this way he is building up fat around his oragens and in his arteries. The last time he went to the doctor his bad cholesterol was high. He's only 25.

bigbeardiver

The first heart attack usually works wonders to wake people up. Sadly enough dietary incompatibilities lead to great marital stress as well. If he has parents that are unhealthy they might be able to talk to him as well.

lumina0o0

his mom eats pretty good, would never eat a cake in one sitting...his dad isn't a part of his life...he's been taking care of himself for a while. When we first started dating he would get his own dinner because his mom wouldn't make anything to eat until like 11pm.

wftiger

You can't. He has to get there on his own the same way most of the people on this site did. I have been overweight all my adult (and most of my childhood) life. I had to get to this point no one could make me. They tried and I wouldn't listen.

There is really nothing you can do to change the way he eats away from home but you can change it at home but just not buying or cooking the items at all. I guess that doesn't help if he does the cooking and shopping and I probably shouldn't just assume you do that. If you do that, then don't bring it in the house. It is best to start your kids young so then they don't have to worry about losing weight or watching cholesterol when they get older.