any ex-alcoholics out there?

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wells0707
wells0707 Posts: 251 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Right now in my life I have 2 super heavy drinkers. To the point of neglecting family and kids. True alcoholics, that lie, smell, act stupid, and pass out. One of them actually ended up in the ER the other day for a .43 BAC. Crazy..I know. Took 2 days of detox for her to get out.

Anyway, I noticed how many ex-alcoholics are on this site and wanted to know...what was that day, moment, or event that made you decide to sober up? I would like to help these two, but nothing seems to work. Was there anything that somebody did or said that gave you that push?

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  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,809 Member
    . Was there anything that somebody did or said that gave you that push?

    nope. sadly, alcoholics (some anyway) are in denial. hopefully they will awake one day before its too late. the best you could do is avoid them and if they ask why, tell them you dont want to watch them kill themselves.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,301 Member
    Nobody ever declared I was an alcoholic but guess I probably was/am.
    So far have not had a drink since new years day and the main reason is too long to get into here but have reason to hope for a new beginning in life and drinking myself to an early grave didn`t fit in with that.
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    There is no such thing as an "Ex-Alcoholic" you are either an Alcoholic or not.

    I have to tell you that nothing you do or say will help them til they are ready, they have to find their own bottom to help themselves.

    If they are part of your family focus on you and go to Al-Anon.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,809 Member
    Nobody ever declared I was an alcoholic but guess I probably was/am.
    So far have not had a drink since new years day and the main reason is too long to get into here but have reason to hope for a new beginning in life and drinking myself to an early grave didn`t fit in with that.

    good for you. besides being a cliche, this really is true-

    "one day at a time"
  • wells0707
    wells0707 Posts: 251 Member
    I was afraid that is what I would hear. It's hard not having any control over situations that can't possibly end well. Thanks for the responses.
    BTW good job Carl on making that decision on your own.
  • wells0707
    wells0707 Posts: 251 Member

    If they are part of your family focus on you and go to Al-Anon.

    What is that?
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624

    If they are part of your family focus on you and go to Al-Anon.

    What is that?


    It's for family/friends that have an Alcoholic in their lives.

    It teaches you that you are powerless over the Alcoholic and helps you learn how to deal with yourself and the Active or Recovering Alcoholic. You can check it out online to see what it is all about. They have Al-Anon meeting just like AA meetings.
  • skylark94
    skylark94 Posts: 2,036 Member
    There is nothing you, or anyone else can say or do to push an alcoholic toward recovery. They have to want it for themselves.

    My dad lost his wife, his house, his dignity, and eventually his life to alcoholism. He died at age 62 of s liver hemorrhage. We tried for years to help him, but only ended up hurting ourselves. Take care of YOU.
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