How important is it?

rlv2680

How imprtant to you is it that the one your with, Bf/gf, wife/husband ect. supports you in you weight/fitness goals or shares the same kinds of interests?

spectralmoon

Not highly. I can manage by myself as long as I'm not being sabotaged along the way. It is a nice effort though when he does!

chevy88grl

Not very important. I lost weight and changed my life FOR ME - not for him.

He's naturally thin and has never had issues with his weight.

We have totally different goals at the gym. He can eat whatever he wants to eat, in whatever quantity he desires. I can eat whatever I want, but I have to be mindful of my portion sizes.

He has his goals. I have mine. I listen to him when he accomplishes something - like dead lifting 300lbs (when he only weighs 140lbs!) or whatever. He listens to me when I achieve a major goal. But, all in all.. we do our own thing.

FarmerNikki

It's absolutely vital. Over the almost seven years my husband and I have been together we've each separately tried to lose weight, work out more, or get healthier but we've failed because we didn't do it together and eventually gave up. For the last 2 1/2 months we've been working together, encouraging eachother and it's made such a difference. For the first time we're both losing weight, toning up, and transforming the way we eat, I love it!

PhilipByrne

Very important, not impossible to do it on your own but tougher. Bound to be lots of additional temptation too.

Shelby814

I think it would be helpful, but not mandatory for success. It is all about choices. We are all in charge of ourselves, our choices & the fork. I choose to make myself a priority. I schedule exercise into my life & eat what is right & healthy for me.

La_Amazona

I don't have a SO but for the future, I think it will be very important. I can't see myself with a couch potato. I actually LIKE to be active. I love hiking, jogging, the outdoors, etc. It just wouldn't work out with someone who rather go to the movies and eat out every weekend. It would get old very fast.

ItsMeRebekah

extremely important that he supports!! he doesn't have to want to do it with me but he has to encourage and be understanding.

dsckrc

during my 1st few months of weight loss, my husband wanted nothing to do with it. then i started getting positive attention and he suddenly jumped on the weightloss bandwagon eating better and even working out with me. now, over a year later, i'm still working out 5 days a week and eating healthy, while he's gone back to his old habits AND his old weight. it's hard to sit next to him at meals throughout the day because, for example, while i'm eating cottage cheese and pineapples, he's eating a sausage and cheese omelette with hashbrowns and buttery toast - or while i'm eating a little chicken salad on wheat bread, he's devouring a chicken fried steak with fried squash and mac 'n cheese with a buttery roll. wow, making myself salivate here anyways, to sum it up, you don't necessarily need the support of your spouse/loved one, but it sure helps when they attempt to eat as healthy as you. i'd like to think we're strong enough to go it alone... some of us HAVE to be

CheleLynn44

It is very important to me that my husband supports my new lifestyle, seeing as he is a part of it!! I decided to finally do this for me and my health, but having him there supporting me, walking with me, helping me plan meals, eating whatever I make without complaining, and just helping me is great!! My almost 13 yr old daughter is a huge cheerleaders of mine too!!

I see on here a lot people struggling to make meals that their families will eat, or having to cook two sometimes three meals and I thank God that I only cook one dinner everyday, that in itself is a huge help!! We all have been having so much fun finding new meals and sometimes cooking together I love it!

It's great that I know I could do this on my own, I'm just really glad I don't have to!!

KJVBear33

I don't see how it shouldn't be important to anyone..........it is VERY important for me.........my weight loss journey didn't get serious until now.........I have had a weight issue all my life being 250 pounds at a height of 5'0. My parents and my sister have stuck with me and supported me..........wanted me to get the weight off.........were even scared for me. Some moments, looking back, I even scared myself. Yet, it wasn't until this moment in time, that I truly started. Why? Who knows.........maybe I didn't look at myself and see the person I could be...........maybe looks and all did not matter but the true beauty inside and I still believe that to this day.........but it took a major life change for me in order to see it through.

I went from 257 to 237 since September of last year..........thats 20 pounds down and I am doing fantastic if I must say so myself. Honestly though, I don't think I could have made it without the support behind me. Granted, I am not in a relationship........but if I was, I'd still know I was doing the weight loss thing for me and ME alone........not for my guy. BUT that isn't to mean that I wouldn't care whether he supports me or not.........the fact is that if he truly loved me the way I did him, that he would fully support me and be behind me 100 percent. To know people care THAT much for you is a true gift.........and I say that if he won't support me, he's out the door.

I feel that that is one of the main components of every relationship really.........does he/she support me? Not just with having a job, doing what I love to do, or when I want to try something new.......but with fitness and a healthy lifestyle too.

njean888

I think its very important. I think my husband and I have even grown apart because not only is he inactive and cares nothing about his health or apperance but now he gives me an attitude when I want to eat something specific or when he sees me running he rolls his eyes. I can't control the fact that he doesn't care about himself but I shouldn't have to deal with his attitude either.

rlv2680

Well, my boyfriend doesn't support me at all and actually complains when i want to workout all the time and tells me to eat "real food" when i'm eating healthy. He sleeps all day and would never do anything that requires him to be active.
It just makes me wonder what it would be like to be with someone has some kind of interest in fitness and nutrition.
I know i can do it by myself but in the long run, i want to be healthy and active for the rest of my life and it would be nice to have a partner who is the same. Im not saying we have to have the same goals or anything but maybe a little support or realization that i am doing this for me and it makes me happy.

therealangd

Not very important. I'm doing this for me.

That being said, I would never except negative comments or blatently discouraging remarks.

rlv2680

I think its very important. I think my husband and I have even grown apart because not only is he inactive and cares nothing about his health or apperance but now he gives me an attitude when I want to eat something specific or when he sees me running he rolls his eyes. I can't control the fact that he doesn't care about himself but I shouldn't have to deal with his attitude either.

yup that's what i am going through

CharityEaton

Not important. The responsibility is yours to make the changes. While having your SO on board is a huge advantage it can also be a bit annoying when they are not trying to achieve the same goals(or ANY goals for that matter) as you are.

If you are on MFP it is very easy to find some support from other like-minded people that are in the exact same place as you are.

My husband has been amazing through this journey but even HE can't give me ALL the support I need because he is not trying to lose weight or anything right now. He's fine with where he is so it makes it very hard for him to understand all of my frustrations from time to time.....plus he gets tired of hearing about all the nutrition and exercise talk.

Even some of your closest friends will fade in and out along the journey even if they are trying to get fit as well. There comes times when your goals are different from each other. That's what makes MFP so great. You can find people that are focusing on the same things and for a few weeks/months you may really connect with one person and then the next month that person is focused on something different so you may connect more with someone else BUT everyoneon here is here for the same reason...to get fit!
For my husband, he knows he can't be my only support, no matter how hard he tries he just doesn't get it all day every day but he still encourages me and hugs me when I have a melt down, and tells me that he has always loved me even 35 pounds ago!

mskari77

Being supportive is very important, no matter what you're doing. They don't have to join in, but they should be behind you 100%. When my husband started his journey two years, I wasn't (as) over weight, so I didn't join him at the gym, but I encouraged him everyday. In those 2 years, I put on 35#. I blame him during his bulking phase with all the late night snacking I joined him in! :laugh: Even now that we both go to the gym, we have completely different goals, but we still encourage and support one another every step of the way.
Try being open with him about how his discouragement makes you feel. Maybe he isn't aware he is being quite so cynical towards your efforts.

chevy88grl

I don't see how it shouldn't be important to anyone..........it is VERY important for me.........my weight loss journey didn't get serious until now.........I have had a weight issue all my life being 250 pounds at a height of 5'0. My parents and my sister have stuck with me and supported me..........wanted me to get the weight off.........were even scared for me. Some moments, looking back, I even scared myself. Yet, it wasn't until this moment in time, that I truly started. Why? Who knows.........maybe I didn't look at myself and see the person I could be...........maybe looks and all did not matter but the true beauty inside and I still believe that to this day.........but it took a major life change for me in order to see it through.

I went from 257 to 237 since September of last year..........thats 20 pounds down and I am doing fantastic if I must say so myself. Honestly though, I don't think I could have made it without the support behind me. Granted, I am not in a relationship........but if I was, I'd still know I was doing the weight loss thing for me and ME alone........not for my guy. BUT that isn't to mean that I wouldn't care whether he supports me or not.........the fact is that if he truly loved me the way I did him, that he would fully support me and be behind me 100 percent. To know people care THAT much for you is a true gift.........and I say that if he won't support me, he's out the door.

I feel that that is one of the main components of every relationship really.........does he/she support me? Not just with having a job, doing what I love to do, or when I want to try something new.......but with fitness and a healthy lifestyle too.

My boyfriend supports me, but it isn't vitally important that he understand my journey as I do not completely understand his. He doesn't know what it is like to fight your weight and I do not know what it is like to consume large amounts of food and not gain a pound.

So, no. We don't "get" what the other person is going through.

He eats what he wants to eat and I eat what I want to eat. He does his thing at the gym and I do mine. He loves me for me - regardless of the number on the scale. He knows that I am doing this for me and for my health.

kit_katty

I'm currently single, but in a future SO, it would be really important to me to have someone who also wanted to be healthy, enjoyed working out, running, etc. But who could also enjoy the occasional dish of "light" fettuccine alfredo without having a fit.

Ephena

I think it's very important that they be supportive and it would be awesome if they have similar attitudes towards food and fitness.

The guy I'm currently seeing is super supportive of me and will even offer to work out with me. He's also very aware of what he eats which helps support me in how I eat. He's trying to gain weight as he wants to build muscle where as I'm trying to lose weight. Because he likes to eat healthy I don't have to worry about him giving me grief for eating healthy but he also knows how to enjoy an occasional treat.

dubw

We have been supporting each other in our entire married life ... maybe that's why we are still together 44 years later.

deniserenee_02

My husband wants me skinnier, but I'm doing it for myself and my daughter so she doesn't have to go through the same problems and I am.

JeSuisPrest

It's not important at all.....this is all me!!!

misskerouac

Ti's important to be supportive of one another but i don't think they have to have similar interests. My husband played football all through high-school and jr. college and was in VERY good shape. Then after that he had NO interest in working out. He is still slender (that's just his build) but he smokes a pack a day, eats crap food (except dinner because I cook) and has no interest in being active. I make little remarks here and there that "thank god we have mortgage insurance" as he's eating 2 big macs.

sagetracey

This has been a major life change for me and there is no way I could have or would have wanted to do this without the total support of my DH. He has been my champion throughout from eating choices to exercising together. Not only have I lost weight and become fitter and healthier, not only has he toned up and become fitter and healthier, but we are closer because we are doing this together. This is a man who still weighs the same healthy 73-75kg he did on the day we married almost 28 years ago.

Getting healthy has given us more activities to do together, walking, cycling, swimming, dancing. It has helped us to make the transition to empty nesters - happy empty nesters! And it has given us a renewed focus on our lives together.

Definitely very important to have the support of your SO!

SexyCook

I think it is important...especially being that this is a lifestyle and it IS NOT going anywhere....I feel like your spouse or significant other don't have to do it but support the idea...Also I find that once they see the progress they jump on board...At least my honey did....

LorinaLynn

The support I get is wonderful, but he's just barely interested in exercising, and it's my #1 hobby at the moment. It's not important that we don't share the all the same hobbies because we share enough other interests.

Scott613

If I don't get a WTG or GOOD JOB comment after I tell her what I just did, I punch her taco! Not kick but punch!

kwest_4_fitness

Considering we both embarked on this change together, it's very important. Now that it's just us, we do all kinds of stuff together. If we bought kayaks and all of a sudden he decided not to be active, that would suck *kitten*. And vice versa. He's my support system and I hope that I'm his. How wonderful it is to be able to talk to him about exercise and nutrition and how I feel about my progress and have him be able to actively participate in the conversation.

MsQt

Well, my boyfriend doesn't support me at all and actually complains when i want to workout all the time and tells me to eat "real food" when i'm eating healthy. He sleeps all day and would never do anything that requires him to be active.
It just makes me wonder what it would be like to be with someone has some kind of interest in fitness and nutrition.
I know i can do it by myself but in the long run, i want to be healthy and active for the rest of my life and it would be nice to have a partner who is the same. Im not saying we have to have the same goals or anything but maybe a little support or realization that i am doing this for me and it makes me happy.

I'm in a similar situation except he don't lay around all day. It would be much easier if I could add him to my support system but chances are slim to none.

getfitdiva

In the long term relationship it does become important to prolong your success and it also makes your life easier. If one partner does not jump on board their goals are different and they are each other's opposition after a while. Either one person will not join the healthy lifestyle just to prove a point, stubborn, lazy, you name it and that may cause resentment. It may take a while for the other person to jump on the bandwagon but for a long term healthy relationship it becomes important. It's your lifestyle!