Help! Advice Needed on What to Say to This Guy Please!

Metamorphasis555

Thank you very much for your input everyone. I really appreciate it!

janograf

i never turn down a date unless i'm positively not interested. you will either:
a) find no chemistry between the two of you
b) go on more dates but realize it's not going to work out
c) discover a really decent guy who's into you, too

unless he's a psychotic creepy stalker, there's nothing to lose! i've been on numerous blind dates. the bad ones could make funny "horror" stories to tell your friends, and sometimes you even make a good friend out of the ones that don't work out. i have yet to find "c", and until i do, i'm just going to experience and learn more about the whole dating process (without becoming jaded, of course). i hope this helps you!

Dilfster

for what its worth im a guy and thought his reaction was standoffish and not cool.

jamilla77

The right person does not always come along when you are ready, or when it is convenient. Have faith in yourself that you can manage your health, and date a possibly great guy, at the same time.

Isn't that the truth! Ok...I am not on facebook but do know exactly where you are coming from! I am the exact same way! While it does seem to be a "what have you got to lose, go out with him" it's not that easy. However, you can never have too many friends and maybe that is what he will end up being! Maybe more...you will have to meet him to know for sure. I had a friend that wanted me to meet her brother-in-law. I was in NO mental state to try and date anyone...I'm too fat, I'm not pretty, No one could love me (or even like me) the way I am now. I kept telling her no, no, no. Then after a few months of her harrassing me about it. I decided that "you can never have too many friends and since I know the rest of the family and hang out with them often, why not at least meet him...I woulda eventually anyway, why not on my own terms. So I did, she was just thrilled! Little did I know that 7 months later we would be married. I had been single for more than 4 years when I met my husband. I had sworn off men (relationships) all together. I don't regret 1 day of our 5 year relationship! I still feel the same way about myself some days, but he loves me for who I am not what I look like!

skygoddess86

Be honest, first if you're not ready why are you on the dating sites? And no reason not to say that you are concentrating on getting in shape/losing weight before you jump in to dating. Would be rather telling to get his response to that right?

She did mention it was Facebook...I have "Facebook friends" that I've gotten to know online through other friends or mutual interests, but we have not actually met in person...a little different than the dating sites...

Der, Ok I missed that somehow.