Dragons, good men, and other mythical creatures...

anzabeth

I put this in my blog. But not a lot of people read it and I really wanted to get some feedback, especially from the men on this site. What do you think?

This weekend I had a conference for work. I generally enjoy these conferences, because our staff is spread all over the state working in the field and we only get together a couple of times a year. It is time to socialize, refresh, catch-up, network, and bounce ideas off of others. Our job can be kind of lonely because there are generally just a few of us in each area and most of us work from home offices and our cars.

So, there is this guy who has been a pretty good friend to me for a couple of years. He is super smart, hot, funny, just all around good guy. I have always had a tremendous amount of respect for him personally and professionally. Last year, his wife had an affair. He was devastated. But he thought his marriage was worth saving, worked hard to understand what their relationship was lacking, tried to be a better husband, and forgave her. They are still together.

Friday night, a group of us went out for dinner (Ruth's Chris steakhouse - not even going to try to count those calories!). During the conversation, I revealed that my husband had left me before Christmas. Being a good friend, this guy and I ended up having a really long conversation later at the bar. He told me that I was beautiful and deserved someone to love me and only me. And that there were men out there who valued marriage and monogamy. That there were men who didn't expect their mates to look like magazine models and valued a woman with curves and battle scars. He said that somewhere out there is a man going through his own personal hell and wondering where the women like me are. That it isn't too late for true love for me. That there is someone out there especially for me. We spent a couple of hours talking and laughing - and I felt very encouraged - like maybe there are good men out there who are willing to make sacrifices and work hard on their relationships and marriages.

And then, he asked me to spend the night with him.

I didn't of course. Because he is married. And I know what it feels like to be cheated on and I don't want to cause that kind of pain to anyone else in this world. But I would be lying if I said that I wasn't at least tempted. He is hot, and smart, and fun. And, at first I felt special and sexy. But then it slowly sunk in. I am not special. I am vulnerable. And he was using that vulnerability to try and take advantage of me. I thought he was one of the good guys. I really did. And he's not. My judgment is so skewed that I can't trust it. So, if he's not - are there any out there? Are there faithful men who really value their wives and their commitment? Are they all religous? Because I'm not and don't want a mate who is. Is there any hope for a 41 year old mother of 3 who is an optimist about love? I don't know.

Helloitsdan

Us married people always look at the fairy tale lives.....

I've been married for 14 years, 16 together, and since i've been getting in shape I do get the looks now.
It makes it hard sometimes!
Stay true to yourself and youll be true to others!

Hugs!

bbbgamer

Yes, there is ALWAYS hope. Be true to yourself and your values and respect yourself. Someone that has the same will notice. Sometimes things take longer than we would like but do hang in there!