I need a woman's help about my wife's birthday.

BIGJIMMYU

My wife's birthday is coming up. She hates going to the gym and would rather exercise at home. I prefer the gym. She uses our treadmill at home but gets bored with it. When she did go to the gym she loved the eliptical. Would it be a good idea to get her one for her birthday or would I be calling her fat? Quite a touchy area....touchy indeed.

msracefan

Boy that can be a touchy area...but if you think she'll use the elitical at home, I'd say go for it! Let us know what the outcome is!

lmelangley

If it were me, I'd love the eliptical. But, you may want to ask one of your wife's closest friends what they think. Everyone is different.

Jesea

My husband bought me a Bowflex Treadclimber (used) to use here at home because having little ones can make it difficult to get to the gym, and I love it. That being said, however, it was not tied to my birthday or other occasion. Maybe you could buy her something like a gift certificate for a massage or manicure as her birthday gift, but buy the elliptical for the both of you?

amuhlou

My gut says no... just to be safe. Maybe you can get the elliptical later as an 'anniversary' gift or something? That way it is more a 'for both of us' type gift.

HeidiMightyRawr

You say she's rather exercise at home, but does she actually exercise regularly at home, or just prefer it to the gym?

If she does exercise regularly I'd say go for it! I mean, I don't know her like you do, but personally I wouldn't take it as a sign I'm overweight. I'd just appreciate the thought

deadbeatsummer

I think it's worth dropping hints to test the waters.. it could be taken very badly..

Maybe just get her a spa voucher, most women would like to relax on their birthday, and I can imagine if that was me I'd be embarassed to tell my girlfriends that my other half bought me an exercise machine. Maybe it's something to purchase together for a non birthday present.

bellevie23

mmm..unless she is hardcore into getting in shape and expresses her wishing she had one at home, I probably wouldn't do it for her birthday.

bellevie23

I would prob go the sweet route and get her a spa day or make her a nice meal..Im pretty sure most women just want a break LOL. Especially being a mom, a day to pamper herself would prob go a long way.

Pepper2185

Why not ask her? Then she could help pick it out

I would be super happy if my husband bought me an elliptical, and no, I wouldn't think he was hinting that I was fat.

ANeWcRe8N

Is it something she has been wanting or mentioned getting before? If so I don't see why it wouldn't be a good gift. I don't know your wife, but if it were me I would be happy my husband bought me something that would help me get my work out on at home.

LorinaLynn

I'm a ridiculously practical woman, so I'd prefer if my husband asked me before making a purchase like that.

Plus, even as a ridiculously practical woman... I think birthday gifts should be fun... like a compound miter saw.

Caffeine_Addict

I dunno why tying it to a special occasion makes it a bad/insulting gift but that seems to be what sitcoms suggest. Maybe get her something else for her bday and buy the "household" an elliptical another time?

VeganPanda

Personally, I'd rather get practical gifts, so I would LOVE to get that, no matter the occasion. But since everyone is different, if money allows, I would get her that along with something more birthday gift-y. Lol.

swilk627

This is one of those times I'd ask her and avoid the surprise. I'd say "Here's what I was wanting to get your for your birthday but I wanted to make sure you'd like it first....." That gives her a chance to be honest and still shows your thoughtfulness.

Aerohead21

I think it depends on her fitness goals. If she is committed, try getting her a dance game for the Wii or Xbox if you have those things. Otherwise, if she is less into fitness and you are worried about offending her, stay away from weight loss things and get her something else.

42micheller42

Sorry friend but if you think she would like a piece of exercise equipment just BUY it ..don't make it a gift PUHLEEEZE!!!
And while I am at it : NO pots and pans .. NO vacuums ... NO cleaning or kitchen gadgets .. sorry ...just buy it for her if she NEEDS it .. a girl should get a gift out of love not necessity...go online and research "romantic birthday gifts"...a little goes a long way believe me.

Twylyght

This post me me laugh a little because for my birthday one year I told my husband that I wanted a workout game for the wii....that's all I told him I wanted!! He still spent an hour or more in the store trying to decide if I would think he was calling me fat!! :laugh:

It really depends on your wife and how her attitude is towards things like this. If you think she will take it negatively...maybe wait a couple of weeks and go and pick it out together. If she feels negatively about it, she would be less likely to use it, I think. Just an idea....good luck :happy:

PrincessLou71186

My hubby bought one for me for my birthday as he knew I wanted to get in shape but wouldn't go to the gym. I now have gym membership because I fell in love with working out.

If she will appreciate it, I say get it for her.

57rainbows

If you do end up getting it for her birthday, you have to make sure you also do some really good romantic things! You don't have to spend a lot of money on the other things, but it's important so she knows how much thought you put into it and how much you love her. Maybe even send her on a scavenger hunt and set up the elliptical while she's out and one of the clues could be on it? Write a poem, make a list of things you love about her, etc etc. Some people are fine with practical gifts, but EVERYONE needs to know how much their spouse cherishes them.

niknak0508

I would personally be on cloud 9 if my BF bought me an elliptical for my home!! I wouldn't take it as "being fat"....but as him helping me get healthy and where I want to be in life..........of course.......as many have said, everyone is different. If you have even a slight thought that she might get upset, I would agree with some others and buy is as a "for both of us" gift later on.....and find something like a gift certificate or something for her B'Day!

xXKatrinaXx

If I was into the elliptical and didnt like the gym, i would love it if my husband bought me one for my birthday.

bulletprooff

My husband bought me a Bowflex Treadclimber (used) to use here at home because having little ones can make it difficult to get to the gym, and I love it. That being said, however, it was not tied to my birthday or other occasion. Maybe you could buy her something like a gift certificate for a massage or manicure as her birthday gift, but buy the elliptical for the both of you?

I agree with this. If you have any doubt that it'll be offensive then don't risk it. Give her something small to TREAT herself (manicure, spa, present) but get the elliptical for both of you so you can spend more time together working out at home.

shanahan_09

I'd put that idea on hold until you know for sure, lol. A spa gift certificate is always a great idea (manicure, pedi, facial). Ler her get spoiled and pampered on her birthday. Maybe get the elliptical as a "just because' gift. Surprise her with it in a couple of months. I love it when hubby gets me something out of the blue...usually it's just a Tim Hortons coffee, though! :bigsmile:

lewandt

I think it is an awesome gift! My husband knows i love getting things like that. Especially because i would not buy one for myself because of the cost.

But i think you would know better than us if she would take it wrong.

mooglysmom

My husband says you should buy it, but get something else (something FUN) and call that her present. The elliptical... because you thought she'd like it since she prefers to work out at home.

Myself? I'd LOVE it if my husband bought me an elliptical for my birthday (as he's reading this over my shoulder, lol... hint hint hint). But, I don't want to work out in the basement, and we really don't have anywhere to put it .

Laoch_Cailin

My husband bought me a treadmill for my birthday and I was delighted. But then I was already trying to loss weight and was complaining about not always being able to get out for a walk with the kids.

Ask your wife would she like one, let her pick it, then get her a small surprise gift like bunch of flowers. .....or go the surprise way, if she doesn't like it you can send it on to me :flowerforyou: hehe

Takes2long

I'm a ridiculously practical woman, so I'd prefer if my husband asked me before making a purchase like that.

Plus, even as a ridiculously practical woman... I think birthday gifts should be fun... like a compound miter saw.

LMAO!!!! I got a compound miter saw one year as an anniversary gift!!! Absloute truth!!!

If it's really touchy subject, I'd take her out to dinner, or shopping, or where ever, and just 'happen' to stop by the store where you'd be buying the machine. Let her look, see what she says. You could always say it's only part of her gift, but you wanted her to get what she wanted. Then get her something else, like a massage, or something. Hope it goes well for you!

GretaJane

Why not ask her? Then she could help pick it out

I would be super happy if my husband bought me an elliptical, and no, I wouldn't think he was hinting that I was fat.

^^ This

manderson27

If husband buys me "practical" :grumble: he better have a "romantic" to follow. A nice piece of jewellery perhaps?

Birthdays are special, buy the practical together at other times. But every woman is different so I am probably not helping much sorry.:flowerforyou:

SandersWifey

IDK I wanted a treadmill for months and my husband got me one as a present and it's exactly what I wanted. If she is the type of person that wouldn't take it offensively, I say get it for her!