Unreasonable People!

BaileyBoo13524
BaileyBoo13524 Posts: 593 Member
edited November 11 in Health and Weight Loss
It makes me so sad that so many people on here are still looking for that magic pill or diet that will make them lose weight! It's so sad that people do not really want to put in the work to make a LIFESTYLE change! People are constantly looking for something or someone to tell them that losing weight and eating right is easy. Well news flash it's not! You've got to put in the work...you've got to eat right and exercise! I am so grossed out reading about people who are trying crap like HCG, Atkin's, eating 1200 calories a day and burning 2000 at the gym, or an all liquid diet. This is SO bad for our bodies! UGH I just had to rant I wish more people would be reasonable and do this journey the right way instead of harming themselves!
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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I agree. But there are a lot of people here who are committed to losing weight in a healthy way.
  • SafireBleu
    SafireBleu Posts: 881 Member
    I had someone say to me ,"Holy smokes you lost a lot of weight! What's the secret?" When I told them what I was doing she said "Oh, that's too much work. I don't want to have to track what I eat and exercise. There is a pill coming out soon." Umm yeah okay. Remember what happened with the last "magic" pill.
  • sandown12
    sandown12 Posts: 648 Member
    Im quiet down today as I have really stuck at this and been so active and looks like Ive not lost then I have someone tell me its my sodium and my diary etc,my sodiums fine and I eat healthy stick to it 100% they actually eat hardly any real foods have protein sake a small salad and a protien bar = 950 calories?
    I cant understand why people lecture us when they arent doing this right they arent learning healthy eating They arent eating ?
  • tistal
    tistal Posts: 869 Member
    Good post. They are looking for a quick fix or, in my moms case, accuse you of not eating because there is no way you could have lost weight that fast!
  • EmDrake13
    EmDrake13 Posts: 27 Member
    One of my favourite things about the 10 pounds I've lost so far is that I did it the healthy way. No gimmicks, no pills, just hard work and smart choices. And I'm so proud of myself, and that's something you don't get out of a bottle.
  • mjbrenner
    mjbrenner Posts: 222 Member
    It makes me so sad that so many people on here are still looking for that magic pill or diet that will make them lose weight! It's so sad that people do not really want to put in the work to make a LIFESTYLE change! People are constantly looking for something or someone to tell them that losing weight and eating right is easy. Well news flash it's not! You've got to put in the work...you've got to eat right and exercise! I am so grossed out reading about people who are trying crap like HCG, Atkin's, eating 1200 calories a day and burning 2000 at the gym, or an all liquid diet. This is SO bad for our bodies! UGH I just had to rant I wish more people would be reasonable and do this journey the right way instead of harming themselves!

    It is not really cool to lump Atkins in with HCG, ultra calorie restriction, and other unhealthy approaches. Please educate yourself on a topic before you discourage others from it. While Atkins is not for everyone, it is an eating strategy that focuses on consuming whole foods and a reasonable quantity of carbohydrates. The amount of carbs consumed on Atkins is lower than what many people eat, but it is not at all within any sort of danger range for most people.

    Please become educated before you speak out on a topic. It can harm others if you do not.
  • LPinTheD
    LPinTheD Posts: 129
    Instant gratification, and the "drive-thru" mentality... It's the American way. Unfortunately.
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
    It is incredibly annoying.

    My sister wants to lose 20lbs and she said she's always hungry, so i explained she is always hungry because her diet is filled up with crap and tons of carb with very little protein or anything else nutritious(she eats out a lot). So i explained to her if she cooked at home more and ate more lean mean, veggies, fruit, etc. she wouldn't feel hungry all the time and the weight would start coming off. I also lent her my 30 day shred DVD and showed her MFP.

    Instead of following my advice she goes out and buys Hydroxycut.................i considered punching her in the face...
  • grinch031
    grinch031 Posts: 1,679
    It makes me so sad that so many people on here are still looking for that magic pill or diet that will make them lose weight! It's so sad that people do not really want to put in the work to make a LIFESTYLE change! People are constantly looking for something or someone to tell them that losing weight and eating right is easy. Well news flash it's not! You've got to put in the work...you've got to eat right and exercise! I am so grossed out reading about people who are trying crap like HCG, Atkin's, eating 1200 calories a day and burning 2000 at the gym, or an all liquid diet. This is SO bad for our bodies! UGH I just had to rant I wish more people would be reasonable and do this journey the right way instead of harming themselves!

    It is not really cool to lump Atkins in with HCG, ultra calorie restriction, and other unhealthy approaches. Please educate yourself on a topic before you discourage others from it. While Atkins is not for everyone, it is an eating strategy that focuses on consuming whole foods and a reasonable quantity of carbohydrates. The amount of carbs consumed on Atkins is lower than what many people eat, but it is not at all within any sort of danger range for most people.

    Please become educated before you speak out on a topic. It can harm others if you do not.

    This. Some "diet" plans are better/healthier than others. I think a liquid diet for sustained weight loss is nonsense but Atkins is legitimate. The OP makes it sound like there is only one proper way to lose weight, perhaps its the MFP way but I don't know exactly what she's saying.
  • hope516
    hope516 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Instant gratification, and the "drive-thru" mentality... It's the American way. Unfortunately.

    yup
  • muddyventures
    muddyventures Posts: 360 Member
    I know peope who needed the instant quick loss, because they'd let themselves go so far, I can think of three off hand. The three who are likely exceptions to the rule, used the kick start adn then maintained and continued loss with diet and exercise.

    I personally struggle with the other handful of dieters I know that just continue to yo-yo, but quite truthfully I've dieted with controlled food and exercise at least three times in my 16 married years and have yet to make the 'internal' changes that are needed to maintain. I see it both ways, I guess.
  • Instant gratification, and the "drive-thru" mentality... It's the American way. Unfortunately.

    Exactly...you are always going to have those that want the short cut. Eating right and working out is a lot of HARD work. For those of us that put in the time and effort we will see results. Those that don't will still be scratching their heads a year from now still wondering how we do it.
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    We live in a society where we are taught that we need to have things NOW and FAST and RIGHT AWAY.
    Some people have difficulty accepting that in reality, things aren't easily done that way.

    On the other hand, though, there are plenty of people on here that are working hard and have committed to that lifestyle change.
  • JennW130
    JennW130 Posts: 460 Member
    I agree. But there are a lot of people here who are committed to losing weight in a healthy way.
    yeah, I haven't seen tons of people trying to take an easy way out. I would say the majority are trying to do it healthy.
  • My favorite is when people tell you they would "DO ANYTHING" to lose weight........and my follow up is "I know, I 'm sure you would, except diet and exercise!!" That usually ends it.............
  • csparon
    csparon Posts: 200 Member
    It makes me so sad that so many people on here are still looking for that magic pill or diet that will make them lose weight! It's so sad that people do not really want to put in the work to make a LIFESTYLE change! People are constantly looking for something or someone to tell them that losing weight and eating right is easy. Well news flash it's not! You've got to put in the work...you've got to eat right and exercise! I am so grossed out reading about people who are trying crap like HCG, Atkin's, eating 1200 calories a day and burning 2000 at the gym, or an all liquid diet. This is SO bad for our bodies! UGH I just had to rant I wish more people would be reasonable and do this journey the right way instead of harming themselves!

    The way I see it, I didn't gain all this weight overnight, it's unreasonable to expect I will lose it that fast. People are just impatient, unmotivated and feeling sorry for themselves. It's annoying seeing them mope about how they're not losing weight yet they're eating Dunkin' Donuts, McDonalds, Zaxby's [Insert other restaurants here] and not exercising. But, eventually they will get it.
  • papastu
    papastu Posts: 737 Member
    annoying isnt it, all these quick fix gimmicks
  • IveLanded
    IveLanded Posts: 797 Member
    I COMPLETELY AGREE. I didn't join this site until AFTER I'd already started and been a little successful and I wasn't successful until I just buckled down and committed to doing this. And like the cliche says, it's not a diet, it's a lifestyle change. But so many folks look at it as "I just have to eat XXX way until I lose the weight then I can go back to normal" and wonder why they never keep the weight off.

    I can see how Atkins can be lumped in there.......most people I know who use it do the same as they do with any other "diet"........it's just a temporary quick fix, not a lifestyle change. I can see how it is a valid life choice.........but most people just don't use it like that. Most people want to start Atkins/Hydroxycut/The Zone/P90X/30DS and see miraculous results in ridiculous short times with little effort........and then they want to go back to their "old" life, but stay fit and thin. Some of those may be valid forms to change your life.......but hardly anyone actually uses them that way.
  • loombeav
    loombeav Posts: 391 Member
    One of my favorite things about the 10 pounds I've lost so far is that I did it the healthy way. No gimmicks, no pills, just hard work and smart choices. And I'm so proud of myself, and that's something you don't get out of a bottle.
    ITA! I've done all the fad diets and there was no true sense of accomplishment or pride. When people would ask how I lost the weight I was embarrassed to tell them the truth.
    Now I am doing it the healthy/right way and I have no problem telling anyone that asks me that I'm eating healthy, balanced foods, logging and tracking my intake and workout like a beast. Not only is this lifestyle sustainable, but since I've worked my a^s off to get to this point I am much more dedicated to continuing.
  • helenoftroy1
    helenoftroy1 Posts: 638 Member
    please don't shoot me but....

    Everyone says it's not easy to lose weight and that if it was everyone would be doing it

    I disagree. I've been doing this almost a year and in my humble opinion I would say I have found Atkins, starvation, liquid diets, cabbage soup diet and god knows what else I have tried harder.
    I find this really easy and that's why I have kept it up. And I think the majority on here find it easy.

    I don't think I've just lost weight, I have actually found the spiritual side of me as well (corny as that sounds).

    I think maybe we're not telling it the right way. I know I have come across this. One of my real life friends is doing weight watchers so I said well have a look at this site and maybe do it in conjunction, it's got a great community feel about it. She catagorically said no. Weight Watchers was the way for her. It would hold her accountable blah blah blah. I was like that's fine but you may as well look at this site. It's free! No was the answer. Each to their own.
    My other friend is doing something called Turbo Training and has lost 8 lbs in 2 weeks. She asked if I wanted to join her and I said I would look into the workouts but I'm happy with my progress on here. 50lbs by April 12th is my goal.

    I do say each to their own. I am a true firm believer in MFP. Saved my life. 95% of those who try fad diets will be right back where they started. But then hey I will be there 50lbs lighter to tell them again about MFP right?! That time it may work?! Fingers crossed! :tongue:
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    Sometimes doing those crash diets IS a part of the journey. It's a learning process. Can you say that before your lifestyle change, you didn't believe (or want to believe) or try any of those other things?

    It takes awhile for people to really come to terms and hit rock bottom with their unhealthy habits - and some never do. I'm not a supporter of any of the "magic pills" or other "quick weight dropping" solutions, but I understand people need to arrive to this place in their own time and in their own way.

    It took me a long time before I finally settled into REALLY committing to where I am now. I imagine it will be the same for others. Perhaps it took less for you. Good for you. But I'd be careful before judging everyone else so harshly. They just don't know yet.

    EDIT:
    Oh and on a side note, it's funny, because everyone has different ideas of what the "healthy" way of losing weight is. We're all different and what works for you may not work for others. I don't think there is any one "RIGHT" way of doing it. Just figure out works for you.
  • My favorite is when people tell you they would "DO ANYTHING" to lose weight........and my follow up is "I know, I 'm sure you would, except diet and exercise!!" That usually ends it.............

    I know I am my own worst enemy when it comes to weight and diet and all that. My personal weight issues are a little bit of everything...genetics, being raised by bad examples, chronic illness and hormonal issues (reduced Leptin), and depression and fatigue at times, among other things. I also have a digestive disorder that makes finding whole nutritious foods that do not make me sick a pretty outrageous adventure.

    All that aside, I know it takes work, I am willing to put in work. My problem has often been not getting the support. Whether it is family members who insist on leaving their high-fat, high-sugar (high-temptation) snacks all over the house and would rather order out than eat in, friends who have obnoxious metabolisms and don't seem to need to watch their diet or even lift a finger to be fit and trim, significant others (who could stand to lose a few as well) who would rather sit around and watch tv (like I wouldn't?) than take a walk and help me feel not so alone on the journey...it makes it feel rather pointless at times.

    But my biggest pet peeve, honestly, is hearing doctors say "you need to lose weight. Eat right and exercise..." and nothing else. I really don't think Americans as a whole are given the tools anymore to understand good nutrition and be able to provide it for themselves. Maybe it should be "common sense" or whatever, but it isn't. At 28, I needed a good nutritionist to sit down and help me find alternatives to my worst food cravings, foods that wouldn't bother my stomach, help me learn how to pick out the freshest and best produce, different ways to cook and enjoy food and cooking... the eating and moving is not hard once you make a commitment to do it...but feeling confident and knowledgeable enough to try is a bigger hurdle for some than many realize.
  • QueenJayJay
    QueenJayJay Posts: 1,079 Member
    I agree. But there are a lot of people here who are committed to losing weight in a healthy way.

    Yes. I think these people outnumber the ones the OP is referring to.
  • misticache
    misticache Posts: 364 Member
    Well I guess I am one of those people that make you sad. I can see it from both angles. I struggle daily to stay committed. I have searched high and low for magic, and actually have done the liquid lemon/pepper drinks. ick. But I don't hold it against anyone who tries dieting in their own way because even though you're right these things don't work we still feel there has to be some easy way out.

    At some point though reality will sink in for these people (and me) and they will be truthful with themselves and either bite the bullet and eat right and exercise or they won't. And if any of you know someone like this personally then all you can do is continue to encourage them and be an example. A lot of people who have gained excess weight have a hard time just starting. I know I did. I had to jump-start myself by going to the extreme and sticking to 1200 calories and exercising my butt off, and when I see the results are positive it gives me the motivation to stick with the program and change my lifestyle. We all know this is way easier said then done.

    SO what if they want the magic pill, if it gives them energy and hopefulness than I don't see a problem with it. I for one don't use the pills, but I have tried to cut back on my calories and make healthier choices. I have no one to blame but myself for my weight gain and it will takes years to truly be totally ingrained in my new lifestyle. I still have bad meals, and bad days, but as long as I can say tomorrow is another day try again, then I will ultimately be successful. Yes it seems that some people are being "unreasonable" but honestly they are only letting themselves down and we shouldn't be making them feel worthless because they are doing atkins, or some other method. As long as they are trying to change their life around that's all that matters. We need to be supportive of each other and continue to encourage each other to take baby steps and make small changes that will eventually change everything about the way they eat and exercise.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Unreasonable people either make me laugh or make me mad.

    Today is one of those days where, if they aren't going to focus on being healthy, I'm just going to smile and enjoy my own good health that came from hard work and dedication. :)
  • I agree with you~ Better to loose it slowly and then keep it off. There is no magic pill, all they do is making you sick. I just lost 2 pounds from a lot of effort, makes me prouder then if I did a pill!!! Keep up your good work!!
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Instant gratification, and the "drive-thru" mentality... It's the American way. Unfortunately.

    ITA... I think this is also why people can't make changes and stick to them... they think if they exercise for a week the pounds will just start melting off. But they don't want to make long term changes for the better. My FIL is the same way... he is morbidly obese, falls into the gimmick diets (so does his wife)... and he just went in to see a doctor last week about a gastric bypass/lap band hybrid surgery... however, the health plan he is one requires patients to see a nutritionist and diet and exercise for a year before being able to get any type of weight loss surgery. He didn't want to do that, he wanted the surgery and be done with it.
  • AR73
    AR73 Posts: 107
    I think the problem is that a lot of people are just ignorant of how it all works.

    Is like "spot reduction" and other myths.

    In this day and age of "Apps" and Instant everything people find it hard that one has to work to achieve and maintain a healthy weight.

    There are a few genetically gifted people ( a mate of mine can eat as much as me and he weights less than 10 stones ) but for the majority of us is the good old fashioned way.
  • capricorn0120
    capricorn0120 Posts: 109 Member
    I was one of those people. Years ago I weighed 190 lbs. I tried just about everything on the market. I did lose weight but it all came back because I didn't learn to eat properly. I can't fault anyone for wanting to try the "magic pill." Let's be honest. If there actually was a "magic pill" that would take off the pounds without much work and it helped keep it off wouldn't you try it?

    With that said, the best thing to do is learn to eat healthier and exercise.
  • caterpillardreams
    caterpillardreams Posts: 476 Member
    I have tried a pill once a long time ago. I could notstick with it. I do not judge because everyone is different. Some people cant see the truth even if its in their face. I don't get angry at those people and I don't get blue in the face trying to convince them. People will come around when they r ready. The beauty of America wecan choose whatever we want. Does not mean its good but its the truth.
    I want to educate as many people as possible but with patience. Especially children. Many people just cannot compute that 1+1=2. DIET +exercise = weight loss. I do not look for "magic" pills but I will be a liar if I say I never wish there really was one. But I know the truth.
    Our Country's issue with weight is rooted deepin our culture. And the movement to a healthier country starts with us who know.
    its just not easy
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