Down and Out
charneus
Posts: 66
Hello, fellow MFPers! I wrote a blog entry yesterday instead of a post simply because it was a lot of writing. Today, I'm writing a post regarding an experience I just had, and I hope this motivates you in some way.
Yesterday, I became friends with an individual. A few short hours later, they had removed me. I was curious to the reason, so I messaged this person and asked. The response was, paraphrased, "I'm in a really bad place right now, and your comment about your friends making you feel great made me feel like you didn't need someone with my mindset around."
I'm here to touch upon that because I know it's not just that person who feels this way.
MFP is about being a family, not alienating someone because they're having a horrible day/week/month. I understand the feeling that you need to be alone, that no one cares about you and your misery. But you're wrong. There's always going to be someone who cares what you're going through. And as I've said before, I do care about my friends and what's going on in their lives. So I would be the one person who would care, even if no one else does.
We all have horrible days. There are days we'll want to binge eat because of the day we're having. Your boy/girlfriend broke up with you, so you binge out on sweets to make yourself feel good. A family member passes away, so you binge out to deal with the grief. You lost your job. You got test results back. There are so many things that can unbalance the mindset of even the strongest-willed person.
Yet, where will you be without a friend to lean on, to understand, to carry you out of the depths? It's possible to do this alone, but it's so much better when you have a family of friends to help you get out of that rut.
Don't think that you're going to be the downer at someone's party. If you're friends with someone here, you take the good with the bad. At least, that's MY mindset. I can't speak for everyone else, but if those people exist on your friend list, maybe you need to stop punishing yourself and let go of them, adding positive friends who only want to make your life better.
So here's a challenge to you MFPers today.
If you're the positive person and you know someone who is having a rough time, talk to them, one on one, and help them through their rough time.
If you're the one who is having a rough time, I challenge you to read these motivational posts, to talk with someone who is willing to be a true friend about it. If you want to, you can even respond to me. I promise to respond back, even if it takes me a day or two.
Will you meet that challenge?
Stay positive! You've got someone looking out for you!
Yesterday, I became friends with an individual. A few short hours later, they had removed me. I was curious to the reason, so I messaged this person and asked. The response was, paraphrased, "I'm in a really bad place right now, and your comment about your friends making you feel great made me feel like you didn't need someone with my mindset around."
I'm here to touch upon that because I know it's not just that person who feels this way.
MFP is about being a family, not alienating someone because they're having a horrible day/week/month. I understand the feeling that you need to be alone, that no one cares about you and your misery. But you're wrong. There's always going to be someone who cares what you're going through. And as I've said before, I do care about my friends and what's going on in their lives. So I would be the one person who would care, even if no one else does.
We all have horrible days. There are days we'll want to binge eat because of the day we're having. Your boy/girlfriend broke up with you, so you binge out on sweets to make yourself feel good. A family member passes away, so you binge out to deal with the grief. You lost your job. You got test results back. There are so many things that can unbalance the mindset of even the strongest-willed person.
Yet, where will you be without a friend to lean on, to understand, to carry you out of the depths? It's possible to do this alone, but it's so much better when you have a family of friends to help you get out of that rut.
Don't think that you're going to be the downer at someone's party. If you're friends with someone here, you take the good with the bad. At least, that's MY mindset. I can't speak for everyone else, but if those people exist on your friend list, maybe you need to stop punishing yourself and let go of them, adding positive friends who only want to make your life better.
So here's a challenge to you MFPers today.
If you're the positive person and you know someone who is having a rough time, talk to them, one on one, and help them through their rough time.
If you're the one who is having a rough time, I challenge you to read these motivational posts, to talk with someone who is willing to be a true friend about it. If you want to, you can even respond to me. I promise to respond back, even if it takes me a day or two.
Will you meet that challenge?
Stay positive! You've got someone looking out for you!
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Well let me just say that Im glad to have a friend like you! I appreciate this post so very much! xoxox0
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Thanks for the great post. I have found great motivation n the blogs.0
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Good post mate
Well put.0 -
this is nice.
Some of my "virtual" friends are going through some tough times at the moment and I think it's really important to be there for them and post encouraging thoughts and messages. This site is great for losing weight but it's when the tough times hit that I think this site really comes into force. I sometimes/often think of my MFP family as real people and are real friends.0 -
aw that was sweet!0
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Awesome words... =D !0
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Another post that is amazing. To have someone who can help you thru the ups and down is the most amazing thing in the world. And to know someone is there uncondionally....Well you'll never know how much that means to someone. I am glad I can be that someone for you and that I have someone in my life who feels the same way!0
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Your post is well-timed for me
Yesterday, I was the friend in need of a little support. I hate admitting I'm not perfect, or that I need help. But sometimes, we all do! I realized yesterday that I've triggered some really bad old habits that need to be addressed, and my friends were amazingly supportive! Hopefully something I say to someone on here one day will help them as much as I've been helped. 0
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