Kinda nice being single lol

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  • erintheinspiration
    erintheinspiration Posts: 229 Member
    I also find it amazing how emotionally draining the dating scene can be....especially online dating.

    Oh my gah... ^^^^^ This!!! Totally! I hate the whole online thing!!! Been there, done that too many times! And you're right... dating in general is super exhausting! I've been divorced for 5 years, and I'm about ready to throw in the towel on dating, LOL!
  • Anomalia
    Anomalia Posts: 506 Member
    I'm tired of being single. I miss having someone who cares about my life as much as they care about their own.
  • lilfurson
    lilfurson Posts: 190
    @Anomalia - you're still young. A failed marriage and failed dating scenarios have left me loving my freedom. I just need to remember that whenever I feel the need to "find someone".
  • sexyrosey
    sexyrosey Posts: 137
    Being single can be fun especially if your with someone who makes your life harder. I am not single but, i have someone who has similar goals in mind. Enjoy your time and when your ready the right person will come along.
  • AdrienneKaren
    AdrienneKaren Posts: 168 Member
    Yesterday, one of my coworkers told me I need to start dating. I'm not sure why. Being single isn't bad. I'm plenty busy as it is. I've got my daughter and my health to look after. I'm also not sure there's anyone out there who can handle me. I can be pretty difficult. :)
  • luvnthenewme
    luvnthenewme Posts: 121 Member
    I don't get the lonely thing. I just don't ever get lonely or ever feel the want of company. Maybe I'm just weird that way. I'm cool just being alone all day long.

    My bf is the exact same way. He totally enjoys his alone time.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    I don't get the loney thing. I just don't ever get loney or ever feel the want of company. Maybe I'm just weird that way. I'm cool just being alone all day long.

    Last weekend, I have a 4-day weekend. And, it hand't occurred to me until I left the house to go have dinner, that I hadn't talked to anyone in like 3 days. Not a soul. I just ran, did house cleaning, ran some errands, played my guitar, and working around the house was a lot of work and took a lot of time, then I read, watched a movie on Netflix...I mean, I just don't ever feel like I'm lonely. i just keep moving, I guess. Oh, and the mid-day naps were awesome too. I even turned off my phone, in case it rang. I seek out peace and quiet. But, my work is very stressful, so maybe that has something to do with it.

    Dont' get me wrong, i love having dinner parties, going out with friends, travelling and all that. it's just I enjoy quiet time just as much and it never occurs to me that I'm lonely. I guess I'm lucky because I hear that a lot from other single friends.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^All of this, except I am not a napper. I have single friends that look at me like I am insane because I go to movies on my own, out to dinner, to the bar, etc., and I'm happy with it. Yes, I love company but I don't get "lonesome". It may be because I talk to myself or the dogs constantly.... ;)
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Awesome.

    I went to my first concert by myself. I have to admit, I felt weird doing it, but it was my favorite band, Foo Fighters. How can you not go to a Foo Fighters concert? Anyway, I'll go to more now. It was nice. And, what was funny, is the two people on either side of me at the concert were there by themselves too. HA!
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    I have been on my own for 11 years.......divorced for about 7.

    I was in a very long, very difficult marriage. I was totally COMMITTED to that marriage, until it was just beyond hope anymore (chemical abuse the biggest issue.) My 'x' was controlling, manipulative, and basically crazy towards the end.

    I have enjoyed singlehood A LOT. I never feel lonely - I have wonderful friends, an amazing family, a great job. I am in better financial shape than I have EVER been in my life. I live in a small, cozy, adorable, 1-bedroom apt.......no kids can move home, it's easy to clean, I have GREAT landlords. I have travelled more, lived more, sung more, enjoyed more..........and I can't see ever giving up this lifestyle.

    If I ever meet someone, he will have to be very independent, very carefree, very funny, and just easy-going. I will never, ever give up my freedom again. Not for anything.

    Being single rocks :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :smokin: :smokin: :glasses: :glasses: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:
  • Brian001
    Brian001 Posts: 89
    Glad to see its more than just me who has realized this! hahaha
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Awesome.

    I went to my first concert by myself. I have to admit, I felt weird doing it, but it was my favorite band, Foo Fighters. How can you not go to a Foo Fighters concert? Anyway, I'll go to more now. It was nice. And, what was funny, is the two people on either side of me at the concert were there by themselves too. HA!

    one day I will be so bold! I have my children full time (widowed)... my me time comes when I have a run/walk event and I relish that time!!! ipod and sunshine, I'm set to go!!!
  • renny_xoxo
    renny_xoxo Posts: 10
    Single is fun as long as you have people to flirt with lol well at least for me <3
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    Oh yeah.....re: going to things alone.

    That took a while.......but I do it all the time now. Especially parties or events, where there will be lots of people. I usually run into someone I know, or I make NEW friends (I'm very outgoing ;)

    I'm wanting to challenge myself in a new, scary way......by flying alone. My niece is getting married in Cali, and I would like to go to her wedding..........few in the family can afford to go, so I'm thinking of going alone. It scares the hell out of me, and I might chicken out.......but will attempt to at least begin a plan!
  • capnwo85
    capnwo85 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Single = More $$ for yourself on Valentines Day.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Oh yeah.....re: going to things alone.

    That took a while.......but I do it all the time now. Especially parties or events, where there will be lots of people. I usually run into someone I know, or I make NEW friends (I'm very outgoing ;)

    I'm wanting to challenge myself in a new, scary way......by flying alone. My niece is getting married in Cali, and I would like to go to her wedding..........few in the family can afford to go, so I'm thinking of going alone. It scares the hell out of me, and I might chicken out.......but will attempt to at least begin a plan!

    You can do it :) I've been wanting to do that myself. I always tend to stress more with having to keep track of another person.
  • mallorybriann
    mallorybriann Posts: 1,380 Member
    Recently single after SIX years and I am LOVING it.

    :)

    Being single has been good to me :tongue:
  • caddygarcia123
    caddygarcia123 Posts: 122 Member
    I agree. I went through a little phase where I felt sorry for myself.. now I feel like I'm on top of the world being single!

    I do miss the intimacy with someone but in time that will come. For now, it's all about ME. I do as I please, I come home at 5am if I want. I spend the night at friends house whenever I want. I go running and then go shopping after. I buy groceries just for me, to my liking. I jam out when I'm cooking to whatever music I want. I go on dates and talk on the phone at 4 a.m if I want with someone who's had 5 beers.. (:wink: , :wink: )

    It's pretty awesome!!!

    THIS!!!! Girl I am sooo about this right now!!!
  • metco89
    metco89 Posts: 578 Member
    Its not a bad thing at all. I adjusted rather well after my divorce. sometimes now i think hmm, could i stand to live with someone again. I kind of like doing what i want when i want, without worrying about having to get home for this or that. so i say its a good thing at least for now.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Awesome.

    I went to my first concert by myself. I have to admit, I felt weird doing it, but it was my favorite band, Foo Fighters. How can you not go to a Foo Fighters concert? Anyway, I'll go to more now. It was nice. And, what was funny, is the two people on either side of me at the concert were there by themselves too. HA!

    Yep!! I spent the majority of my birthday alone and went to see movies I wanted to see without feeling like I needed to provide entertainment for them and make sure they're enjoying themselves. The stigma attached to being alone is silly.
  • Kimberly602
    Kimberly602 Posts: 9
    I was single for the past 7 years and that's when I gained all my weight. My boyfriend now is very motivating. He's very active and I'm so thankful for him. If it weren't for him, I wouldn't have this new lifestyle :o)
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    Who needs a boyfriend or husband when I have two doggies that love me?

    My divorce is final in 40ish days and I can't wait. Although I've been separated since November.

    I do love my space! I do with my time as I please, spend my money as I please, eat what I want, and there ain't **** anyone can say about it..

    :smokin: :drinker:
  • mab33
    mab33 Posts: 242 Member
    Being single is great because you have all the time in the world to devote to yourself. It's the only time in your life you can truly be selfish.

    Treasure it before it's gone. I know I made the most of my single years.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    After a long-term relationship came to an end early last year, I spend a few months feeling sorry for myself.

    Then I got on MFP, started tracking food and working out and once the weight started dropping I was even MORE motivated and I wanted ALL of my free time to work out and work on me. I was quite happy being single and wanted no one to interfere, so to speak.

    Now it's 2012 and I'm in a completely different mindset. I'm still working on me, but I am more than ready to share my life with someone wonderful. :heart:
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    nope! :) i'm a 2nd year college student and have dated a couple times my whole life...the longest being 1 1/2 months. i enjoy it too much! :)
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Its not a bad thing at all. I adjusted rather well after my divorce. sometimes now i think hmm, could i stand to live with someone again. I kind of like doing what i want when i want, without worrying about having to get home for this or that. so i say its a good thing at least for now.

    Yep. It helps that my mother and aunt are very independent women, they have set the bar for me and shown me that divorce does not mean the end of the world, even if it feels like it sometimes.

    All I have to say, is that the man is gonna have to be freaking darn amazing to get me off the market.
  • twisted88
    twisted88 Posts: 294 Member
    I'm enjoying being single as well. I hope to get back with my ex SO, but I'm not rushing anything, and neither is he. I also am enjoying not having a roommate (literally a bed-mate) anymore when a friend moved out in January. It's allowed me to focus more on myself, eating better, and exercising more (plus a hell-of a lot less drama...). I do miss having the companionship/intimacy that comes with a relationship, but friendship is filling the void at the moment.
  • TheLongRunner
    TheLongRunner Posts: 688 Member
    I realized after reading an article in the latest issue of Psychology Today that I am TOTALLY at peace with being single. As a matter of fact, I prefer it! I am going to grow old with my pets...ahhhh freedom.
  • ashli_rose
    ashli_rose Posts: 23
    As horrible as this sounds, ive actually enjoyed being single for the last two months, been able to get more work done, been able to exercise more, and just been an all around happier person lately. Is this such a bad thing?

    I hope not because I'm the same way!! It's refreshing to be single :)
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Ive been single since 2005- and my life has just taken off. I have so much happening in my world compared to people that I know who are constantly looking for THE ONE or who have had to put their whole lives on teh backburner to care for a husband and children.

    I love that its ok for a single person to be selfish and put themselves first. It feels good to feel whole and undamaged and not constantly getting over a broken heart.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Awesome.

    I went to my first concert by myself. I have to admit, I felt weird doing it, but it was my favorite band, Foo Fighters. How can you not go to a Foo Fighters concert? Anyway, I'll go to more now. It was nice. And, what was funny, is the two people on either side of me at the concert were there by themselves too. HA!

    This just inspired me and I bought ONE ticket for ME to go see The Toadies!! YAY!!! I can't wait.
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