Anyone else have problems with SO when weight lost?

lorenzoinlr

Assuming this isn't because you obsess or won't allow him to live his life the way he chooses, which at least from what you wrote doesn't seem to be the case, I have something a little harsher to say than the others. For one to be an SO and not just an O, they need to support you in your pursuit of your goals, particularly if they involve your health and happiness. And you're entitled to an SO not just an O.

I understand misery loves company, I also comprehend the fear of losing someone who might be getting more attractive but you might remind him what it means to be an SO and not an O.He seems to be legitimizing his shortcomings by trying to drag you down. At this stage of my life I won't accept that as I believe it's important to love thyself and those in my life who aren't supportive don't further that.

Rosered3333

My husband actually supports my attempts to lose weight and he acknowledges that he needs to be healthier too. I've tried repeatedly to encourage him to start exercising again and I try to not keep unhealthy food in the house.

I know that when I eat healthier, my husband does too. And when he makes poor nutrition choices, I still try to make healthy ones and sometimes we come into conflict over it. He knows that he should be making better choices and my healthy choices make him feel guilty for making bad ones.

As for your boyfriend, it sounds like he is taking your healthier lifestyle choices personally. My guess is that he's afraid that if you lose all of the weight and become a healthier person that you'll want to lose him too and his insecurity is dictating his behavior towards you. This is his problem and if he can't figure out how to support you in your journey to a better you (that sounded less corny in my head) then you're going to have to make the hard decision.

Good luck!

ednawhatnot

So sorry to hear you've postponed the wedding Emma, especially as that was a main factor for changing your lifestyle to start with. If you've always looked a certain way, people (especially those close to you) are used to that and can be unsettled by the change. Maybe he is a bit worried about being left behind or threatened by the increased confidence that your weight loss has given you. As another poster said, he might feel a failure himself for not sticking with it and losing more. Whatever the reason, I'm sure you'll work it out. You seem like a strong couple and a great family unit. Is there some exercise you could do with Rik and/or the kids so that he doesn't feel excluded?

One thing I will say is that you look slimmer, healthier and more confident than in all the years I've known you. Your success is a big inspiration to me and thinking about how well you've done helps to keep me on track. You've come way too far to let it slide now. Well done Bird xx