Help for my Husband

HeatherGTaylor

Hello everyone!
I'm on my weight loss journey and though it's been touch and go my biggest concern is for my husband. He's currently 6'4" 400lbs and works out of town on the oil rigs, drinks heavily and smokes. I was wondering if anyone had any tips for out of town eating I could pass on to him or way to get some exercise in. It's unfortunate but my husband is a bit of a follower and will not on his own go to the gym or work out if the "boys" are sitting playing video games.

Any help would be great.

Thanks.

jnbud2002

Girl, I had to ask him if he would do 30DS with me... and it was more of a "You're gonna do it with me.... right?" And he needs to lose some weight because he needs to join the National Guard. I wish I had more of a solution for you. I mean, with the 30DS it's only 30 mins a day. Maybe you can ask him nicely if he wants to do something with you everyday, like walk or play outside or something? My hubs is a HUGE gamer too. But I figure, if he can sit on his *kitten* for hours playing games, it isn't going to hurt to do some physical activity for 30 minutes! And so far so good, in fact, he pushes me to keep pushin on during the 30DS! Hope you can help him!

EMarvie

SUBWAY - is great for eating healthy while away..

and even while he's working he can do squats or calf raises while he's working.. or maybe a walk after work?

Good luck!

JenAiMarres

In theory its Easy!! Get him on mfp!! Support him and ask your friends to friend request him and cheer him on...actually getting him to do it will be the hard part...but let me tell u.... Once I started transforming my body my husband followed suit REAL quick!! Maybe u leading by example will be just the push he needs!!!!

Michellerawrrr

In my experience you can't "make" anybody do something they don't want to do. Changing your life has to come from within, otherwise you won't be successful. I started on my journey back in August and my husband only just started his. It drove me crazy that I was putting in all this hard work and he was sitting on the couch with his chips and oodles of junk. Once my body started to change and I started getting my "sexy" back (lol) I think he realized that he better join the party. I would say just keep doing what you are doing and be the example. If he is a follower as you say then it will happen.

cohophysh

Do you mean the land based oil rigs or those out in the sea. I am sure it is difficult especially since he is out of town.

hedgiie

if there is a will there is a way, if your husband really likes to lose weight then he should control his eating and should work out. i don't know what's his situation out there but i'm sure there is a way for that

cyclingben

look at my before pics that was only 8 months ago im 6'2. he can easily loose weight just with diet at that size. I worked around the oil industry for yrs. Is he on land or ocean? ocean rigs have plenty of stairs he can do pushups, walking and just dedication and determination. Biggest thing is knowing what your putting in your mouth.

saragato

If he wants to lose the weight but he's not going to do anything unless someone's leading the way, you're gonna have to do a lot of coaxing and encouragement. Try and get him to see if there's a coworker that works out whether at a gym or on his own so that maybe they can buddy up. As for food, research the restaurants in the area he's in and try to find ones that have the menus and the nutrition info online. That way you can suggest places he try and which dishes since you probably know what he likes.

Like someone else said you can't make anyone do anything they're not willing to and getting started, even for an independent person, is not easy. Take baby steps with him and do your best to be his cheer squad even though he's not home with you right now.

alexveksler

Hello everyone!
I'm on my weight loss journey and though it's been touch and go my biggest concern is for my husband. He's currently 6'4" 400lbs and works out of town on the oil rigs, drinks heavily and smokes. I was wondering if anyone had any tips for out of town eating I could pass on to him or way to get some exercise in. It's unfortunate but my husband is a bit of a follower and will not on his own go to the gym or work out if the "boys" are sitting playing video games.

Any help would be great.

Thanks.

I had out of town gig for about 5 months. It is easy to gain weight when you live on all expense paid and can eat and consume all the booze you want. I agree with some of the posts here though. He has to want it to lose weight. If he doesn't, he is on his own. I assume he is same age you are, so he may last another 10 years. But he eventually get heart attack and will be sick for the rest of his life or even worse, die.

Anyway, for the tips. I ended up staying at the hotels with kitchen, booking rooms next to the workout facilities. when I fly in to the job, I would do shopping at the local grocery store. Buy MY food, never stepped my foot in the restaurant, made my own lunches, stuck to my diet, gave away my free booze tickets, and was actually loosing weight while out of town. I don't know his set up, He may be on the ocean, so it might be more difficult, But that's my $0.02 Good luck

TundraTed

I am 6' 3" and started at 290ish. I very much understand your dilemma.

As much as you want your husband to be healthier, you can't make him. I wish my wife had the drive to be healthier, eat better, and exercise. She doesn't. My bringing it up over and over will only build a wall of resentment. So I don't. I have mentioned once or twice that I feel much better after losing weight and I like the idea of being around a long time for our daughter. Then I dropped it. My wife has since then mentioned several times that she should start doing better. Hopefully one day she will. She has to decide to do it. I can't do it for her.

What you can do. Be a good example. Your husband just might see you much healthier and much leaner. He may think to himself "If my wife can do this, so can I" or "My wife is really looking good, I should start so I can look good for her".

If there were an easy answer to getting your spouse to do what you want, everyones marriage would be perfect and happy bliss 100% of the time.

HeatherGTaylor

Thanks Everyone for your replies. I really needed to hear for my own stress that I can't control this situation, I'm just so worried he is going to have a heartattack or something. I will keep doing what I'm doing and hopefully when I look like the bomb :P he'll want to jump on board.

He works on a land rig and is home every 2 weeks, now. Maybe I can get him to 'show' me how to work the bow flex and see if I'm working hard enough in a 30min workout. If I don't do it right he'll jump in and show me...hmmm might get him started...