To run or not to run... advice please!!

jhartram

Let me begin by saying that my hubby is VERY supportive of my weight loss journey. He is all for me changing the way the family eats, getting workout DVDs, getting up at 3:30 am to get in my workouts before the kids get up, going for two hour walks with a friend or a group of friends, the works.

That being said, the one thing he said he would get upset with me for is running... and he admits that it's pure jealousy. He used to love running, but the Army broke him and he went into a wheelchair. He now walks with forearm crutches (a MAJOR achievement on his part, since he was told he'd only get worse when he was put in the chair!!) and his spine is fused in such a way that running isn't physically possible for him.

Here's my problem... I find myself wanting to run more and more. I catch myself jogging from the school to the car. I'll randomly start jogging during my walks. I would absolutely LOVE to do C25K! It sounds to me like that's as close as I'd ever get to learning how to fly. I've thought about going out on "walks" and sneaking in a run in the middle, but I don't want to hurt his feelings if he found out I was running when that's the ONLY thing he's ever asked me not to do.

Any thoughts?

shrdlicka23

I would sit down with him and talk about why you want to run and what it means to you. Explain to him that you understand he wants to run as well and that it's hard for him to see you running. Tell him that you aren't doing it for any other reason other than for yourself. To be honest with you, I know where he is coming from and my husband is in the army too. But that doesn't mean you have to put your dreams on hold because of his jealousy(or whatever the case may be). Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Be a runner. Start c25k. I did and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. But do talk to him and tell him how much it means to you and how you want running to become your "thing". I think it will be hard for him but he loves you and will come to terms with it.

janehen12

I'd second talking to him, maybe if you start traning do charity races for something like Help For Heros (I'm not sure if thats just UK based, but there should be an equivalent wherever you are )
Don't go behind his back, that'll probably hurt him more in the long run xx

jhartram

Thanks for the advice guys... I didn't really want to go behind his back, but this is gonna be a hellofa conversation )=

Oh well... this is for ME. I know I have to stop putting myself aside for hubby and kids so much, it's just hard to break the habit. I WILL talk to him, and hopefully y'all will be seeing C25K on my exercise logs soon!

Thanks for the push in the right direction... I knew I could count on you! =D