Lack of support/different opinions from others

mandii066

I was wondering how I could manage sticking to a healthy, natural diet, when the family I live with is on a strick atkins, meat and some vegetables, diet. I don't want to offend anyone by passing on a roast of some sort every night. I make salad and steam different vegetables but hold the meat, or throw some in their portion Just concerned because I sense some tension in being the outsider as far as dinner time is concerned. Also, I am on my last 8-10 lbs where as they have anywhere from 50-20 lbs left to go. I just prefer a different method, an overall life change/ re-learning my relationship with food as oppose to dropping weight quickly. I don't put my influence on them I just do it alone and if they ask I inform them of why I choose this for myself. Any suggestions how to ease the divide?!!!

Much appreciated,
Amanda

jenlarz

Keep up what you're doing. Tell them, this is what is working for me and I stand by my choices.

mandii066

Can that hold true to everything in life?! They don't approve of my boyfriend either haha he is an artist at a top college of art and works as well, our friends his family and myself support him..my friend's family would rather I date a fire fighter or something to that nature..we are happy, young adults and in no rush..I have no family to turn to so it is hard to stand my ground on certain issues my diet is just another fault of mine, to them (I feel)..thanks for reaching out.

TheDreadedJynx

Can that hold true to everything in life?! They don't approve of my boyfriend either haha he is an artist at a top college of art and works as well, our friends his family and myself support him..my friend's family would rather I date a fire fighter or something to that nature..we are happy, young adults and in no rush..I have no family to turn to so it is hard to stand my ground on certain issues my diet is just another fault of mine, to them (I feel)..thanks for reaching out.

Yes! You are your own person, and as long as you are truly happy that is all that matters! My family didn't like my husband at all until they spent more time around him and realized he is hard working, caring, and pretty awesome. He's just been dealt some bad hands in the past.

mandii066

I'm in a weird position, I pay $250 rent which is nothing, I know.. I just try to help out, clean, I don't do drugs rarely drink anymore (last summer I enjoyed myself to say the least) I've been on the waiting list for nursing which unfortunately takes forever..I was abused mentally and physically growing up, lived in foster homes on and off with family and a few friends. And the "friend" I live with now tells me that she hasn't spoken to me because she doesn't want to "deal with me/it." As if her parents helping me and guiding me/supporting me has anything to do with her. I can't express myself because I don't want to cause more stress for her mom and step dad.. shes 4 years younger than me, clueless about the real world. I just go out of my father's abusive home last feb. its been a year and I never seeked counsel for my childhood..I don't even remember before I was 10 so this "friend" last night proceeds to tell me that I need to stop dwelling, get over it..because I suffer from anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts at times and feel like it is me vs. the world.. once I began dating my boyfriend he holds my hand through the emotional roller coaster and talked me into a psyciatrist to release the built up sadness/anger I've had since this all began...3 years old.. and my "friend" says I will never become anything as long as I acknowledge those emotions..as if I can just turn them off!!! Ignorance is bliss... her mother does everything in the world for her include shelter her from reality...How can you have no compassion/sweetness/tenderness/emotion..especially as a female?! It is incredible to me how self involved people can be..and how parents allow it. I'm so greatful for this site and the feedback I neeeeeed an outlet.