Comparing myself with others is not wise

NewLIFEstyle4ME

Ya know, I've been thinking about something someone Wise once said:

Comparing myself with others is not wise. I'm going to not only take this to heart today (and forever but wanted to make this my NSV for today.

When I look at other's figures and physiques--the progress they are making and more important how they made it, it's excellent and wise and good to be glad for them, proud of them, praise & compliment their fabulous attitudes and hard work and beautiful looks/ new lifestyles. But I must not and no longer will DARE to compare myself with anyone anymore, because we are all different. Our make-up is different, our lifestyles are different. What's good for some may not (and indeed I'm discovering more and more each day is NOT) good for me personally. Comparing myself with others isn't wise, because it invites all kinds of YUCK like envy, regret, pride, even anger/bitterness of all foolish things. My life, my goals, my dreams/visions are set- apart just for me, because there is only one me and there is only one you and to compare myself is not only fruitless, it actually can deter or distract me from my personal "mission". Compliment, enjoy, be glad for others YES--Compare myself (my home, personal, physical, mental, spiritual, et. al LIFE is mine alone and not to be/for me to compare with anyone else's life/style/methods of being and doing--period.

This may not apply to you or even make sense to you--but it does to me and therefore no longer comparing myself with others, because it is not wise for me to do so... is a BIG ole NSV for/to me.

natashahunt2010

I have this same problem. I constantly compare my body against other peoples. And most the time it just breaks my heart! I'd like to stop too.

Alex_is_Hawks

Excellent realisation! Comparing our victories and obstacles with others gets us no where because everyone is very different!

slipandsink

I am terrible for this, it's a skill I really need to learn quickly! I'm constantly comparing myself to the others on my cheerleading squad - my mind doesn't see that they're fitter than me and far better at gymnastics because it's been a hobby, skill and *habit* for them all their life, where I'm just getting into fitness/gymnastics

Coco_Puff

We are always our worst critic and see things that sometimes aren't even there. I think back to high school when I considered myself less than attractive than my friends, the cubby one, ugly hair. Then as I got older I realized all that stuff wasn't as important as being the person I needed to be for my family and I'm happy with that. But those same people that I felt less than in high school, I see at class reunions and I'm always taken aback by the comments they make about me. They'll tell me, you were always so cute and a great dresser. And your hair always was perfect. And I always wanted to ask you out, but was too scared. I never knew this, I felt like I was the last one anyone thought these things about. Your own thinking, the scale, a certain size clothing can make us feel awful, how stupid is that. So you see, we must stop beating ourselves up cause we don't look like this person or have that body. We can only be the best we can be at this time in our lives and that should be the reward.

shoyrob

I understand this far to well.. Right now I'm just having a hard time. I'm comparing myself to everyone and everything. I compare my weight, my clothes, finance, my complete look in general. Yesterday I had went out and brought a $25 foundation for my face just because its suppose to cover my face a lot better. But my friend has been going on and on about this line of makeup for the past month. Not only is it out of my price range. But truly I didn't see much difference. IDK... I relate to this so much..

kellyrorie

You're so right! You could never be soeone else, so comparison will only bring a sense of failure. Compare you to you, and be happy with yourself Great message!

BeautyFromPain

I have this same problem. I constantly compare my body against other peoples. And most the time it just breaks my heart! I'd like to stop too.

BeingWiser

I really needed to hear this! Thanks.

amandammmq

You are so right! I'm 5'11", which sounds all great, but when you're a little tubby and are towering over 5'2" women who are a size 4, it can make you feel pretty darned enormous and awkward! Even worse, I work in a middle school, where kids are constantly remarking about my height. Aggh! Letting it go and being the best person I can be is what I need to focus on.

im_blessed

I have a hard time with this too but im working on it every day because you're so right, comparing does allow other feelings that are just unnecessary.

Birder150

"Comparison is the thief of Happiness"

NewLIFEstyle4ME

"Comparison is the thief of Happiness"

Wow!!!! This is another fabulous thing I'll store in the ole bio computer/my brain from this day forth to help me when (not if...but when) this dreaded temptation rises it's dumb and counterproductive head in my thoughts and heart. THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting this. :flowerforyou:

NewLIFEstyle4ME

Thanks to you ALL you fabulous people you for replying to this post!

NewLIFEstyle4ME

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MindyG150

Comparing myself with others is not wise.

I know I know...why do I do this to myself????:frown:

NewLIFEstyle4ME

Comparing myself with others is not wise.

I know I know...why do I do this to myself????:frown:

Because it's totally natural to do so and designed to keep us in the "place" (mentally, physically, spiritually and every other "ually" there is). in the place of "poor me and pity party bummed outness, So that we (myself included) don't DARE to change and use comparison as a justification, an excuse to drown our bitterness, sorrow, laziness and other negative stuff in the same ole same ole.

This weight loss adventure is designed for us to GET OUT OF THE BOX of ordinary and comfortable and I think that's why. It's wonderful to hear and believe that just like a new lifestyle must include CHANGE from the natural or ordinary to extraordinary, that we (okay I'll speak for myself) that I MUST NOT COMPARE MYSELF WITH OTHERS-PERIOD...that's how I see it

MummaSue

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Want to keep hold of this thread, it's something I struggle with

NewLIFEstyle4ME

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Want to keep hold of this thread, it's something I struggle with

I think we all do. Once we make up our mind (become resolved/firm in our hearts and minds to simply NOT compare) we simply will no longer do it, thinking this way helps tremendously with this devilish problem--it does for me anyway.

uberrach

Good post.

Lar221

Like everyone else, I too compare myself to others way too much. It's just so hard not to. I think about what my goal is and the work I have to put in to get there, then I think if I only I looked like so and so...I bet she doesn't have to work this hard...
Another thing I tend to do (although not quite the same) is I point out my flaws before another person gets to. If I see someone I haven't seen in years I automatically make a comment about my weight, and why I don't look quite like I did when that person was first in my life. These types of negative behaviours only hinder my progress.
When on a life style change it's best to stay positive and compare yourself to yourself! Look at how far you have come. Think about all of the positive changes you have made thus far.
I find that I feel a lot better about my choices when I praise the good ones. It think that you should acknowledge when you've had a bad day or maybe didn't put your all in your exercise or your food choices, because you need to remember how you felt about not doing it the way you want to.
To sum up my post I think we all compare it's human nature, but as long as you remember that it's your life and you stay positive you will ultimately be successful.