Obesity-opinions

magdamccraven

We all know obesity is unhealthy but what is your opinion of obese women?
My husband is really attracted to women who are 250 or more sometimes. I know this is disgusting to many men for a number of reasons. I am curious what makes us attractive to the men who like it and what makes us repulsive to the men who really HATE it. Women feel free to comment as well.

Would you date a woman who is obese, not chunky but a true "fat" chick? I am not referring to plus size models ie. sizes 12-16 but size 22 and up.

I'm sure there will be jokes and gagging noises but I've been obese for a long time and know that there is a community of people out there who actually find it sexy. I'm losing weight now because being so heavy is making me sick but I have rarely felt repulsive and am often surprised when people respond to me this way.

Please "weigh in" and give me some more insight.

DataBased

I just lost one size and am now beginning to fit into size 20 clothing. I don't care who finds it sexy - I don't feel good at this size.

But to answer your questions - I think men find women sexy who are comfortable in their own skin and who treat him like a man. If you're in tune with your own sexuality and know how to make a man feel... manly... chances are good you'll always find willing partners.

That's just from my own personal experience. Your mileage may vary.

:flowerforyou:

MissMaryMac33

There are lots of men attracted to larger women --- my ex is one of them. When we met, I was 220 and he teased me about being too skinny. Go figure. When he started cheating on me with women 300# and more because he found it more attractive, sexually, that was the end. Well, the cheating alone is bad enough When I hit 270 I finally left him and hated myself. If he could see me know, he would be disgusted.... but I'm finally happy.

KJVBear33

Honestly, I think its absurd to be attracted to someone by their weight. It makes me ill to think that the reason a guy never comes up to me nor thinks of me as sexy is because I am the weight I am. What's wrong with being one or the other as long as you have a great personality, good sense of humor, and a kind heart? I think anyone would be lucky to have someone like that in their lives. In saying this though, I think that the way they think of you.......either not heavy enough.......not skinny enough......ect can be damaging to the weight loss process. How they think of you initially motivates them to be positively supportive or not supportive at all.......which is also kind of messed up if you think about it.

What ought to matter to your S.O. is what you think of yourself.......if you think something about you needs to be changed, then they need to support you fully in that no matter what they themselves think. Now, that could also be argued too, because some women who have rockin' bods--lean and muscular--might think of themselves as fat when they really arent. So, within being supportive, your counterpart has an obligation to be supportive, yes, but also is obligated to ask them why they think that they are "fat". And to also tell them "hey, you aren't fat........you are far from it.......be proud of where you are right now". That is a tremendous boost of self esteem.......something that will make them confident and make them feel better........maybe even change their thinking!

At least that is my own opinion........

AlbionLass

I'm an obese women (for a while longer anyway). Personally I have quite negative feelings about people, men or women who are severely overweight.
Some people think that as I'm large myself I'm not entitled to have this opinion, that we should all stick together but there it is.
I was smaller when I met my partner and he does like curves and has never put me down while I've been overweight but I know he'll be happier when I'm nearer a healthy size and weight.
When I was single I never dated anyone who was overweight as for me that isn't attractive to me and looks are what I go by initially until I get to know someone.that initial spark of attraction has to be there and that will be different for different people.
I don't really understand men who specifically go for very overweight women, I always think they might have low self esteem themselves.

There is too much patting people on the arm and saying "it's ok to to be fat, you can be how you want to be, it's alright" and not enough "Get off your *kitten* and take control". in my opinion.
People give up on losing weight without even daring to take the first step.

i_love_vinegar

I think there are sooo many things people are attracted to, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

There is someone (or something) for everyone. Literally. Some people are attracted to inanimate objects, some even to dead bodies.

As for why people are attracted to what they are attracted to, I am extremely interested in stuff related to fetishes (I research fetishes in my free time), and a lot of people feel childhood influences were at fault. Some think it is genetic. Some have no idea.

I have "yellow fever." I think due to early exposure to harem manga/anime, where the main male character is often asian. Although I am a little dubious about past lives, I still believe everything is possible. Even in Japan where I am currently living, nearly everyone comments on how "Japanese" I seem (appearance and persona) and how it seems I fit right in etc. When I was really young, according to my mom, I used to use geisha gesturings (walking around with my arms like geishas, small/fast foot steps, not looking into peoples' eyes, covering mouth when i laugh etc). Anyway haha, my point is that even past lives could be a reason for this stuff.

I think you should live how you want to live. There is no clear-set reason people are attracted to what they are attracted to.

Good luck!

KJVBear33

I'm an obese women (for a while longer anyway). Personally I have quite negative feelings about people, men or women who are severely overweight.
Some people think that as I'm large myself I'm not entitled to have this opinion, that we should all stick together but there it is.
I was smaller when I met my partner and he does like curves and has never put me down while I've been overweight but I know he'll be happier when I'm nearer a healthy size and weight.
When I was single I never dated anyone who was overweight as for me that isn't attractive to me and looks are what I go by initially until I get to know someone.that initial spark of attraction has to be there and that will be different for different people. I have got to know and like people online without knowing what they look like though.

I don't really understand men who specifically go for very overweight women, I always think they might have low self esteem themselves.

There is too much patting people on the arm and saying "it's ok to to be fat, you can be how you want to be, it's alright" and not enough "Get off your *kitten* and take control". in my opinion.
People give up on losing weight without even daring to take the first step.

Good point.......although a healthy balance and a when to say it is in order though........bottom line is that the person wont change unless they actually do want to change. They can pat you on the arm all they want, but if they aren't being real with you that their weight scares the crap out of them for obvious reasons.......like they might lose you to an early grave.....then thats not helping anyone. Certainly not them because they fear they will upset you or make you mad at them and you too because its not showing care or concern.......and certainly some people need the wake up call.

Oh, btw, you don't look obese.......you look beautiful!

XXXMinnieXXX

My partner found me very attractive when we met at a size 18-20. I'm more or less back to when I met him. I do believe hed find me more attractive slimmer although hed never say it. Just what I believe. I find it strange a man specifically liking larger women, but I suppose lots of men like slim women, so why's it that not acceptable, but liking slim women is? I think as a woman ill always believe men would prefer me slimmer, because when I think of being sexy I imagine myself still with curves but slimmer. I don't want to be too skinny, but I don't want to obese either. I think that would make me much more attractive. Isn't a healthy, happy woman really attractive? X

psiren28

Honestly, I think its absurd to be attracted to someone by their weight.

You can't help you're attracted to. Of course things like personality, sense of humour come into play as you speak to someone and get to know them but plain old physical attraction isn't something you can reason or be politically correct about. Some people find fat attractive, some repulsive, just the way it is.

There are plenty of people who aren't bothered either way by weight but if it's one of your 'things' that you're attracted to or repulsed by then that's just the way it is

JudyP0389

I think men find women sexy who are comfortable in their own skin and who treat him like a man. If you're in tune with your own sexuality and know how to make a man feel... manly... chances are good you'll always find willing partners.


I also think this is SO true!

christine24t

I think it's okay to be attracted to a certain body type, but if it gets in the way of actually dating people, then you need to reconsider. If your husband will still love you when you lose the weight, he sounds like a good guy who is just attracted to bigger women and that's cool!