This Challenge will keep me from "Wife of the Year"

rufflestx

My sweet husband has had serious surgery and is suffering. Can't sleep. Taking pain pills that alleviate most of the pain., but just not letting him sleep soundly. Daddy can't sleep, Mommy can't sleep. He can not comfortably get around on his own. I am the best wifey of all time, at least I always believed I was. I am going crazy! Just when I am in the middle of the best sleep, my poor baby needs to move, uncomfortable, needs attention, needs a pill, wants an ice pack or something to eat.
Am I being selfish? I've been thinking deep underlying need for rest is cause for my wild cravings and binges I have been experiencing. And what do you know, a special on TV shows us how studies have shown that lack of sleep or changes in sleeping habits can cause people to screw up their health. It even specifically used two men as examples who are very heavy and not able to bring their weight down, getting worse after changing their sleep habits..
Back to my honey, I feel like I am so ungrateful. Taking care of my man should be something I can do. But I am so tired, I've eaten at least one meal a day from local fast food/burger joints, can not sleep more than a couple hours without having to help my honey, I am so mad at myself for letting my work for the last 8 months get on the lowest priority, but I don't know how to make it more important without letting my husband down. Jeez.

desirae500

I understand completely. My hubby has a chronic pain issue. Started about 5 years ago with an abdominal surgery. There are times when I just wanted to run away. We do have counseling together which helped us work out sleeping and other issues (I sometimes sleep in another room). And my husband has come to understand my working out or going to the gym are part of what I need to stay strong and whole - to be a good partner. We (you and I) can never fully understand their (spouses') pain experience. But by keeping communication open and keeping ourselves healthy and strong we can be good partners! Friend or message me if you need additional support!:flowerforyou: