How do you know who to add?

Beccababe01

I know this seems a little funny but how do you know who to add? Do i go through and add all the cute men?...lol jk You know what i mean?.. i always feel strange asking someone to be my friend.. I do have a big issue with standing out and just going for it . maybe b/c for so many years people made fun of me for what i did. )

yocherries

I usually add people with similar goals or similar ages, just so you can give and receive advice that's more relatable.

Il_DaniD_lI

You can add me I add people who are new and need friends or if I find someones post funny.

dmchiz

I also look for similar type goals or people, but tonight has been fun because several new people have ased for friends and a bunch of us just all added each other- what the heck! The more support the better! I'll add you...

mrsmel55

I sent you a friends request. Not a good looking man, just an old fat lady losing weight and getting healthy. LOL

superstankazz

Well, I'm new too and I don't have many friends yet so I just send people requests as I come across them on the message boards or if they comment on one of my posts.

mahutch1

Know what you mean. I socialize on Facebook and all but this is all new to me. I want to start a walking group in my area and don't know how to quite go about it. If you figure it out, could you let me know?

EmilyMae12

I usually add people who seem really supportive in the forums, along with people with goals like mine.

trijohnny

Hello,

Add people who you feel are geniune about what they post0. If they are obvouisly here to get feed back, and such, from people about their workout, befreind them. If they do not care about your questions or comments steer clear.

Johnny

SuffolkSally

I've been wondering that too. Mostly I've been looking for people who seem supportive as opposed to overly aggressive or on some sort of misson. Some people list interests as a way of finding things in common, but that doesn't seem to make much sense to me. It's not likely that they're going to live round the corner, after all. Some of the challenges are looking good, but to be honest I haven't been very brave so far It's just to know that others out there are going through the same experience. Welcome though!

trijohnny

Nice way to protude ahead

mygrl4meee

I mostly just added woman cause I have never liked men to know what I weigh. :grumble: Doesn't mean I wouldn't accept men but not going out of my way to friend them.

Beccababe01

Thanks for the heads up.

alise_lmx

I usually add someone if I see that they wrote a blog I find useful or said something interesting in the forums. I usually message them and say "I saw you in the forums and thought you were funny/similar goals as me/smart so I thought I would add you! I've never gotten a no so far

Or you can go to the "introduce yourself" forum and post that you are looking for some friends.

feel free to add me if you like!

SuffolkSally

I know this seems a little funny but how do you know who to add? Do i go through and add all the cute men?...lol jk You know what i mean?.. i always feel strange asking someone to be my friend.. I do have a big issue with standing out and just going for it . maybe b/c for so many years people made fun of me for what i did. )

Why did people make fun of you for what you did?

Anyway, I had never thought of searching for what one of my friends refers to as "male blanket material" on this site, so that's a great tip!

alise_lmx

oh also if you are active on the forums people will start requesting you, like if they keep seeing you and decide they want to be your friend.

carlongo75

Hi Becca,

For me the more the merrier !! So I usually add everybody. However, I just send invitaction to people with same goals, people who profile looks genuine.

I like to have friends who are active part of the web by participating in the forums and blogs, also I like friends who are willing to encourage me and people who offer me their support and experience.

I hope this help!!

All the best and happy cal counting

Beccababe01

people would make fun of me for just about everything. Just to make themselves feel better. I just need to get out of the hole and be stronger then they are, But be like them... just stronger then they are.

Beccababe01

Thanks. i am on here everyday counting what i eat and what i do for workouts. pretty new to blogs.. not sure what they are.

CuteAndCurvy83

I usually approve anyone who requests me, but otherwise I try to find people who have reached goals that I want, or if we are on the same journey.

alise_lmx

people would make fun of me for just about everything. Just to make themselves feel better. I just need to get out of the hole and be stronger then they are, But be like them... just stronger then they are.

I used to get made fun of a lot in elementary, junior, and some of high school. Eventually I learned that if you don't take it, people won't dish it. Now if someone I meet is like that, I never even try to interact again. I've learned to surround myself with only supportive friends. Don't be afraid to cut jerks out of your life! It's not worth it. And I think what they say is true about people that are bullies like that just trying to compensate for their own unhappiness with themselves. It's like they can't stand to see people be happier than them.

alise_lmx

Thanks. i am on here everyday counting what i eat and what i do for workouts. pretty new to blogs.. not sure what they are.

blogs are like people's online journal, you can see "popular blog posts" right under the "popular forum topics" on your home page. A lot of people write really motivating stuff on their blogs and I've learned a lot from them.

Leiki

So far, I've only added people who showed interest in adding me because of some similarity we share, let it be location, cuisine tastes, or ability to recognize and use their and they're properly.

Courtney24107

I just add everyone! I find it more interesting that way

spaz4me2

I dunno, I actually just started requesting and adding friends a few weeks ago. I seem to think its nice to have those with a similar weight situation as we can relate to the struggles associated with obesity.

craigers13

The more support you can find on here the better. If you want to add someone I say just go for it. If they say no then it's no big deal. There are plenty of other great people to be friends with

Feel free to add me

paruls86

M in... add me... m trying to loose weight and can do with a bit o motivation myself...

sarahbetherck

I only recently started adding MFP friends that I don't know and they've generally been more active and supportive than my "real life friends"! I like to friend people with similar lifestyle/goals/age range :-)

Kell_Smurthwaite

I started by joining a couple of grops and friending a couple of the people who have similar goals to mine. Then while commenting on their profiles, I friended a few more people who were friends with them and had similar goals. I also read some blog entries and friended a few others - again with similar goals or who were ahead of me to keep me motivated. I've had a few friends requests from others who seem to have found me the same way.

GinGinSweden

I agree with most I try and only add ppl with simular goals and ones that have profile pics and have said a bit about themselves. Other ones I do not feel comfortable with and unsure of their motives to adding me if they are not the same as me and here to lose weight. But thats just me

samandlucysmum

I pick women, with a similar weight to mine, with good motivation to lose their weight.