Do you ever?

lysistrataNix

Get frustrated especially when you have friends who are losing weight and it seems the weight just falls off of them and you're stuck? I have a friend doing a no sugar, fruits, bread, potato diet and she's lost 20lbs already. I'm happy for her, but I'm frustrated that I work my butt off and have very little to show for it.

Before you all go through my food diary and point out why I'm not losing, keep in mind I've been dealing with my grandpa's declining health and now death. I'm lucky I've done as well as I have because right now I just don't feel like it.

I've only recently lost 15lbs and that's since January, the rest come from 2010 before I got pregnant with my daughter.

zoedallas

I guess people deal with death differently. My husband died and if anything it motivated me to get healthier. It gave me something that I could control and focus on, when everything else if my life was out of control.

Best of luck to you.

hdgw

Give yourself a break right now, with grandpa being ill and passing you had a lot on your plate. Stress in your life will keep pounds from dropping. Don't know why but it is a fact so as you resume your life after your loss you will find a new energy and mind set that will help you drop the weight. Just remember to eat healthy and get some exercise daily, even a walk, and find a moment to have a quiet reflective time to relax. Stay positive and you will find the weight will fall off. Good luck to you.

rowyourboat

First off yay on the 15 pounds! I'm currently dealing with my mother's declining health so I understand where you are coming from. I have my days when I just eat because it's how I deal. But I'm also looking at the overall picture and that's why I am here, just like you are. Your friend is on a diet, you are changing your life style. Go ahead, grieve however you need to grieve the next week, week and a half, and then get back on your game. You have friends who support you!

And yes, I do get frustrated but I try to think about what I'm doing and why I'm doing it.

Karalopolous

When I see my friends losing weight and I'm jealous, I sneak sugar in their foods to fatten them up, ha jk.
It sucks that some people have awesome metabolisms and some don't. I have a friend who is a size 6 and eats horribly. I love her to death, but she makes me sick!!! lol.
It's not fair, but don't focus on that. YOU lost 15 lbs, think about the people who are looking at you going "Wow, wish I could do that"... there is ALWAYS something to wish for and change, and you can do that, just have to be patient....which I am soooo not at the moment.

dimplez711

Sorry to hear about your grandfather.

I used to work with two ladies a few years younger than me, who are picky eaters and never touch vegetables, only eat junk food and can go out drinking, and they are both teeny tiny. Going out to lunch with them would drive me crazy, because they could eat burgers & fries with pop and not gain a pound, whereas I could look at a bare salad and gain 5 lbs.

Also, I've been in this on-off (currently off) friendship with someone who started at the same highest weight that I did, but she dropped 40+ lbs by exercising and trying a few different diets (including low-carb). For me, I felt that it was competitive, and because of that it seemed like we didn't truly support each other.

There's no better time than now to focus on yourself and how you can improve aspects of your life overall. Let your friend do what's working for her. I find that cutting out certain foods entirely, especially foods that were previously part of a routine, usually backfires. But that's just an observation based on personal experience lol.

LoraF83

Get frustrated especially when you have friends who are losing weight and it seems the weight just falls off of them and you're stuck? I have a friend doing a no sugar, fruits, bread, potato diet and she's lost 20lbs already. I'm happy for her, but I'm frustrated that I work my butt off and have very little to show for it.

Before you all go through my food diary and point out why I'm not losing, keep in mind I've been dealing with my grandpa's declining health and now death. I'm lucky I've done as well as I have because right now I just don't feel like it.

I've only recently lost 15lbs and that's since January, the rest come from 2010 before I got pregnant with my daughter.

A few thoughts: 15lbs since January is GREAT!!! You are doing awesome. Also, your friend will put all that weight back on when she starts eating those foods again. We've all seen it happen a million times to people on super restrictive diets. It's just not reasonable to live like that forever.
I'm sorry your grandfather passed.....it's hard to deal with that (been there). But, I can tell you that your grandpa loved you, and he would have wanted the best for you. He would want you to be healthy and happy. He would not want you to eat and gain more weight because you miss him. So, do your best to honor his memory by being as healthy and happy as possible. It may take time to get there, but just keep that in mind.
You'll get through this! Hang in there.

NeedANewFocus

Keep doing what works for you. Ups and downs exist in life and the way we choose to handle them will plant the seeds for our next steps. So sorry to hear about your grandfather's death. That is a very difficult event to cope with. Take your time and be mindful of the good he shared. Hopefully, those positive thoughts will enable your needs for a healthy journey.

i definitely get jealous when I see other people having, what occurs to me as, an easy time achieving their fitness goals. I live with a cousin who naturally burns close to 5,000 calores just sitting (slight exaggerration but you get the jist). He's parapalegic (sp?) and is solid ripped muscle. It drives me nuts sometimes to see he builds so easily and retains nearly no fat when I have to work so hard to maintain what I have now. Nonetheless, he inspires me to keep moving forward and focus on my own path. We're just built differently and will over power personal challenges as we can.