My parents have both died because of poor health.

Amy_B

Thank you for all the thoughtful replies. I am sorry so many of us have gone through this pain. At least we are here to support each other and remind each other why we are truly here.

CaptainMFP

My heart goes out to you and your family. My grandfather (who was drafted by the Chicago Bears -- a real athlete in his prime) passed under somewhat similar circumstances about seven years ago, so I know where you're coming from. Let me say, though, that I love your spirit, your attitude, and especially your ticker...it shows that you're are walking the walk, my dear, and you will be successful. :flowerforyou:

toglamgirl

You have the courage to achieve anything, this you have already proven to yourself and now in memory and to honour your parents, soldier on. BUT first, take whatever you need from your support network to grieve as others have suggested. This is your first priority.

You will know when it is time. Hugs to you.

gogojodee

OMG. Condolences to you and yours. I cannot fathom what my life would be without my mommy. Seriously. This breaks my heart. I'm trying the best that I can NOW, before I have kids to have a good lifestyle and be a good example to my family. Thanks for sharing - stuff does happen, but I would say a good majority of it is preventable. God bless.

SabrinaJL

I am 31 years old and have lost both of my parents to health related issues. My mom died in 2005 of a heart attack. She was 47 years

I'm right there with you. My mom died of a heart attack when I was 15 years old. She was 46 and did not take care of herself at all. She had untreated high bp, smoked, was obese and never exercised .

I'm flying up to Sacramento on Friday because my father is dying of congestive heart failure. He actually died on Saturday but the medics didn't know he had a DNR order and resuscitated him. At this point, its just a matter of time.

My cousin is my age (34) and has to have a triple heart bypass.

With my family history, I knew I HAD to start taking care of myself.

Monda

I lost my mama a year ago. She died of a massive heart attack. She was 61. My daddy called me at 4 in the morning and told me she was sick and to get there quickly. When I got there she was on the couch looking dead at me. She was trying to tell me something but never could ... I called 911 and before I knew it my daddy and brother in law were giving her CPR. It was the worst day of my life. I was there the whole time, hugging and kissing her and begging God to not let her die. But she did. She had never been diagnosed with heart problems. It was such a shock and still is. My daddy has had a triple bypass and I worry everyday about him. I know too well how you feel. I am just now getting back into the swing of losing weight. One day at a time is what I keep telling myself. I am praying for you. I am sorry for your hurt and pain. One day at a time.

Elizabeth_C34

I am 31 years old and have lost both of my parents to health related issues. My mom died in 2005 of a heart attack. She was 47 years

I'm right there with you. My mom died of a heart attack when I was 15 years old. She was 46 and did not take care of herself at all. She had untreated high bp, smoked, was obese and never exercised .

I'm flying up to Sacramento on Friday because my father is dying of congestive heart failure. He actually died on Saturday but the medics didn't know he had a DNR order and resuscitated him. At this point, its just a matter of time.

My cousin is my age (34) and has to have a triple heart bypass.

With my family history, I knew I HAD to start taking care of myself.

Oh my. I am so sorry for your losses as well.

*hugs*

Finally22

How sad life can be.... so sorry for your loss. Let this be your push to become stronger and live a LONG healthy life.

Hugs!!!!

Eleanorjanethinner

Adding my sympathy and empathy to those who've already posted...

Amy, you've been doing an amazing job! When you're able to, reflect on how far you've come - that's a major achievement!

I guess my other advice would be to try and wrap yourself in as much love, nurture and support as you can. Reach out to family and friends, church, whoever and tell them specifically what you'd like (people often don't know what to do). Don't be afraid to receive care from others at this time - and in an ongoing way - people are often good for the first week then kind of expect you to get over it. What about attending a grief group?

My mother died of cancer aged 64 last year (I'm 35) - about a month later I nervously attended a grief group. The other folks in the group were all normal people who'd experienced a range of tragedies. It was helpful to get together and hear about everyone's different and similar experiences and support one another and take time to grieve.

The first few weeks after Mum died, I was like a zombie- just really tired all the time, like I had the 'flu. I started tentatively with MFP as a way to control something in my life that had been out of control. It really helped! I could have small successes and something to think about other than all the icky stuff.

Anyway...be kind to yourself and God bless.

BrianSharpe

My deepest condolences.

When I read stories like this it reinforces my belief that our collective quest for better health isn't purely selfish, that our choices clearly have an impact on our loved ones.

Give yourself time to grieve and heal.

SkyPixie

My heart goes out to you because I lost both my parents to their life styles as well, they are one of my big inspirations to loose weight as I don't want to go the same way.

My mother passed away 4 years ago from pancreatic cancer which is often caused by poor life choices .. she was a heavy smoker, morbidly obese, completely sedentary and died at 64.
My father passed away 10 years ago from heart disease .. he was a heavy smoker , a heavy drinker and a steriod dependant asthamtic.
I am now watching my mother in law slowly fade away with liver and lung cancer ...a heavy smoker for years with a fat laden diet.

It makes me want to cry and get angry because there is no excuse for killing yourself with food and drink and bad habits, and watching my 9 year old nephew have to deal with the fact that Nanny is dying is just awful.

You have come a long way on your journey and should be very very proud , be kind to yourself and remember you have made the commitment not to follow in their footsteps which is a very positive thing.

Big hugs to you and everyone who has lost a parent this way.

SP
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Amy_B

It sounds like many of us have faced losses due to poor health. I am glad that we "see the light" and can change our lives.

fiabka

Oh Huni, I am so sorry.
we all need to grieve & you should never feel bad about that
It will get easier as time goes on & your fighting spirit will return
Have faith & love in yourself
With Love
:flowerforyou: