Dreading the locker room because I'm gay?

GoGoSuku

I know this sounds stupid but I always dread the locker room AND male toilets (Wow I'm weird and even weirder) I generally use the disabled one of each . I have social anxiety and that's pretty much under control to an extent but I dread the locker room and it is the reason why I don't go the gym, even weirder because I'm gay. In high school PE it used to be awkward because I came out in my last year(best thing I've ever done ). I don't try to make it awkward and I'm not denying my eyes sway as if you was a straight guy in a girls changing room(unless I'm weird). Don't hate me for it, I'm just telling the truth. There is this and then getting naked, everyone tells me its nothing but it's a big thing to me. If I get naked then what will others think? I haven't even been naked with past bfs, never mind the whole of a locker room. What do you think?

thefuzz1290

As long as you don't stare you should be fine....well that and as long as you don't carry a big sign announcing to the locker room that you're gay. Most guys probably don't have a problem with it (I know I don't), but you might cause more problems if you're blatant about it in the locker room.

GoGoSuku

Oh no, I don't make it obvious and you can only actually tell properly until I open my mouth as I have a camp voice(camp enough to notice I might be gay or am gay). I don't stare either, that would just be weird :laugh:

DogsK

Easier said than done but mate, I wouldn't even worry about it or give it a second thought. I go to the gym to get fit. I do not expect any girl/woman (or guy I suppose) to hit on me. I know I aint that good. As for getting changed in the locker room, don't know what sort of gym you attend. Mine has three wet areas with lockable doors. (Showers toilets etc) I have never used them as I either shower when I get home or when I get to work. As I started of with, easier said than done but all the best and your not weird. Just different and that is what makes people and the world interesting

zeeeb

hopefully you can desensitise yourself to it...

i used to be really self conscious because i have a gap between my front teeth. all through primary school i avoided smiling, and covered my mouth when i laughed, done dodgy closed mouth smile photos. then one day i decided, stuff it, i'm not going to hide, i am who i am, and who cares, it was so liberating, and never again did i worry about my teeth.

same with being naked infront of guys with lights on, i never did it, then all of a sudden i decided, screw it, if they want to be naked with me, then they can deal with the bumps and lumps. and decided to just do it and be proud. and it was liberating. that was of course before i had children, and when my little lumps and bumps were destroyed by stretch marks and sagging skin... ick!

AntWrig

I know this sounds stupid but I always dread the locker room AND male toilets (Wow I'm weird and even weirder) I generally use the disabled one of each . I have social anxiety and that's pretty much under control to an extent but I dread the locker room and it is the reason why I don't go the gym, even weirder because I'm gay. In high school PE it used to be awkward because I came out in my last year(best thing I've ever done ). I don't try to make it awkward and I'm not denying my eyes sway as if you was a straight guy in a girls changing room(unless I'm weird). Don't hate me for it, I'm just telling the truth. There is this and then getting naked, everyone tells me its nothing but it's a big thing to me. If I get naked then what will others think? I haven't even been naked with past bfs, never mind the whole of a locker room. What do you think?

Interesting.

I don't even think about guys being gay, when I am in the locker room. You will be alright.

Interesting, interesting.

GoGoSuku

hopefully you can desensitise yourself to it...

i used to be really self conscious because i have a gap between my front teeth. all through primary school i avoided smiling, and covered my mouth when i laughed, done dodgy closed mouth smile photos. then one day i decided, stuff it, i'm not going to hide, i am who i am, and who cares, it was so liberating, and never again did i worry about my teeth.

same with being naked infront of guys with lights on, i never did it, then all of a sudden i decided, screw it, if they want to be naked with me, then they can deal with the bumps and lumps. and decided to just do it and be proud. and it was liberating. that was of course before i had children, and when my little lumps and bumps were destroyed by stretch marks and sagging skin... ick!

Thanks, it's true and I know how liberating doing something that repressed you is! I'll just have to get over it and shower after the gym :')