Movie: Bully

chelekaz

I just finished watching Ellen and couldn't stop the tears.

They had a family on who's son committed suicide due to being bullied and they are were featured in Bully coming out next week. I know that the movie is getting an R rating for 6 instances of language but I truly believe that a permission slip should be sent home for every child in every middle/high school for them to be able to watch it.

My step daughter has high functioning autism and was bullied horrifically in school. Slammed into walls, stuff thrown at her on the bus, the school was horrible and nothing worked until she finally had a growth spurt and is now 5'11. She started fighting back; not that we encouraged the violence but we did encourage defense.

I am going to take my 9 yr old to watch it. We talk to both of our kids (ages 9 and 6) about bullying. We talk about the difference between bullying and teasing. How to respond to it being done to them AND when they see it done to someone else. We've talked to them about what their older sister went through (she is now 20) to show them that it impacts all families and they (seem to) really get it. I think talking about what happened to their sister and telling them that each of those kids who are bullied is someone's sister, brother, daughter, son and that as bad as they feel for their sister is how THEIR family feels for them.

Is anyone else taking on the No Bully Project and talking about it or going with their kids to see it?

Scott613

Simple way to not get bullied........Fight back!

chelekaz

But what about the kids , especially w/ disabilities, who don't know how to fight back?
Fighting back only goes so far... and might keep that one child from being picked on but what about the next kid?

PepeGreggerton

My son has high functioning autism and gets bullied. He is such a sweet little boy and is scared to fight back or defend himself. It breaks my heart.

PlanetVelma

My son has high functioning autism and gets bullied. He is such a sweet little boy and is scared to fight back or defend himself. It breaks my heart.

Kids can be really cruel.

My daughter has been dealing w/ bullying (mean girl stuff) since 2nd grade! Dude, she's in 4th. It took a little while, but she's FINALLY developing her sarcasm & wit and has learned to be assertive while sticking up for herself & her friends.

She has a couple kids in her class who are autistic and the other kids can be really mean. It's sad because there's a girl in her after school program who always gets sad when I pick my daughter up early, because my daughter is the only one nice to her! Ugh!

Sooo...I make sure my daughter always invites her over for play dates and such......just so they have an event that nobody else was invited to (I hope that made sense).

My son went through some bullying stuff...until he had a growth spurt and put one kid in a head lock. Ummm yea, they never thered him again after that!

kb455

I just finished watching Ellen and couldn't stop the tears.

They had a family on who's son committed suicide due to being bullied and they are were featured in Bully coming out next week. I know that the movie is getting an R rating for 6 instances of language but I truly believe that a permission slip should be sent home for every child in every middle/high school for them to be able to watch it.

My step daughter has high functioning autism and was bullied horrifically in school. Slammed into walls, stuff thrown at her on the bus, the school was horrible and nothing worked until she finally had a growth spurt and is now 5'11. She started fighting back; not that we encouraged the violence but we did encourage defense.

I am going to take my 9 yr old to watch it. We talk to both of our kids (ages 9 and 6) about bullying. We talk about the difference between bullying and teasing. How to respond to it being done to them AND when they see it done to someone else. We've talked to them about what their older sister went through (she is now 20) to show them that it impacts all families and they (seem to) really get it. I think talking about what happened to their sister and telling them that each of those kids who are bullied is someone's sister, brother, daughter, son and that as bad as they feel for their sister is how THEIR family feels for them.

Is anyone else taking on the No Bully Project and talking about it or going with their kids to see it?

I agree 100%. I would LOVE to have this movie shown in schools nationwide. I haven't seen it but I've heard so much about it. I want to see it, but I'm sure its going to be heartbreaking to watch My oldest is 7 though so I'm not sure if I should have him watch it or not.

chelekaz

I just finished watching Ellen and couldn't stop the tears.

They had a family on who's son committed suicide due to being bullied and they are were featured in Bully coming out next week. I know that the movie is getting an R rating for 6 instances of language but I truly believe that a permission slip should be sent home for every child in every middle/high school for them to be able to watch it.

My step daughter has high functioning autism and was bullied horrifically in school. Slammed into walls, stuff thrown at her on the bus, the school was horrible and nothing worked until she finally had a growth spurt and is now 5'11. She started fighting back; not that we encouraged the violence but we did encourage defense.

I am going to take my 9 yr old to watch it. We talk to both of our kids (ages 9 and 6) about bullying. We talk about the difference between bullying and teasing. How to respond to it being done to them AND when they see it done to someone else. We've talked to them about what their older sister went through (she is now 20) to show them that it impacts all families and they (seem to) really get it. I think talking about what happened to their sister and telling them that each of those kids who are bullied is someone's sister, brother, daughter, son and that as bad as they feel for their sister is how THEIR family feels for them.

Is anyone else taking on the No Bully Project and talking about it or going with their kids to see it?

I agree 100%. I would LOVE to have this movie shown in schools nationwide. I haven't seen it but I've heard so much about it. I want to see it, but I'm sure its going to be heartbreaking to watch My oldest is 7 though so I'm not sure if I should have him watch it or not.

I think having 6/7 year olds watching comes down to parents knowing their child. If their child isn't going to "get it" then maybe hold off a year. My 6 year old would understand what is going on just because we are very open in our household about all issues (school, politics, environment, even (gasp) sex (to their level of understanding of course)).

chelekaz

I believe, and this is just my opinion, that most children who are bullies are learning from home from parents who do not realize that they are passing this on to their children. What we grew up with as "teasing" gets taken to new levels. We also have to understand that as children, when we came home from school, any teasing was over. We didn't have texting, facebook, skype, etc. which allows for even more access to attack these kids.

When I think about some of the things that I said when I was younger I think OMG, I wonder how that it affected this person. I wasn't trying to be mean, just that little girl teasing but I bet just because I didn't mean it to BE mean, doesn't mean it couldn't have still hurt.

We teach our children to accept people the way they are. My kids are ones who will go up to someone with an obvious disability (ie, wheelchair, missing limb) and talk with the person and ask questions. As my 6yr old said at dinner last night, "People are people, does it matter what we look like or have?".