When Does one Cease to be Single? When exclusive, when marri
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I'm curious about when one stops being single. Is it when you get married? Is it when you are exclusive with someone? I have been seeing a lot of people in relationships say they are married but aren't actually engaged and haven't set a wedding date. I primarily see Women do this. Is this a mistake? Is this the newage dating. What are your thoughts? Inquiring minds want to know . . .
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You stop being single when you stop dating other people. You aren't married until you have that legal document. My only exception for that would be gay couples who still aren't allowed to get married legally. If Bob wants to introduce Dave as his husband I'm fine with that. It just means they would be married if the government wasn't so dang involved in people's personal lives.
ETA - the only people I've ever known who said they were married when they aren't even engaged (aside from gay couples) are teenage girls. IMO it makes them look silly and stupid.0 -
I stop being single when I consider someone my boyfriend and they consider me their girlfriend. Once they are my boyfriend, I will commit 100% and not date other people.
I've never met someone who said they were married, but weren't even engaged, so maybe it is new age...
PS: Bahet, I love your avatar picture! :laugh:0 -
I agree with what the previous posters have said. You're single until you start dating someone exclusively, and you're not married until you have a marriage certificate.
Teenage girls and immature people are the only ones I've seen with "married" FB statuses that aren't really married. My fiance's ex-girlfriend was with a guy for 4+ years and they had kids together, and she always referred to him in public as her "husband" and her boyfriend's mom as her "mother-in-law," and made my fiance's daughter call her boyfriend her step-dad. She just wanted to legitimize her relationship.0 -
I know many common-law couples that consider themselves married. Some even have wedding rings, they just never felt the need to actually get married on paper.0
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When facebook says so haha
But seriously... I thought people would understand the relationship levels better than that. You're single when you're not sharing a mutual commitment with someone, you're in a relationship when you do have that commitment, engaged when your partner asks (make sure they aren't joking), and you are married when the government says so. (apart from the poor gays who get no respectas stated above)
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in my opinion, you stop being single when you've had "the talk". Once the two of you decide to become exclusive, you're not single. And, you're not married, until you're married. With the exception of common law marriage, but even then, not really. I wouldn't go around calling someone my husband if I hadn't taken his last name and had official documentation, but that's just me.0
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I think you stop being single when you and your partner discuss it and mutually decide that you are in a relationship. I think too many people rush into this, and they think that they have a "relationship" too soon. In my opinion, it takes several months to actually have a real relationship with someone, because the first part of dating is the "honeymoon" phase so to speak, and you may fall in love, but you don't really know the person well enough until you get past that.0
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I just realised my sentence " I thought people would understand the relationship levels better than that" sounded rude to the person who started the thread... sorry, it was directed towards the people who are making things up without putting any effort into making it true.0
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in my opinion, you stop being single when you've had "the talk". Once the two of you decide to become exclusive, you're not single. And, you're not married, until you're married. With the exception of common law marriage, but even then, not really. I wouldn't go around calling someone my husband if I hadn't taken his last name and had official documentation, but that's just me.
Exactly this!0 -
Huh, that's odd. I'm not sure where the OP is seeing this but I can only assume it's on some social network site and maybe there's no option for relationship status between Single and Married? So even though they're not married, they're in an exlcusive relationship and consider themselves "off the market" so they choose Married in order to avoid being hit on?
There are other reasons I can think of but they're purely egotistical and don't really make sense...like they're saying they're married because it's embarrassing to say they've been in a relationship with the same guy for 5 years and they're not even engaged. Who knows, people are crazy!0 -
For IRS and Census purposes, it's when you get legally married.
For whether you can date other people purposes, it's when you are exclusive.
I've lived with my boyfriend for seven years. People jokingly refer to him as my husband, but it's just a joke.0 -
For IRS and Census purposes, it's when you get legally married.
For whether you can date other people purposes, it's when you are exclusive.
I've lived with my boyfriend for seven years. People jokingly refer to him as my husband, but it's just a joke.
This is why when I hit of some girl who says they are married I ask for documentation. Otherwise they are playing hard to get.0 -
My fiance's ex-girlfriend was with a guy for 4+ years and they had kids together, and she always referred to him in public as her "husband" and her boyfriend's mom as her "mother-in-law," and made my fiance's daughter call her boyfriend her step-dad. She just wanted to legitimize her relationship.0
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For IRS and Census purposes, it's when you get legally married.
For whether you can date other people purposes, it's when you are exclusive.
I've lived with my boyfriend for seven years. People jokingly refer to him as my husband, but it's just a joke.
^^^^^^^ This.
I am an accountant so I could be jaded. LOL! I am also married. However, in my mind I ceased being single when I said I do. I was exclusive after a week with my BF that became my Hubby 2 years later but I had been exclusive, engaged, living together and the invites were sent and my ex called the wedding off 4 weeks prior. Thus, although I knew Hubby was the one and has been for 10 years, I was Single until we both said I do in front of God, our families and friends in 2004.
IMO, when Men or Women use the term Married, Husband, Wife, etc (when they aren't or aren't attempting to keep the Circus Freaks away) it isn't wise. Why give the milk away for Free and Tell people you are the cow--when you are just the Milk. Albeit perhaps lovingly the bottle of milk--but still just the milk.0 -
in my opinion, you stop being single when you've had "the talk". Once the two of you decide to become exclusive, you're not single. And, you're not married, until you're married. With the exception of common law marriage, but even then, not really. I wouldn't go around calling someone my husband if I hadn't taken his last name and had official documentation, but that's just me.
This!
Fiance and I have lived together for two years, I have never referred to him as my husband, that would be weird in my opinion! Thou, in three months we will be married!
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My fiance's ex-girlfriend was with a guy for 4+ years and they had kids together, and she always referred to him in public as her "husband" and her boyfriend's mom as her "mother-in-law," and made my fiance's daughter call her boyfriend her step-dad. She just wanted to legitimize her relationship.
I thought common law marriage was after 7 years . . .0 -
My fiance's ex-girlfriend was with a guy for 4+ years and they had kids together, and she always referred to him in public as her "husband" and her boyfriend's mom as her "mother-in-law," and made my fiance's daughter call her boyfriend her step-dad. She just wanted to legitimize her relationship.
I thought common law marriage was after 7 years . . .
It's more complicated than that. Just living together for so many years does not make it a common law marriage, even with children. And not every state allows common law marriage.0 -
For IRS and Census purposes, it's when you get legally married.
For whether you can date other people purposes, it's when you are exclusive.
I've lived with my boyfriend for seven years. People jokingly refer to him as my husband, but it's just a joke.
This is why when I hit of some girl who says they are married I ask for documentation. Otherwise they are playing hard to get.
True. Very true.0 -
"I'm curious about when one stops being single."
Depends if you ask the male in the relationship or the female! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
My fiance's ex-girlfriend was with a guy for 4+ years and they had kids together, and she always referred to him in public as her "husband" and her boyfriend's mom as her "mother-in-law," and made my fiance's daughter call her boyfriend her step-dad. She just wanted to legitimize her relationship.
I thought common law marriage was after 7 years . . .
I think it depends on the state. Texas can be 6 months IF bills come to the house with both names, i.e. you are Barbara Smith and he is Joe Green and the bills say Barbara Green, etc. In Texas, that can be claimed as common law after 6 months living together. But, that still isn't legally binding.0
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