smaller looking women who weigh more than me?!?!?!?!

DatEpicChick

okay, so i've been creeping on this fatty facebook.

AND GOD DARN.

I know that i had a baby, and lot of complications, and i have a long way to go!

BUT

i like HATE these gorgeous women on here who weigh at LEAST 10 pounds more than i do,

and LOOK WAY BETTER.

i mean, they have no pooch, no flabby, i mean good lord, they can wear bikinis,

and i jiggle everywhere!

HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

...kinda hating you lucky gals...

time for this chick to hit the weights hahahahaha

tameko2

we're a LOT harder on our own bodies than we are on other people - I doubt they look quite as much better as you think they do in your head.

But also some of it is just plain bonestructure - I'm heavy as snapdoozle, I look firmer than women who weigh 10 lbs less than I do. Some of its muscle (yay) but a lot of it is just plain.... HEAVY. I don't really know what it is. I'm really super heavy. I have friends close to my height that weigh 40 lbs less than I do and look great, if I weight that much I'd be in the hospital.

_HeathBar_

EveryBODY is different. I could probably have a flat-ish tummy at 200lbs but then I'd have a butt so wide it wouldn't fit through a door. Other women carry all in their tummy but their butt and hips remain smallish.

Also height is a big factor, you weight less then I do right now but I'm also 5'9 and would never be able to get down to 125lbs safely.

Skyflier83

It's so crazy isn't it, someone had posted a link to an image gallery of real women and all I could think was how can they have a flat stomach and look fantastic in a bikini and I can't?! But then I got my boyfriend to take a pic of me and suddenly thought maybe I'm not as big as I think I am.

It's hard being female

GetFitE

I know the feeling. I watch Biggest loser & the ladies always get down below me & they still look WAY heavier than me. I have heavy bones, high muscle density. I weight 200lbs STILL (and no one believes me when I tell them). Most people think I'm between 170-180. It's tough for myself because I know my REAL weight, but it's also nice knowing I don't look 200lbs to anyone else.

njean888

Hard exercise! At least that's what keeps me tight. Insanity, P90X, spinning, weightlifting, running, 6 times a week!

littlemili

Strength training, good dress sense and genetics. My BMI is 21 but I look smaller than a lot of ladies with lower BMI because I have a load of muscle.

Iheartsushi

Yep I struggle with this too...but it's because I'm short (4'11). Me being at 130lbs looks completely different then most of my friends! Even when I was at 115lbs I was still rocking a size 8 because of these hips. Gotta love genes!!!!

JaninaRello

Density. They're body is denser than yours. They've either got more muscle or more compressed fat.

I know it's tough but don't sweat it.

KPainter70

I think a lot of it comes down to lean body mass. Think of it like this - a pound of muscle is like the size of an orange, a pound of fat is like a grapefruit. Put 50 of them in a bag, which one will look smaller? And yet they still weigh the same.

modernmom70

Don't be discouraged! If you wanna look like that lift weights! a pound of muscle takes up less space than a pound of fat, that's why women can weight more and look thinner. I am a size 6 5'4" and weigh 135lbs....before weight lifting the last time I was a size 6 I was aoubt 115lbs.
And....you probably look better than you see yourself as, us women are our own worst critics!

Bentley2718

As others have pointed out, part of it may be differences in height (which is obviously an important factor), but also in bone structure. You can't really do anything about either of these. The thing you can change is how much muscle you have relative to fat, which makes a huge different in how you look. There is a commonly posted picture around here, of a woman who gained a little weight building muscle, but looks a lot tighter/firmer, because it's muscle and not fat. So adding strength building to your fitness routine may be the key to getting the body you want. Also, the other thing you can do is stop comparing yourself to others so much. You don't have someone else's body, you have yours, so work on it.

mikesa3

It's called being skinny fat. When your weight is good but everything is soft with low muscle tone. Usually look good dressed so no one thinks you're flabby. That's what I am. My body fat was 40% when it was checked though I'm not overweight .My middle is flabby which is the worse place to carry fat since that means it's internal and on the organs. I've lost 5lbs with stength training and some cardio and I can see a big difference already. Still have a long ways to go but it does work. Get lifting.
Nancy

modernmom70

Also, the other thing you can do is stop comparing yourself to others so much. You don't have someone else's body, you have yours, so work on it.

And This!!!

hanna6774

We are our own worst critics. Don't compare yourself to anyone else - EVER! Everyone, every body is different. It all comes down to fat VS muscle. If you look at two women who are the same height, same weight but one has higher body fat - she will look bigger. Muscle is leaner. Exercise is the only answer - you can sculpt your body and get the shape that works for you. Losing weight too fast is not sustainable or maintainable, eating too little will make you lose that amazing muscle and you can't get it back, going all out with exercise from the get go is definitely one of the reasons so many people quit. . Just remember to be patient and go slow. Sooner than you think someone will be writing the same thing you did only it will be about you!

AlayshaJ

My friend has a little belly and no muscle and she weighs like 10lbs less than me. We are the same size, same frame, same pant size but I weigh more. I just have alot less fat... and more booty

Rjdj3530

I know the feeling. I watch Biggest loser & the ladies always get down below me & they still look WAY heavier than me. I have heavy bones, high muscle density. I weight 200lbs STILL (and no one believes me when I tell them). Most people think I'm between 170-180. It's tough for myself because I know my REAL weight, but it's also nice knowing I don't look 200lbs to anyone else.

This sounds alot like me. People always seem surprised at my weight. What gets me the most is when they say..oh my you are losing and I haven't lost anything in a year!

LorinaLynn

I'm the same size at 130 as I was more than 10 years ago at 120, and it's not luck, it's muscle.

When I weighed 120 back then, a large part of it was because I had a jaw problem and couldn't eat normally, so I was kind of malnourished and had a higher body fat percentage and less lean muscle. Now at 130 pounds, I exercise regularly and pay attention to my nutrients, so I have a lot more muscle.

On the other hand, about 5 years ago, I lost weight by going low calorie for too long, and I was a lot bigger at 130 pounds then than I am at 130 now.

Rae6503

Taller

More muscle

bigger frame.

I weigh 160lbs.

CoryIda

Muscle is what makes the difference, not luck.

If you haven't read this before, learn about Staci:
http://nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

lauehorn

okay, so i've been creeping on this fatty facebook.

AND GOD DARN.

I know that i had a baby, and lot of complications, and i have a long way to go!

BUT

i like HATE these gorgeous women on here who weigh at LEAST 10 pounds more than i do,

and LOOK WAY BETTER.

i mean, they have no pooch, no flabby, i mean good lord, they can wear bikinis,

and i jiggle everywhere!

HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

...kinda hating you lucky gals...

time for this chick to hit the weights hahahahaha

Weights. Weights. Weights. Weights. Weights. Stay off the scale, ignore the weight, don't stress over pounds. It's all about building muscle and torching the fat. Your weight won't matter any more after that. Keep going and don't be discouraged! You'll get there!

vypeters

Lean mass. Bone (I have a heavy frame) and muscle are more dense than fat, so a person with a heavy frame or lots of muscle will be smaller at the same weight. You can't do much about your skeletal structure, but you can add muscle.

There's a term "skinny fat" to describe people who are light in weight but still have a pretty high body fat percentage because they have no muscle.

Sheila1968

Add me to the "Gee, you weigh THAT much?" camp. I guess that's good that I don't look as heavy as I am! For me the proof was going from 130 to 140 from lifting weights, but still fitting into all of my clothes.

Now at 154, I am NOT fitting into all of my clothes at the moment, but that's another story. Working to get back down to the 140s.

Starbella19

I find this really weird too.! I've been doing so much research on body fat % and I found that I have 26.3% body fat but I weigh 193 lbs.. I've always carried my weight well but it always discouraged me that I was that much while others were like 120 and lower. But now I understand it's all about lean body mass and body fat %. I don't know how I have all that lean body mass though.

_Bob_

yep it's all about weight training

fteale

Add me to the "Gee, you weigh THAT much?" camp. I guess that's good that I don't look as heavy as I am! For me the proof was going from 130 to 140 from lifting weights, but still fitting into all of my clothes.

Now at 154, I am NOT fitting into all of my clothes at the moment, but that's another story. Working to get back down to the 140s.

I am firmly in that camp. I weigh about 9 stone and people are always horrified if I tell them.

thelovelyLIZ

I have this problem a lot. I see women my height and weight who look much better than I do. I think part of it, for me anyway, is a mental block and I still see my old body. I'm starting to really see the progress now, but it's taken a while. Also, I know I have a small frame, so I'll have to be at a lower weight, since my bones are smaller.

TinkrBelz

Well, I say keep working at it. I could have given up...I guess I did a little after my 6th baby. Stretch marks, loose tummy skin, wider hips (5 boys hips never spread, last child girl....my hip bones got wider!!) And 39 when she was born too.

I was frustrated and just thought...this is it. Then last year, I said NO. I have always been fit and thin.

Joined gym...blah blah blah. Lost weight and looked good. But what about this dang tummy skin. I am now eating leaner, trying to lose fat but not my muscles...and i can see a difference. I am in no way going to look as good as you young chicks....but I was determined to not let the fact that I am a 41 year old mom of 6 let my body go to pot!

Stay to it girls...just because our bodies change from having babies, does not mean that our bodies are destroyed...we can work hard to get it the best that it can be.

And., i do have the stretch marks and when I bend over, I get that little tummy skin...but it loks a lot better than it did Jan 1, 2012!!!

One more thing....I am wearing the same size at 130lbs (now) as when I was 30 years old and weighed 115!!

sukatx

It's because muscle really does weigh more than fat. I'll give you my own personal example.

Seven or so years ago, I weighed 130 lbs. and I wore a size 10. Now, I weigh 158 lbs and I wear a size 10. I have more muscle on my body now than I did then, and I'm healthier for it.

naturerunner

As others have pointed out, part of it may be differences in height (which is obviously an important factor), but also in bone structure. You can't really do anything about either of these. The thing you can change is how much muscle you have relative to fat, which makes a huge different in how you look. There is a commonly posted picture around here, of a woman who gained a little weight building muscle, but looks a lot tighter/firmer, because it's muscle and not fat. So adding strength building to your fitness routine may be the key to getting the body you want. Also, the other thing you can do is stop comparing yourself to others so much. You don't have someone else's body, you have yours, so work on it.

I love the last line about stopping comparing yourself to others. "You don't have someone else's body, you have yours, so work on it." We all would be better off if we could focus more on doing things for the benefit of our health and not caring so much about what others think.

sarah44254

Muscle is what makes the difference, not luck.

If you haven't read this before, learn about Staci:
http://nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

:drinker: STACI !!! :bigsmile: