Need some support

NavyKnightAh13

Today is my 6 month wedding anniversary. Well, we went out to Ruby Tuesday's and my husband saw someone with an ill fitting shirt on. I asked him if he would at least tell me if i didn't look right in something. He said that a few of my spaghetti strap shirts (including the white one that the picture was taken in) was unflattering and that i shouldn't wear them out in public (it took me 23 years to finally wear a spaghetti strap shirt). Ok, i can understand that, but when I asked him if he and my son would come to a marathon to support me, he said "why would i do that? why would i go and watch a bunch of runners run?" I am kinda bummed out, but still wanna go for it, on top of that, he keeps saying "not that I thought you weren't attractive before, or that I'm insinuating that you are fat because you are attractive and you aren't fat but" before he says something....I just need some support. (I really love my husband and I know that he supports me losing weight, and loves me for who I am)

Gr8ChangesAhead

Congrats on anniversary and baby too. Go run that marathon for yourself!!!

pinuplove

Sometimes men can be a little clueless about how we perceive things. You asked him to do something (tell you if your clothes were unflattering) and he did. End of story, for him. You asked, he answered. He probably just loves you and wants you to look your best and be happy and comfortable with yourself.

As for the marathon, have you explained that it is not about watching runners run, but about supporting you in something that Is important to you? Don't hint or hedge around it - be direct, even blunt. If he still doesn't go, the go do it for yourself and don't get discouraged! You are improving yourself every day.

judybrim

Oooooo...lots of exciting things happening in your life! The best of which is you taking charge of your life and making changes for a healthier lifestyle! As said above, men aren't always the best at providing support in all we do. So, make sure you have a firm grip on your reasons for taking this journey to better health and let your motivations be your drive. Write it out...say it out loud....remind yourself often of your reasons and your goals. You can do this!! And we are all here to support you, too! Great job getting started on this program. It's great. I love the clear picture it gives me of what's happening in my body! I'm down 45 lbs so far and getting closer to my goal weight! Everyone on mfp have been so helpful and encouraging. I hope you enjoy this new path! Onward, girl! ....Judy

yustick

Congratulations on your anniversary.

Recently, I read an article outlining pointers for woman that wanted to lose weight. One of the pointers was to tell the people in your life that the change was important to you and to let them clearly know what you need from them to help you succeed.

I did this with my husband and so far it is working. I am asking a lot from him, so I constantly tell him how much I appreciate everything and remind him of the benefits for him as I lose weight and have more energy. I really need his help to succeed.

You may just want to tell your husband how important it is to you to complete the marathon and how you look forward to seeing him at the finish line to share your victory. He's lucky you're not trying to get him to do it with you.