YOUR MOTHER IN LAW>>? PLEASE ENLIGHTen ME,,

marywanoKC

My MIL is wonderful and sweet. My own mom is a head case, and my MIL told my now husband when I moved into the neighborhood that I was going to need a friend, and that he should be my friend. He was awkward and shy, and a few years older, but we fell in love. She's always been a supportive person, and sometimes a little too intrusive, but I love her very much.

kellster111

I haven't spoken to my MIL for 2 years since she was rude to both me and my husband (her son), she then threw us out of her house. Everyone present at the time agrees that she was out or order but refuses to apologise so neither my husband or I or our 2 children have had any contact. Even before this event she was always nasty to me and didn't like me, but as I don't value her opnion it never bothered me, but it got under her skin.
Her loss as she is missing out on her son and 2 wonderful grandchildren.

beachbumdoug

let me just say i packed my crap and moved to another state to get away from her evil. she runs on hate and destruction.best advice i could ever offer is to look at inlaws before saying i do.

UnderConstructionLuis

My MIL is a bit of both....good and bad. I should have known better what i was getting into when she said to my then fiance that, " you spend to much time with him." Yep....i should have known. This is all my opinion.....she's a manipulator. She's been single for over 4 years and all she wants to do is spend time at our house. It's a bit much. No privacy if you ask me. My wife chalks it up to, " she only has me." I say she needs friends and to date. She's an attractive woman too. She takes advantage of my wife. Always says, " when u were growing up i did this and that for you." So now she thinks my wife should be there for her at the drop of a hat. She tries to correct us in dealing with our 4 year old son. My wife continues to do so much for her which i know is not helping the issue. Gosh, i can go on and on.

Hellbent_Heidi

I'm very lucky...mine is great (she's actually thanked me for taking good care of her son, and minds her own business). A lot of my girlfriends are not so lucky, so I know enough to appreciate a good one!!

p0stdramatic

My mother in law passed away in January of 2009. I never thought I would miss her as much as I do. We had a love/hate relationship with each other. She was someone that a book could (and probably should) be written about. She was an alcoholic and she died from liver disease. She was also absolutely bat**** crazy lol. She was Cajun French and also one of the most fun people I have ever known in my life (and did I mention crazy?). The holidays have been absolutely depressing since she's been gone, and will never be the same. Once I met my husband, his family became my true family. Since my mother in law passed away, we never see anyone except one of his brothers.

Travelfixer

I'm divorced and I get long better now with my ex mil than before! I even went to Hawaii for a memorial service with her when no one in her family would go! I really think a lot boils down to communication, I didn't think she liked me when I was married, I think sometimes the son gets in the way! Lol

wave143j

My MIL pretends to like me when my husband is around but reality is not so pretty. I don't hold up to the impossibly high standards she expects and feels her son deserves. We've been married for 17 years. My SIL hates me as well.

As for my FIL and BILs, there couldn't be three more loving people in the world. Must be just the women in the family.

kristymccarrick

used to be a nightmare omg

Travelfixer

I have learned the hard way not to speak ill of my MIL... especially if I have had too many drinks and am around people I do not know well.

SOMEHOW.. she found out I thought she was overly controlling and the most cheap person I have ever met...at least no one really thought that was news... nor when they found out my opinion of her cooking skills....:laugh:

Hahaha too funny, love it! I hope I'm not posted about when my sons marry! Lmao

jojopel

She's OK, but thank goodness we live three hours away. She has three sons and one daughter and the only child who counts is her daughter. At Christmas one year, she told me that there is no one she loves more than her daughter: my father-in-law and husband were right there. Wow! I lost all respect for her then.

I could go on and on about the things she's said, but to what purpose? I've come to the realization that she's not malicious, she's just clueless about the impact of her words.

I tolerate her out of respect for my husband and father-in-law. They are two of the sweetest men to walk the face of the earth and the last thing I want is to hurt them.

foxy2311

I have been blessed to have had two mother-in-laws that were both great. I'm still in contact (allbeit rarely) with my ex mother-in-law from my first marriage. My husband and I lost his mom last summer from breast cancer. She was the such a wonderful woman (and we shared a common hatred for my husbands ex-wife). lol. She's very much missed.

♥Amy♥

Mine is a PITA. I'm glad that we live 11 hours away, but it makes the visits here seem to last an eternity because they stay with us and are around 24 hours out of the day with no break. She's overbearing, nosy, rude to me and doesn't respect anything I have to say about any subject, especially concerning our 2 sons.

Charliesuccess

My MIL has Major major issues....I care about her, but she makes liking her very difficult. My husband cant stand her, so I rarely see her and when I do she usually wants something, ANYTHING as long as she's gaining and your losing. But pray for her regularly.

UsedToBeHusky

She and I are really close. I say she is the best thing I got out of the divorce besides the children. She does some things that I don't like, but all in all, I really love her!!

Sh1tsRainbows

Ive met her once in 11 years..she lives in maine..sept of last year she decided she'd move out her to help our her youngest son, my BIL...she met my kids and niece, they became attached..she decided the altitude was too much for her and she couldnt breathe...when in reality she wanted to run away from of the drama from the BIL, she was warned about before she got here. she moved back to maine march 1st...good riddance...too bad my kids got attached to their g-ma only to have her move away.

One good thing is it makes me admire my SO much more to see what he had to grow up with and still turned out to be such a wonderful dad!!!

alucard75

She is the devil...doesn't talk to me nor my Wife, and was trying to play favorites with the grandkids.

_HeathBar_

Mine is awesome, we had a few awkward moments but now I love her.

poedunk65

My mother in law is so juiced up on various meds she is a basket case.

Tinman42

My mother-in-law is wonderful - such a blessing! My parents are very busy with helping my single brother with his kids and so I don't always like to burden them with things. Thankfully, my in-laws are always there when I need them - whether I ask for their help or not!! My family actually lived with them for a time and it was a much more wonderful experience than I ever thought it would be.

I thank God every day for my mother (and father) in-law!!

smsinger75

My MIL is so awesome!! I love her so much! She is one of the best people I have ever met and it is truly a gift that she is in my life. She knows all the good and bad about me and still loves me. I know I can call her anytime and just talk about nothing in particular or ask her for advice. I trust her more than I do my own mom. If anything were to happen to hubby and I, our children would go and be with my MIL. No question! I just wish she lived closer. She lives in the next state and takes about 8 hours to get there. My FIL passed away a few years ago. Wish she would consider moving closer to us or just come for an extended visit. BIL and SIL also live up our direction. So if she came up here, she would be close to 2 out of her 3 children. But for now I enjoy the time we do get to spend together when we go to visit her.

MrsMrtz

....after much prayers, she's ok now.

chantel242

I haven't seen her in almost one year and I can walk to her house...

Grlnxtdr0721

It depends on the day, her mood, etc....Yea, suffice it to say she isn't someone I pick up the phone and call too often...

jcpmoore

I loved my mother in law for the first 15 years I knew her. We got along great. Then she started to attack my husband. Now we don't get along so great.

livinginwoods

Love her! Even when we don't agree. Family is family.

Jaloth

My mother -in -law is the best!!! She looks after all of us!!!

BlueInkDot

My future mother-in-law is awesome. She's strong, knowledgable, honest and straight-forward. She tells it like it is and wears her heart on her sleeve. I love how genuine she is. I've always been able to talk to her very openly, especially once my fiance and I got out of the "teenagers-in-love" stage and into the "long term relationship" stage. Then she became more of a friend than a mom.

Sometimes it gets a little difficult to talk to her just because she'll get wrapped up in something and has trouble listening to what I'm saying, so it's not like I can confide in her or whatever? But I'm glad I can be there for her and she can confide in me. So at least there's that. I'm just glad we're on good terms and I'm glad she's easy to talk to. Other people have much more disturbing complaints about their mother-in-laws! My complaints aren't nearly as serious. She's just the way she is. Nothing horrible. :P

Oh and her cooking is AMAZING. Haha.

99clmsntgr

For the most part I get along great with my in-laws. MIL is generally nice and kind-hearted but, like most MIL's has a couple of habits that drive me bat-**** crazy.

Primarily is that she is the enabler in my in-law's house. My father-in-law is obese and is Type II diabetic and seems to have little to no impulse control. Yet the MIL has to have sweets (cookies, cake, cupcakes, you name it) in the house. And on top of that she's always buying sweets "to bring over" because there's not many in my wife and my house (there's a reason for that) and pushing sweets and food on my kids.
Example - last weekend we went to see them. My wife's aunts and uncles were going to come over to see the kids before they leave to go back up north (they're snowbirds) so we decided to get together at the in-law's place for lunch since it was sort-of in the middle. We show up just before 11:00, family is supposed to get there between 11:00 and 11:30, we'll cook out as soon as they get there.

MIL - I bought some cookies, do the kids need a snack?
Me - No. No snacks right now, we're going to be eating lunch soon.
MIL - How about some fruit instead? I have bananas and strawberries and watermelon.
Me - No, we're going to be eating lunch in about a half hour, I'd like them to actually eat it when we do.
MIL - Well, are you sure they're not hungry?
Me - (inside voice is saying many bad words) I think they'll be fine.

This was followed by, as soon as they finished eating lunch,

MIL - to our 4 year old - Do you want a cupcake for dessert?
Me - (relenting, she ate all her lunch, and I'm OK with her having sweets, but she's notorious for just eating the frosting and I hate wasting food...) Katherine, if you want a cupcake now, you don't get any treats later. And you had better not just eat the frosting and waste the rest of the cupcake.
K - OK, Daddy, I won't waste it. (Katherine proceeds to just eat the frosting and throws the cupcake away ("I don't like it, Daddy.") :mad:)

Jump ahead a few hours to dinner. We eat, everything's good.

MIL - Katherine, there's one cupcake left, do you want it?
Me - Remember how I told her that if she had one earlier she didn't get one now?
MIL - Well, I thought maybe she'd want one...
Me - Remember how I told her that if she had one earlier she didn't get one now? And how she wasted the last one you gave her? No cupcakes or any other dessert you may have stashed away in the house, she's had enough sweets today.
MIL - Well, I thought she might just want something sweet...
Me - **SCOWL** (which ended it, by the way)

There is one other thing she does that drives me nuts. If we invite them over for holiday dinners we normally share the meal (we'll make certain parts, they'll make others), which I'm OK with. But what drives me insane, and some may not think this is a big deal but it makes me batty, is that she'll bring pots and pans and whatever utensils she thinks she needs to make whatever she's making because "I didn't think you had any." WTF!? I know I shouldn't let this one bother me, but it's pretty insulting (at least to me) when you don't think that your mid-30's daughter and her husband don't have anything beyond a dorm-room kitchen. I can understand her bringing some specific, exotic tool that you'd need to make something, but pots and pans? Baking sheets? Because you didn't think we had any? Really?

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amymt10

I love mine!! She is awesome, always wanting to help. Especially when I was on bedrest w/both my pregnancies. She cleaned our house, did laundry and helped w/the grocery shopping and was always smiling. With the 2nd pregnancy she did all that plus help watch our 3yr old. She took me to my dr appts since i was allowed to drive and accompanied me to the hospital for a few emergency visits til my hubby got there. She is great w/our kids and will come get them when she needs a grandkid fix. She is just a very sweet loving lady, I lucked out!!