Weight loss putting strain on relationship?

Animaniac87

Has anyone else felt like their relationship is strained after you started your life style change to be healthier?
I feel like I've changed so much in the past couple of months, I am definitely not the same person I was a year ago, and I feel like its taken it's toll on my marriage. He's expressed no desire to make any lifestyle changes, and I haven't been pushing him to, but I know longer feel like we're as compatible as we use to be. He's still my best friend, but he know longer feels like my partner/lover/husband.

Has anyone else had a problem like this, and what can I do to fix it?


I don't know if this is the right section to post in but I'm feeling in need of support.

lorro

It's totally understandable that your changing sense of your own identity is causing you to re-evaluate your relationship. This happens sometimes with major life changes. The fact that he still feels like your best friend is a good basis on which to build. I suggest you try and think of it as getting to know each other all over again. It's important that he shares some aspect of your new lifestyle with you, this needn't mean pushing him to change, but it will mean you both compromising and finding new activities to share, with the focus being on sharing rather than changing him. Also set time aside to go out socially together, as if you were dating. If he's relucatnt to go along with this, you may need to explain to him that you feel you've drifted apart and need to get back to the things that used to make you good together. Ask for his help. Good luck :flowerforyou:

lollypop_ginger

I completely agree with lorro. I felt the same as you do about my boyfriend and did pretty much everything she's just said and our relationship is now better than ever- I hope you can work it out!

JenAiMarres

(((((hugs))))) it is very hard on a spouse (or anyone for rhat matter) when people change , even of its for the better. Maybe wants the encouragement to join u on your fitness journey...u never know!