Negative Comments/Support

jennifer52484

I will usually thank them for their concern and tell them I have everything under control. I also say that there is no need to worry about me and my health because I'm the healthiest I've been in a long time.

lipglossjunky73

Can I play devil's advocate here?

Not everyone is jealous when weight loss occurs. Sometimes there is a line in the sand that gets crossed from looking healthy, and looking obsessed and too skinny.

I am *NOT* saying that *YOU*, the OP, is at that point, but I think the overgeneralizations that people who say these things are just "haters" is not always the case. I have seen many people go from being heavy and looking awful, to looking amazing, but they keep going to the point where they look too skinny (AND awful). Extremes are NOT healthy - healthy is healthy.... KWIM?

Maybe I have a different mindset, but people will not always give you the response you want to hear, or the validation you think you deserve. At the end of the day.... who cares? If you are going to rely on other people's compliments and positive words, then at some point you are going to run out of fuel when they stop being given to you.

I once read an interesting study on how people tend to lose more weight initially because of the continuous feedback they receive - when you are on that weight loss roll and everyone says daily "Wow - did you lose wight?" - so, if you lose 100 lbs over the course of a year, you get 365 days of compliments.

But.... Let's say you keep that weight off for a year - you hear an occasional comment here and there - usually from someone who hasn't seen you in a while, but that continuous "WOW" factor that fed you for a year is no longer there. THAT is when people start to gain it back!!!!

I really took that to heart in my journey. It made me realize - I don't want to rely on anyone else - this is about ME. Not them.

Just my 2 cents!!!