In need of friends working towards a similar goal

Hi! I'm 24 years old and my name is Jenn.

I had always been overweight. I never liked it but I wasn't so uncomfortable with my body that I was truly motivated to change it. That changed last year after I gave birth to my son. I gained 70 pounds. Went from 243 to 313 in such a short amount of time. I was disgusted with myself. Everyone kept telling me "you just had a kid" but that was no excuse, at least it wasn't for me.

After a few weeks I managed to weigh 290 and then 280. I stayed at 80 for quite some time and on my search to a healthier, thinner me I found this site and the app. I downloaded it and used it quite religiously and then Thanksgiving came around. I was like screw it. *sighs* I got back up to 303. I just gave up, as many of us do. It wasn't until I saw a wedding picture of a FB friend whom, at the time, weighed less than me by about 20 pounds.

She looked beautiful but not ideal (at least not for me). She had back fat, her arms looked less than appealing in her strapless dress, and the dress itself was a tent. It hit me, that's going to be me if I don't make a change. It was right then and there I decided I was NOT going to be a fat bride.

I've lost a total of 36 pounds since I've had my son and I plan to keep on going till I meet a weight I am comfortable with. Right now my goal is 150 but that can always change.

I have a great support system but none of them are in need of any weight loss so I am writing this hoping to get some more people from here to help me and encourage me and I can return the favor.

Feel free to add me and thank you for reading this.

Good luck on your journey!

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  • 7funnygirl7
    7funnygirl7 Posts: 1,176
    Will motivate, praise, encourage you on a daily basis! Let's kick butt...MFP style! Add me :smile:
  • Hello!
    I have a similar story to yours. I'm 25 and my name is Callie. I have 3 children all under the age of 4. When I had my oldest daughter I was fairly comfortable with my appearance. I weighed about 170 (I think...I never weighed myself because to me I am more than a number. It's about being comfortable in my skin). I gained about 25-30lbs (I'm not positive on the exact number) and after I had her I stayed around 190ish. I wasn't happy about it, but I was so busy with her that I didn't change anything and it seems my husband didn't mind because I got pregnant again when she was 18 months. :wink: When I was pregnant with my second daughter I tried not to gain as much weight and ended up gaining about 20-25 lbs with her. I figured I'm pregnant...I'll just lose it after she's born. NOT. When I got pregnant this time I weighed about 195 and only gained about 15 lbs (my son was really small...not because of anything I did. We still don't know why). He is now almost 2 months old and I am at 192. I've lost 2 lbs so far and I really want to lose at least 40...maybe more. I am not at the mindset where I am determined and devoted to this process. I CAN do this...I WILL do this! It will take time and a lot of effort, but I can do it. I won't give up like I have before. I am surrounding myself with friends and family that support me and encourage me and will be there when I feel like it's too hard and kick me in the rear. We can do this Jenn. We CAN. We have to believe it! If you want to please add me. Our stories are very similar and I would love to share this journey with you! LET'S DO THIS!! :happy:
  • moniem77
    moniem77 Posts: 4
    hi! i soooo totally hear ya! I joined ww two years ago and lost 60 ilbs and kept most of it off. one year ago i left my husband of nine years and lost fifteen in a short time. really liked where i was but i gained that back and another ten, the last four months has been hard to drop the weight even with ww . i want to lose ten pounds for the summer so i can feel good about myself again. my heaviest weight was actaully 245 and that was before pregnancy! every pregnancy i lost a bit after but not enough i always stayed around 215 i now weigh 165. i want to be 155 then i will be happy! i was a fat bride and when i look back at pics i am like omg!!! when i got married my dress was size twenty when my sis got married my dress was a ten! great feeling i tell ya!i hope this website helps me i need motivation big time so i can stop seeing the fat girl!
  • Wow-I see so much of myself in your introduction. I have struggled with weight my entire life, and although I have "yo-yo'd" a few times, I've never been at what would really be considered a healthy weight. I have never truly either understood, or believed, what it took to lose weight and keep it off, until now. I feel like I have spent 28 years looking for a magic pill to give me the body and life that I have always wanted and until I found it I guess I had just decided to pass my time with eating, lol. Me and my husband struggled with infertility for 3 years and I cant help but feel that it was related to my lifelong obesity. After going through IVF we have been blessed with the most wonderful, perfect baby anyone could ever ask for. And so now, it's not just for me, it's for him. It's for him that I want, and must, do this. It's for him that I dont want to be a fat or lazy Mom who is too tired to do things with him or play with him. I want to be a good role model and example for him, and right now, I am most definitely not. I also want to do this for myself...finally. I want to look in the mirror and see on the outside what I have always seen and felt on the inside. Those two versions of myself have never matched, and it's about time that they do, and ultimately I am the only one who can change it. I have a wonderful husband who supports me and loves me the way that I am, and for that I am forever grateful. When I gave birth to my son I weighed an all-time high of 318 and since then (nearly 11 months) I have lost close to 55 pounds. Ultimately, I would like to weigh 150. I dont even know where that number came from, but it's always been this magical and seemingly untouchable number that's lingered just out of reach for me my entire life. Or a size 10 pants, that seems pretty magical to :) I would love to find some online friends for mutual support and motivation and if anyone is interested in that, please feel free to add me. I think working together we could hopefully get there twice as fast.