How do you deal with bad friends?

x__abbi__x

So I have a 'friend' I have known about 2years, she lives across from me and her kids go to my daughters school. She talks to me about her life if I bump into her, but the only ever time she talks to me is if she needs to borrow money. Now we are pretty skint at the moment so even if I wanted to lend it to her I cant.
Im getting fed up with her now but I dont want to seem rude by ignoring her, im due to move across the city in a months time so chances are we wont bump into each other again and obviously I wont be so close that she can use me as a bank.
Its been bothering me for a while but lately its really got on my nerves. Im just wondering if anyone else has had a friend like this and how they dealt with them?xx

Reeny1_8

Hate to sound so cliche but talk to her and tell her how you feel. See how she reacts and go from there.

Nopedotjpeg

By not being their friend. In your situation, it seems like you shouldn't worry about being rude since clearly they don't really care. This person wouldn't be what I call a friend, but rather an acquaintance, and not even a good acquaintance.

Thechiplover

If my next door neighbour asked me for money i would politely tell them to "F@#K off!!" tell her the same

MB_Positif

Yeah, honestly if this is not someone that you hang out with regularly I think it is ridiculous that she would even ask you to borrow money at all. My husband and I are both unemployed, are GOOD friends with a lot of people and I wouldn't even ask them to let us borrow money, even though I know they probably would!

Toddrific

Spank them and put them in the corner...

Farfourah

Kill em and let God sort it out.

Nopedotjpeg

Spank them and put them in the corner...

Then please put the video of it on here.

taliesyn_

Sounds like you're being used. Distance will fix it - but if you want to find out whether it's just your money she wants, tell her you cannot lend and that she should not ask. You will soon discover the truth.

ElizabethRoad

I wouldn't consider that person a friend. I'm not sure why you feel obligated to.

Leiki

I personally never start letting money get involved with my friendships. If they don't understand, then they aren't worth it.

Jorra

She's not a friend, she sounds like she preys on the generous. You are in no way obligated to give her money, or even socialize with her.

Di3012

So I have a 'friend' I have known about 2years, she lives across from me and her kids go to my daughters school. She talks to me about her life if I bump into her, but the only ever time she talks to me is if she needs to borrow money. Now we are pretty skint at the moment so even if I wanted to lend it to her I cant.
Im getting fed up with her now but I dont want to seem rude by ignoring her, im due to move across the city in a months time so chances are we wont bump into each other again and obviously I wont be so close that she can use me as a bank.
Its been bothering me for a while but lately its really got on my nerves. Im just wondering if anyone else has had a friend like this and how they dealt with them?xx

Tell her the absolute truth in that you are a bit strapped for cash yourself at the moment and cannot afford to lend her any money.

Don't try to brave it out and pretend to her that all is hunky dorey and you are flush, otherwise she will just keep on.

gumigal82

Like everyone else, I'm pretty much going to say this person is not your friend. Remove this person from your life before he/she drags you down, and ruins any progress you have made! I know this sounds harsh, but trying to "talk it out/communicate" with toxic friends never works....it's like talking to a wall. Good luck, and stay positive!:)

(This person is probably not a bad person, just a bad person for you to have in your life--usually due to conflicting personalities)

karenjoy

I have two long term 'friends' who, since my Daughter got married, because they did not get invited, which was not down to me, my Daughter and Son in Law paid for the Wedding and chose all the guest list, they have not asked me about the Wedding, have not spoken to me about it, commented on any of the pictures on facebook or asked to see the photo album, I even invited them round for a meal and neither of them even mentioned the Wedding....I am realising now that they are not actually my friends, despite the many years I thought they were, I think that this person is not your friend and you should not feel bad about no longer having her in your life

ElizabethRoad

Tell her the absolute truth in that you are a bit strapped for cash yourself at the moment and cannot afford to lend her any money.

I disagree with this somewhat. Don't tell her you can't afford it. Tell her NO. If you make the excuse that you can't afford it, that means "but if I had the money I would", which (I hope) is not the case.

littlepinkhearts

I'm presuming you work hard for your money like the most of us. If you have money to give away to charity? Then do it. If you don't, then don't. I would also be curious WHY they are short on money. If it's mismanagement of their money then I would give them advice with the last donation. If it's a genuine need? Then explain that this will be the last donation and try and refer them to some organization that may be able to help them.

x__abbi__x

Thanks for the advice guys, it really has made me think long and hard about her being in my life.
I like to help friends out when I can but I know she only needs the money for her partner to buy weed, and I am very anti drugs which is why it annoys me so much.
xx

Snow__White

cut her off and go on with your life

Skeemer118

I wouldn't consider that person a friend. I'm not sure why you feel obligated to.

^ Yup. Agreed.