It's my own fault for posting it but....damn

cbl40

Why even subject yourself to that? Seriously. There are cruel people out there who just get their kicks off making others feel as miserable as they are. I think we beat ourselves up enough. We don't need any added help. For some reason I'm feeling like its a self-esteem thing for you because you felt the need to post your pics on there a 4 am and now you are up here seeking some added attention. They gave you negative feedback...now you need positive feedback. None of the comments posted truly matters unless you know where your beauty lies.

Do "YOU" think you are beautiful?

That's what matters.

THIS!!! Beautifully said. You are only as beautiful as you feel. Hugs....

MisFitMom219

PEOPLE ARE MEAN...especially when they have the internet to save face...who visits these sites anyway?!?!

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. & I hope you know that & you're happy (:

you are making positive changes in your life. & that is ALL that matters!

SteffieMark

Lesson learned, I guess. You realize that 'most' people on a site like that act like they're 12. Alright, they may actually be 12. I think you're beautiful and should stick to posting your pictures where people that look at them are more understanding and empathetic. Like here!

sarasmile144

I think that your photos are beautiful- although I do agree with others when they say don't post pics on the net asking for judgement.. people can be so ignorant and cruel.. they hurt without thinking or caring.. sometimes they hurt just for the fun of it.. you don't need ANYBODY's opinion on YOU.. just your own.. look in the mirror and tell yourself everything beautiful about yourself.. every reason that you are worth all the best, and why you deserve a beautiful future AND present, which doesn't allow for being called ugly names by people who are genuinely ugly on the inside.

Saruman_w

There are a lot of wretched people on reddit. Most of them are trolls/basement dwellers//i.e people who say whatever they want behind the safety of a computer screen knowing damn well they aren't the epitame of human perfection either. They get their jollies by insulting others and they tend to do it collectively like little children.

Don't let anything they say effect you.

TourThePast

I did post in comments that these are not my most recent pictures and I have lost 30lbs so far. Most of the comments didn't bother me too much but a few were downright hurtful.

"Fat IS ugly!"
and
"Be active, eat less; seriously!'

Seeing that must have been very hurtful. :frown:

The thing is though, you just posted images, and people reacted solely to those images, not to you as a person. You may have lost 30lb, but according to your own ticker, you are still 120lb overweight. You are on this site because you were 150lb overweight and didn't want to be, what sort of comments did you expect from total strangers on the internet?

And really, "Be active, eat less" that's great advice for someone who is overweight. Yes it's stating the obvious, but did you expect subtlety?

Brutal though it is, wrong though it might be, much as it may be hidden and whispered behind backs, that is exactly how a large proportion of society reacts to people who are obese.

What you need to do is remind yourself that it's only a matter of time until that does not apply to you.

Use those comments to motivate yourself to get to a point where you can say to people "Saying things like that is hurtful and wrong" and those people will think "Wow, if someone slim is saying that, maybe it is wrong and I need to think about what I'm saying"

EDITED TO ADD: Though I've been online for more years than I care to admit, I've never used Reddit. These are general observations about people's behaviour online, not about the culture of one particular site.

MaraDiaz

Because people don't know you they can be very cruel. I looked at your photos you posted and also on your profile. I would say that yes you need to lose weight but you know that and doing something about it, good on you, we are are not alone in that rowboat!! You actually look like you have a nice body shape, and once you trim down and get fitter you will be a knockout!

From your photos you look like you have the most gorgeous eyes, skin, a lovely smile; you are active, lots of outdoor shots, you look like someone with character and fun, and you are spiritual. These things are true beauty - the body can change but your character is you. Those people who made nasty comments - it says more about them than it does about you. Lift your head up, walk tall, smile and be proud

About the only personal suggestion I would make is your hairstyle is quite severe - your hair down (looks like you have some curls/waves in your hair) might look nicer?

Awaiting some success photos now, if you have already lost 30 lb that is a good result!

I agree with all of the above, and agree a little extra about your hairstyle if you decide to take some planned and not formal photos. Most people will wear their hair done up for weddings, and one of your photos didn't look planned, but the first one, why is your hair up? Let your curls down!

And next time, unless you turn out super model gorgeous when you get all the weight off, don't put pictures online for strangers to judge. Because if they can find a flaw and comment about it, they will. And most of us do not look like and will never look like super models. Lucky for them, or they'd have a hard time finding work!

Agate69

18 months after surgery, I still will not post a pic. Even after 100+ pounds lost, I am still obese on the BMI chart. Take a look in the mirror, take a look at before pic, try on your before clothes.... You are making progress... and that is what counts. Remember the world looks at everything through a microscope. Think of the comments models get if they are not ultra thin.. You do not want to ever be unhealthy again... Fat or thin. Make a concious effort to be happy with the changes each day