Struggling

WendelinTheWeird

I can't do this on my own. I try and try but no one notices, no one encourages, and I just can't do it. I'm just too lazy! I've tried to ask for help, but no one will. I know this is my journey and I have to do it, but do I have to do it alone? I've tried that before and it (obviously) doesn't work. I realized that I hadn't logged in or tracked calories in a few days. I went to look today and realized I haven't tracked calories in over two weeks. How did that happen? How did I completely forget to do this for over two weeks? I worked out tonight, but I don't remember the last time I did that, either. Why am I so bad at doing things I need to do? Why can't I fix myself?

I need help. Someone please add me and yell at me and kick my butt because I just can't get rid of 50lbs on my own.

bshephe2

Hi Angie,

I hate trying to lose weight!!!!!!!!!! I think everone is the same. I have days where it appears too hard, days where I'm hungry, days where I want to stay in bed and pull the covers over my head. What I am saying is that you are not alone. I can hear in your message that your esteem is taking a battering. Don't let weight stop you feeling good about yourself. So you want to lose some weight? All I can say is discipline, disciplinne, discipline. Try losing weight with a friend. Put a picture of yourself on the fridge. Put a large chart up in your bedroom. Do a lot of home cooking of low calorie foods. Cook extra and put them in self containers.

Most of all keep smiling....:bigsmile:

chelso0o

Join a club! Find an active thing that you like to do-- swimming, running, walking, biking, hiking, zumba, tennis-- anything! Find people who you want to look like, be like, have energy like, and JOIN them. Don't get discouraged about not being able to do things that they are able to do. Right now you are just starting out. If you find the right group of people, you will have people there to support you.

Make it like a support web. I have-- master's swimming, Pittsburgh triathlon club, Allegheny county cycling association, Chic Velo cycling club, Velo Femme cycling club, Athlete Eats (a facebook group I started), About Time cycling-- ALL of these are things I started doing when I weighed (and still do) well over 200lbs. And you know what??? I'm very public about what I'm going through, and I have several people who are supportive just because I let them know how I'm feeling.

If you would have known me a year ago, you would say that I'm a completely different person. I never used to talk to anyone-- honestly, I only had 3 or 4 friends. Now, I can honestly say that I have 20 friends that I can count on to work out with me, and 50 who will cheer me on in a race.

Put yourself out there! It will help I promise!!!!

carolyn811

How about we help eachother? Lets start a little competition! No booze, lots of water, and you have to check in and log in every day for the rest of April! Deal? You can do this - I know so many people that this has worked really well for and we are next!
Stay strong!!

j1wright

No you can not do this on your own. I see you only have one friend on here. You need some friends honey. I am sending you a request. Please accept it. I will cheer you on. I see you have a daughter. I just had a baby in December and gained a whopping 50 pounds. I can completely understand wanting to be a role model for your children. Stay strong, we are here to help you.

yustick

I gained 70 during my 1st pregnancy, I weighed a whopping 185 pounds. It was overwhelming and depressing and I just couldn't get myself to do what I needed to do to lose it. Two years later, I hit 230. I still put it off. There's so many other things to do. I would tell myself that i would focus on weight loss tomorrow,, next Monday, as soon as my ppd passes, after the holidays...before I knew it, my daughter was 21 years old and I weighed 370 pounds.

I feel focused now, maybe I will be thin and healthy for her wedding,

Save yourself my agony and do it NOW. Even if you just start with one thing, like a meal or exercise...just whatever you do log it. It kind of puts it right in front of you and holds you accountable.

You might not think its possible for you to get as bad as me and I hope that's true. But the feelings of failure and depression can lead to more eating which leads to lower energy levels which takes us back to failure and depression and around and around we go.

You sound a little depressed. If you are, see your doctor. Pregnancy takes a toll on your body and mind.

This is my story...I am not pretending to know yours, just hoping you will learn something from my mistake. I wish you well.

shellsie_j

Hello
Please add me as a friend. I am on here daily and am very motivated. It is hard but we just have to push ourselves. It will get easier you just have to change your mindset. Easy to say but hard to do I know. The fact that you are reaching out means a lot. Never give up on yourself, you will get there.