Does it work both ways???

galegetsthin
galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
After reading all of the results on whether or not girls mind stretch marks on guys and getting a general consensus of "nope", I am curious to see if the guys mind if WE have them. I have lost a lot of weight. I am getting pretty hot. I do have a LOT of stretchmarks that I know are not going away.

I want brutal honesty here......... none of the fluffy, hearts and rainbows bs. The truth.
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  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    After reading all of the results on whether or not girls mind stretch marks on guys and getting a general consensus of "nope", I am curious to see if the guys mind if WE have them. I have lost a lot of weight. I am getting pretty hot. I do have a LOT of stretchmarks that I know are not going away.

    I want brutal honesty here......... none of the fluffy, hearts and rainbows bs. The truth.

    No. Stretchmarks are part of who you are....they are a map of the journey you have gone through to become who you are. They are beautiful, just like you are. Trust me, if you take off your clothes in front of a man, he is not thnking anything about your stretch marks...he is just thinking "thank you for your many blessings"....at least if he is a real man he is....
  • Nekhet
    Nekhet Posts: 380
    They don't bother me a bit...as long as the woman has curves and she has a great personality amd she acts like a woman...any imperfections just fade away and all I see is her...
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
    Downright weepy.
  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    And it was worth it x
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    I have a LOT of stretch marks - you don't carry a 9 pound baby for 9 1/2 months or then spend 6 years being obese and escape unscathed.

    My ex hated them and it made me even more self-conscious; however, the guys on here, at least, don't seem to think they are all that gross.

    Of course, they could just be saying that to be nice, but I think that most (not all, but most) men don't mind them all that much - especially since, by the time they have you undressed enough to see them, they probably aren't worried about the appearance of your tummy skin.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
    Downright weepy.


    i am actually more surprised you didnt go after CB's use of the word journey.
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
    Downright weepy.


    i am actually more surprised you didnt go after CB's use of the word journey.
    he's a friend...and I heard he is kind of slow.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    When you love someone, you love all of them. I notice them on some women, but it matters none to me.
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
    Downright weepy.


    i am actually more surprised you didnt go after CB's use of the word journey.

    Easy there Jojo.....Don't Stop Believin' was music at its finest.....
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    I notice them but they are part of who you are/were. Not something to make me run for the hills.
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    Does anyone have a tissue? I may cry if I read this again......

    but, I do have to agree.....
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I am getting pretty hot.

    Truth.
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    When you love someone, you love all of them. I notice them on some women, but it matters none to me.


    there is another Journey....

    Once you love somebody
    (once you love)
    there's no turning back
    (turning back)
    It can burn forever
    It can haunt you
    haunt you in the night
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    Removing all emotion and everything, leaving nothing but the body that I see...

    I say with 100% honesty that stretch marks *do not matter* to me. Well, actually they do a little, but only because I *like* them. They tell a story. They add character. They're not necessary, but they're pretty damn cool.
  • Melinka77
    Melinka77 Posts: 9
    They don't bother me a bit...as long as the woman has curves and she has a great personality amd she acts like a woman...any imperfections just fade away and all I see is her...

    Good answer! But seriously, I think when you truly care about someone all their imperfections go away...you know the quote, love is blind! :-)
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    WOAH!!! Who are you and what have you done with BJ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????????? *swoon*
  • Melinka77
    Melinka77 Posts: 9
    Good answer!
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    The female body is beautiful. period.

    There is my single sincere post of the day.

    are you spent?
    Downright weepy.


    i am actually more surprised you didnt go after CB's use of the word journey.

    Easy there Jojo.....Don't Stop Believin' was music at its finest.....


    i dont have a problem with Journey...its Binary that hates that path!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Don't matter, could care less, have plenty of my own :embarassed: (I got big fast)
  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    Halle Berry has been quoted saying her partner calls hers her "sexy tiger stripes".
    A woman earns stretch marks. They're a mark of what I've been through and what I've achieved.
    OF COURSE, I don't like them, and they make me insecure... But no-one is photoshop perfect from all angles.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    Nope, if you can put up with mine, I can put up with yours.....and besides, I think you need to hear it for what it really is....we're not having sex with your stretch marks :happy:
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    Thank you. These are answers that the timid, fearful little girl inside needed to hear. I would have accepted any honest answer. I was just hoping to help myself get over the part of me that I most dislike at this point. And hearing answers either way would have helped me. If they mattered, I could just go on with my life, know that they are there, not going anywhere and some men dont like them (which I am sure is truth). OR, I could stop being so self concious about them and learn that it is OK to have them.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    None of the guys I know care and I certainly don't care, I have them myself from the dark times. From the long ago when inner jabba parked his palace on my gut...
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I don't even think about the stretch marks... that's just the result of growing 7" in one year followed up by carrying a 10lb baby for 40 weeks.

    Now the cellulite on the other hand. That be some nasty *kitten*!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Thank you. These are answers that the timid, fearful little girl inside needed to hear. I would have accepted any honest answer. I was just hoping to help myself get over the part of me that I most dislike at this point. And hearing answers either way would have helped me. If they mattered, I could just go on with my life, know that they are there, not going anywhere and some men dont like them (which I am sure is truth). OR, I could stop being so self concious about them and learn that it is OK to have them.

    Beautiful girl like you? No one in their right mind is gonna care about a few stripes. :flowerforyou:
  • hiker282
    hiker282 Posts: 983 Member
    They may not be 100% appealing, but there are far worse things you could have and, chances are, a woman in general has more assets that can be appreciated than where the stretch marks are.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    I don't even think about the stretch marks... that's just the result of growing 7" in one year followed up by carrying a 10lb baby for 40 weeks.

    Now the cellulite on the other hand. That be some nasty *kitten*!
    OMG seriously! For the love of god someone please come up with a cellulite solution. Even if you have to peel off my skin and put it back in place. I will take it! And pay handsomely. I would love my body so much more if I didnt have the cellulite. :sad:
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    I've had 3 babies, one set of twins. I went 37-weeks with them. I had a 54' waist. Baby boy was 7lbs 7oz baby girl 6lbs 5oz. Our oldest asked about the marks on my tummy and my husband answered, "Aren't they beautiful? She kept you safe for 9-months in there. Prettiest home I've ever seen."

    There will be guys who will look at stretch marks and cringe. They are boys. Ignore them and move on to a man.
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