stopping counting calories for a while to beat discouragemen

Keladry

For a while now I have not been good at sticking to my calorie limit or at avoiding 'bad foods'. I haven't made any progress and I'm feeling discouraged. I am thinking about for a while not counting calories but instead setting different goals for myself. And once I have stuck to that for a while and feel in control re-evaluating.

Eg:
-at breakfast, 1 serve only of carbs so 1 piece of bread or 40g oats/muesli
-for the rest of day, only 1 serve of rice/pasta/potato etc
-1 treat only if I can't resist (1 serve of potato chips or 1 biscuit or small home made muffin or 1 scoop icecream)
-1 serve (no sugar) yoghurt or cheese or lite cream. eg if I know I want to cook something with cream or have cheese for lunch don't have yoghurt for breakfast
-1 piece extra dark chocolate
-2 serves of fruit max
-1 serve (I'll work out what=100 calories) of nuts
-1 coffee (with low fat milk) per day plus max 1 cup of milk/soy milk. No sugar added or juice/soft drinks
-1 cheat meal per week
-only 1 day with alcohol per week (I usually stick to this anyway)

And as much home cooked proteins and non-starchy vegetables as I want. Because realistically I don't overeat plain roast chicken or grilled fish, it's junk food and bread putting me over my limits.