I am beyond pissed.

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  • femmi1120
    femmi1120 Posts: 473 Member
    Your parents grew up in a different culture, one where most likely exes didn't stay friends. You could always say if you haven't "_______ is fine with it, he trusts me and he knows that me and (insert friend's name) are just friends." Your parents probably don't want you to get hurt so they're trying to prevent something from happening.

    Very true on the culture thing. We're originally from Brazil. Guessing you took a peek at my profile?

    My mom started it by asking my dad "So what would you do if I worked out with an ex?"

    And he goes "You mean after filing for a divorce?"
  • femmi1120
    femmi1120 Posts: 473 Member
    Tell them that you and your boyfriend have an open relationship and both enjoy sex with other people. Mention that sometimes you both bring your dates home to share.

    If they survive this news without a trip to the ER, tell them it is a belated April Fools and going forward mind their own business.

    OMG YES :laugh:

    Thank you for that! Needed a laugh :smile:
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    ALot of people get freaked out when this kind of situation comes up. Its because in many cases when exs hang out or do activities with each other it tends to bring up old emotions and feelings and that could let to a kiss or worse. It does happen and its scary for the other person having to watch. Ive seen non cheaters and would have never thought they would cheat but ended up cheating because of this situation. Just be careful and know your boundaries and respect your man and how he feels. Its tough to watch for most.

    You are a grown woman, your parents have to respect and trust you.
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
    Parents are like that, my folks, are the type that are not happy unless they have something the gripe and complain about. So when I was in my early 20's bar hoping phase, they accused me of cheating on my man, even though I never did. I just tell them what really was going on and then ignore them, the rest of the time. I love my folks, but I ignore them a lot and walk away. It's not worth the argument and tears, cause they almost always upset me when I see them
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    Turn it back on them. When your dad replies "Do you mean after I file for divorce?" when your mom asks what he'd do if she worked out with an ex ask "You'd really throw away X years of marriage because mom was in a public place with someone she used to date but is no longer attracted to??" When they compare it to your BF hiring a prostitute say "Yea, working out at a public gym surrounded by dozens of other people with someone I'm not attracted to who knows I have a BF is JUST LIKE hiring a hooker. You either need to look up "hooker" in the dictionary or stop the excessive exaggerations."
  • Kaylee_law_123
    Kaylee_law_123 Posts: 450 Member
    As long as your boyfriend and you are comfortable with it then screw what everyone else thinks!!
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    My mom is more conservative than I am, and she'd probably agree it is inappropriate. But who cares? If you are okay with it, your boyfriend is okay with it, and you are just working out, let your parents be drama queens and just ignore them :P
  • chanstriste13
    chanstriste13 Posts: 3,277 Member
    if it's fine with you and your significant other, everyone else should butt out, parents included.
  • jhardenbergh
    jhardenbergh Posts: 1,035 Member
    Just start asking them all kinds of sexual questions to make them feel uncomfortable or just overexaggerate your love for your workout buddy. Make them feel stupid for asking the 20 questions. That's what I would do, but I have been told I was an *kitten* on many occassions. Ask them questions like who would they prefer you with the workout buddy or your boyfriend. Tell them it's their call. I am also a big fan of sarcasm.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    There's nothing wrong being friends with your ex but isn't there a reason he is your ex? I think your dad went too far with the hooker thing and made you feel guilty.
  • zinok
    zinok Posts: 185
    I'd straight up tell them to mind their own business, that your boyfriend has no problem with the situation and that therefore they shouldn't either.
  • Laurej
    Laurej Posts: 227
    wow! so basically your parents don't trust you? That is the question I would ask them. People get so hung up on men and women can't be friends without one of them wanting something more. I have loads of male friends.. You hang in there and be friends with who you want to be friends with!! You, your boyfriend and your friend all know that everything is on the up and up, so all is good!

    hahah tell them your bf doesn't mind 'cuz after your workouts you all go home and have a 3some .... dear old dad will probably never ask about this stuff again.
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