shaking the fat girl feeling

TeresaC79
TeresaC79 Posts: 316 Member
in Motivation and Support
today at the gym, i was on the arc trainer. this cute girl came and jumped on next to me. she was thin, fit, but curvy. not chunky.

i was being nosy and saw her type in her weight at 145. Only four pounds less then I am at! But I don't feel like I look like her.

I bought a size small dress today which is huge since I've been a large or xxl my entire adult life.

why do I still feel like the fat girl? does that ever go away? or am I doomed to hate my body even as it becomes fit and smaller just because I always have.

Just venting. Thanks for reading

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  • s1lence
    s1lence Posts: 493
    I'm not sure if everyone goes through it, but I think the mind set eventually fades. Since you have known your body as one way for so long it makes sense to think of yourself that way even though you are becoming a thinner and healthier person. You look great in your profile pic by the way :)
  • Toddrific
    Toddrific Posts: 1,114 Member
    Oh good I'm not the only one that snoops on my neighbors =)

    I find, especially at the gym, you should compare yourself with yourself. You'll feel a lot better about who you've become.
  • Atarahh
    Atarahh Posts: 485 Member
    Remember,you are your biggest competition. No one else.
  • stephelan
    stephelan Posts: 81
    I think that's totally normal! (Or I hope so because I'm the same!) I bought a size XL pair of shorts the other day for soccer without even trying them on because "that's my size!" and even with them cinched and tied tightly, they were falling down! The next day, I went back and bought a medium.

    Good job on your weight-loss though! I hope the mentality eventually fades for you! I find that when I look at old pictures of myself, that kind of helps me and puts things into perspective.
  • EllaScarlet
    EllaScarlet Posts: 165 Member
    I know exactly how you feel. My best friends are all tiny, height and size wise, and I have always felt like the big girl in the group - even though I have never been more than slightly overweight. I have lost a stone in the past year and am apparently at the ideal weight for my height, but I still feel the same. We need to work on positive mental attitude ;)
  • SPNLuver83
    SPNLuver83 Posts: 2,050 Member
    This is happening to me too.... I went to exchange my jeans today and I passed one of those mirrors on the pillars... I had to stop, look, and ask myself "is that really ME???" It's hard to grasp the progress we are making... but i'm sure one day our minds will catch up!
  • TeresaC79
    TeresaC79 Posts: 316 Member
    You know though, I don't even see the change when I'm looking in the mirror. I know when I put on size 10 jeans and they are baggy or when I look at pictures, but when I look in the mirror, I don't look any difference. :(

    Thanks for all your replies. Hoping my brain will catch up soon.
  • MelsieK
    MelsieK Posts: 72
    I'm the same, I know in my head that I'm slimmer than what I was 6 months ago, I know that I'm getting there. But still think nah can't wear that or look in the mirror and think why would anyone go out like that.

    Those days are getting few and far between now though. I think it's just something in all of us. Even my PT who has successfully competed in bodybuilding comps still admits to having 'fat' days and not feeling so confident at times.

    I really see the difference when I put my progress photos side by side, that helps me a lot.


    Mel

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