Am I a narcissist ?

McKayMachina

People who don't workout, just don't get it. What you do is incomprehensible to them. It would be like a billionaire explaining to me the advantages of NetJets vs. buying. It is a subject that will never ever effect me. Would I really be interested? Honestly, half heartedly. Others would just write him off as some rich blowhard. But other billionaires would fully engage in the conversation with him, because it may effect their life. It's not your families fault, you are just talking about things that are beyond their understanding. That is the best analogy that I can think of. Now go work on getting your mile per minute, down to a 9 min. mile :-)

That was a damn good analogy. :drinker:

But, I don't work out and I get it.

ElizaRoche

Not at all!.. Ppl tend to talk and say stuff about things they cant do/have, so I wouldnt worry. Its your life and your body..

Keep up the good job, and congrats btw!

TankGirl71

Google "crabs in a bucket."

nszocinski

Narcissist? No.

Absolutely amazing role model for your children? HECK yes!!

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RikanSoulja

Hey if you don't toot your own horn then who will?

MelsieK

Another one in the no camp. I get the same from family and friends. In fact one person has stopped inviting us to stuff, because it's too 'hard' to find food for me to eat.

I say keep up the great work, don't worry about them, at least you know you are doing everything in your power to ensure you live a long, happy healthy life.

usedasbrandnew

I think you should be proud to be a dork who can wear spandex bike shorts. Not everyone can, well they physically can (ME) but perhaps shouldn't. (ME) :laugh:

amdahwd

This is the very reason I do not post things very often on my public page on Facebook... Don't want to hear the negativity about the things I am doing that I am proud of. Some of my friends and I started a private page and the only thing we post about is weight loss, NSVs, motivation, food, etc. That way I can talk to people who care and support what I am doing - even if they are not at that point yet.

becca2222

No, you are not a narcissist; you are an ACHIEVER, and there is a hell of a huge difference. The family folks who are whining and griping about your accomplishments should be ashamed of how they've treated your improved health!
I say CONGRATS to you and keep on posting on whatever page makes you happy!! You are improving your life and it sounds like jealousy of some of your family......
I ride a road bike too, and just recently, logged 1000 miles on it, and let me tell you, if I could have, I would have taken out a billboard in Times Square to announce my accomplishment!!!
Keep on keeping on with your success and just smile and walk away when the air gets muffled with negativity.....


Becca :happy:

Bigmomma0u812

I'm married to a narcissist. It's no picnic. Loving yourself and taking care of yourself to have a healthier lifestyle has nothing at all to do with true narcissism, its a completely different ballgame. You should be proud, nothing wrong with it.

aaaaaamy

I had my first negative family reaction over Easter too - ah, the holidays, bringing families together.

We had a family gathering - my mother, all her sisters, and all their children. I noticed that one of my cousins, who is a few years younger than me (late teens) and who I usually get along with really well, was being strangely cold towards me. I asked her what was up and she lost it at me - accused me of trying to steal her position in the family as the 'skinny' cousin. I almost fell over - first, I had no idea that such a position was even a thing, and second, how on earth did she come to the conclusion that that was my primary motivator?! I see my family maybe twice, three times a year.

I told her that if I could somehow lose weight and allow her to keep her imaginary crown I'd go that route, but as there isn't I was most certainly going to put my own health above her place in the family weight hierarchy so she was just going to have to cope with it - am hoping she won't turn herself into a skeleton to solidify her position between now and Christmas!

People are just bizarre.

bikinibeliever

Bumping to read later.

engineman312

when i mentioned to my father that i had started weight lifting, he said that i should stay away from steroids.

i had a guy from college defriend me on facebook because he was pissed about my apps that would track and show my running and biking distance.

bigredhearts

im so sorry they reacted like that, i cant say what their motives were in saying such things but what i can say is this:

If thats the def of narcissism, then you bet your behind that i, am a narcissist!!!

"Egotism- an excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance" - You better believe that I'm excessive in my self-importance! You gotta love yourself!!!

"Vanity- is the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others."- Not only do I believe that Im the best, but I strive to be that way!!!

"Conceit- favorable opinion; especially: excessive appreciation of one's own worth or virtue."- I I am amazing, and im proud to be amazing and love myself. I am worthy of as much love and appreciation as i give to others!

"Selfishness- is denoted by putting concern with oneself or concern with one's own interests above concern for the interest of others."- I can for sure say that selfish is a good thing! I refuse to concern myself with the interests of others when their interests are not positive ones, and because of that, i continue along my life doing things the way that i see best fitting for me!

So for all these things i must say that my name is jackie, and i, am a narcissist :flowerforyou:

Josee76

When I completed my first 90 miles I got reactions like "who would want to do that?" :frown: "That sounds like a lot?" (and trust me, these questions were not being asked in a polite way)... I quickly realized why I come to MFP and why I chose this forum for support; like minded people is what folks like us need in our lives.

The folks who were making fun of me and asking those questions, where smokers, drinkers and all overweight.... I know how much time one has to dedicate in order to be prepared for a 90 mile ride and YOU have worked your butt off! Congratulations.... you have achieved so much in the last year and keep it up! Don't let ignorance get in the way of your success!

Josee

Hood25

Unfortunately you are a minority! It is very hard to do the things you have done and takes a lot of will power and strength. A lot of people don't understand it because they don't have the strength to do it. They get jealous as well and find comfort in people who are like themselves. We have all probably been that person at some point but we had the mojo to do something about it! It' ok that you are different (healthy and active)!!!! You have a huge group of supporters here and don't mind letting you know you are doing great! I think it is so important that your children see your accomplishments. They will remember it anD hopefully try to follow in your healthy footsteps.
As for your family....well maybe somewhere down the line they will become more accepting of it and maybe try to be more healthy and active too. That is what I am hoping about my family. Until then....DO YOU!!

jrusso28

Thanks for the feedback everyone, that's exactly why I use this forum.
Your all AWESOME !

I guess I understand why they react the way they do, actually I have come to expect those reactions, but man I would love it if it was different.

I appreciate everyone's feedback, and I will continue doing what I do, and sharing with those who care to listen

Erica_theRedhead

I just had this conversation with a friend of mine. I've never been in the situation of someone calling me out as being narcissistic, but I get asked a lot of questions about what I'm doing, and end up talking about this journey with a lot of people. I mentioned to her that I was scared of being considered vain for focusing so much on bettering myself.

It's a different situation for us, but the take home message is the same...There are going to be people who support you, and there will be people who get upset because they don't understand your way of life or aren't strong enough to stick with this journey that we all have committed to here. Take any negativity as an indication of your success, and let it roll off your shoulders. Turn to your supporters and absorb the positivity from them and realize that you are doing something worth while.

The people on this site are a bunch of rock stars! I know that I've gained more confidence and self worth in the last year than I've felt in my whole life. Everyone should be so lucky as to suffer from this narcissistic disease! You keep it up!!