What do you think?

gatorgirlyyy

I'm so done with my father. He has never cared about me. I talked to him last month and he said he would call me back. I waited over a month before calling him to tell him that I was about to have surgery. He didn't answer and I finally called him back today. I told him how I really felt. I told him that he was never there for me and that he let a woman dictate if he was "allowed" to see his daughter. I told him how I watched him raise his girlfriends kids over the years, yet he would wait 6 months to call me. I cried, I screamed, I cursed... and I ended the call with "I'm done, you had plenty of chances", and hung up the phone. Now I'm sitting here crying wondering if I did the right thing. Will I never speak to him again? Will I get a call years down the road that my father died and I never had closure? I just can't take this. It's just so f**ked up. He never cared, so why do I? I'm so tired of being hurt by this man!

good2bthaking

I went 4 yrs without talking to my dad so I have some idea of how you feel. We eventually healed the wounds but I had to be the bigger person and start the ball moving. Hopefully someday you and your dad will work things out. All I will say is don't waste good energy on the negatives in your life. You aren't going to change his ways, he will need to do that. I know it's tough but tyr to be the better person. I am not preaching to you, just giving my opinion. Good luck though and I hope in the end it works out for you both.

gatorgirlyyy

I went 4 yrs without talking to my dad so I have some idea of how you feel. We eventually healed the wounds but I had to be the bigger person and start the ball moving. Hopefully someday you and your dad will work things out. All I will say is don't waste good energy on the negatives in your life. You aren't going to change his ways, he will need to do that. I know it's tough but tyr to be the better person. I am not preaching to you, just giving my opinion. Good luck though and I hope in the end it works out for you both.

Thank you. I really appreciate it. I can't really understand why I feel bad, but I do. He never really cared so I shouldn't feel bad. I just don't know. I'm going to let him ponder on our conversation for a little bit and make him think about what I said. Maybe he'll realize all the emotional pain he put me through over the last 20 years. I'm not going to call him either. I'm going to wait and see if he will call me. I don't have my "hopes up" per say, but if he does and can be civil, I will talk to him about it. I mean for f**ks sake, he's 41 years old. When will he grow up and actually step us as a father. Wishful thinking probably.... I just need to accept that this is how he is and I really shouldn't expect different.