Congrats on staying under your kcals allowance?! (warning; r

Woooolywool

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

Flixie00

Yep, its a problem with this site. I also have friends who apologise for going a few calories over their daily allowance, and in these circumstances I always tell them that slightly over is better than slightly under. Saying that, if you look at my diaries I mostly appear under my allowance for the day, but I take into account that MFP over estimates calorie burns for most gym machines I think MFP should change the wording on when they post people's diaries for the day.

olong

I'm not one to put too much personal information out on the internet for the world to see, but I do open my diary to my MFP friends mostly for accountability. I've noticed my friends are nosy and that is good for me because it's another motivator for me to make healthier choices about my foods. When they tell me "well done", they've seen what I've actually accomplished with food and with exercise.

wasveganvictoria88

Totally agree - thats why I made mine public.

caramkoala

I usually just congratulate them on logging.

eschwab855

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

This rant about open diaries brought to you by a person with a closed diary

Natty0506

My diary is closed. For me, I don't need other people seeing what I'm eating. I am responsible to and for myself, and that's what works for me.

KailaJordan

my calorie allowance a day is set to 1200 and most of the time i'm just under that. then, when i add any exercise i've done, it then takes it under again. i always thought i ate a lot, but i would find it really difficult to eat over 1200 unless i ate chocolate, crisps, cake etc, which obviously i'm not going to do everyday! i always make sure i have breakfast, lunch and dinner, including snacks, so i most definitely am eating often. i suppose it could be because the foods i do eat are quite low in calories. however, i would never intentionally try to eat less than 1200 because i am aware that my body would go into starvation mode and start storing it as fat. i also love food and would eat all the time if i could get away with it! it's all about attitude really. i'm pleased with myself when i complete a day of 1200 calories and after burning off a generous amount during exercise. i do feel i am doing it the right way, whereas attitudes towards eating as little calories as possible is not right and is seriously unhealthy.

Siannah

I think MFP should change the wording on when they post people's diaries for the day.

I agree with this. And I don't like it that the digits turn red either, even when you're over by 1 calorie. It makes me feel bad even though rationally I know it's no problem at all.

tbresina

I hear ya but those are the people that will not listen to you if you commented on too low/too high/too unhealthy comments anyway, so why bother. I just do my thing and try not to be over concerned about the others, they are on their own journey and if it makes them feel good to lie to themselves you can't do anything about that.

megs2003

I agree. I choose not to comment on these posts, as I don't know whether they have had a good healthy day or if they need a little encouragement/advice.

Opening my diary has definitely made me more accountable.

_mr_b

I don't see why it can't just say that *user* was xxx calories over/under for the day, things would be much more transparent then without people having to open their diaries up.

tbresina

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

I also just noticed you diary is also private so I guess I am totally confused?

HLeAnn

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

I also just noticed you diary is also private so I guess I am totally confused?

Her diary may be open to only her MFP friends.

kissy28wv

I will usually post " hope you've had a great day". It recognizes the person without assuming anything.

PinkAndSparkle

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

I also just noticed you diary is also private so I guess I am totally confused?

Perhaps her diary is only open to friends.
I also worry when people are constantly congratulating one another for staying under. I have a few friends on here that have struggled with eating disorders, and it really concerns me when people give them positive reinforcement for eating way too little.

caramammal

I just concentrate on my own diary, and dont care whether by buddies are over or under their calorie goal, thats their business, not mine

Gary1977

[[/quote] This rant about open diaries brought to you by a person with a closed diary
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ZING!!!:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

nsblue

Not a prob with me. I am only responsible for ME and concentrating on my health.
Now for those who look at my diary... I can only imagine in looking at it, there would be those screaming on too little calories etc etc, LOL but they dont know me or my situation.
Yes I am now taking in approx 800 cals....and also takin my necessary vitamins daily. Surprise!! I am healthy and full of energy. I am followed by my doc, have regular bloodwork and guess what... I have NO deficiencies...and as the doc says.."am healthy as a horse".

Woooolywool

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

This rant about open diaries brought to you by a person with a closed diary

This specific rant was more to do with having friends that comment on their friend's closed diary entries. I have nothing against anyone who chooses to keep their entries closed.

Woooolywool

Just to clarify that I only have my diary open to my MFP friends..

icemaiden17_uk

It annoys me to! All I say is Wtg on any post that doesn't have an open diary! I still want to recognise that persons efforts and my firends are pretty good! I know a lot of my firends by now and I know the sorts of stuff they tend to eat from what they have said in other posts etc so I in these cases I don't see it as an issue.

I also have a few friends who are recovering from EDs and because I know this I can be objective with their food intake! Being encouraging can reap rewards when people start eating breakfast for example because of the suport they have been given by their understanding group of friends!!

Not sure if any of that makes sense toanyone else but its what I think! Lol!

CyberEd312

I don't open my diary because it is mine and there our somethings I would just rather keep to myself. Does that mean I am lying bout being under for the day or not well check out my ticker if that were the case I don' think I would have been able to lose the weight that I have lost. But I do offer advice to my friends if they message me, and I let them know some of the things I have done to lose the weight.

ericgAU

I too dont quite understand the reasoning to close ones diary. While I'm usually a fairly private type of guy, I thoroughly enjoy the accountability, advice & the camaraderie amongst my MFP friends. I mean, isnt that what being on MFP is all about??

REET420

I don't open my diary because I don't want people to criticize me if I eat something that is not healthy.

nelandel

Ditto!
I don't want others scrutinizing what I eat or how I eat. One person wrote she was just concerned about the dieter's health. My health is my concern and no one elses.

chelledawg14

I wouldn't be too concerned about that message that "they were under X amount of calories". I sometimes hit the "completed for the day" during the day - before I'm actually done - just to see what it says.

Swissmiss

I never comment on the messages that someone is under their calories unless I can view just what they are eating. I don't want to tell someone that they are doing good if they are living on 1200 calories of junk food.

MisterTEZ

mine is open to MFP friends, and just yesterday a young lady pointed out I needed to eat more fruit, and she is right, whether or not I heed the advice or not is my choice but it I think it's good someone has taken out the time to check my diary and to help me along with my plan, and yes I will eat more fruit

Di3012

-Title was meant to say at the end; (warning; rant) heh

Okay, so something's been getting to me recently.. And I feel the need to get this off my chest.
There are some people on here who choose to not make their diary entries viewable to others, even with their friends added on here, and I respect that decision and everything. I'm aware that perhaps such a person would feel more comfortable with the added privacy etc.
But what worries me is when their entry is completed for the day, and y'know it says that they were under their calorie allowance for that day...which is great I suppose. But I do worry 'cause I can't see by how much they're under, and whether it's really that healthy. Fair enough if they're under by so many calories etc. but then there's the possibility of them netting below 1,000 kcals etc.
And then, all too often in response to these completed diary entries, another person comments with something like, 'Well done' etc. and that really gets to me because how are they to know the extent of by how much under those calories were, and in turn by the amount of nutrients they're feeding their body...
(It's like such comments could be encouraging unhealthy, destructive behaviours...)

I'm not trying to criticise, nor am I trying to be overly nosy or anything. I'm just concerned for these such person/s health.


Okay Rant over.

But seriously, does anyone feel the same to me on this issue, or anything similar?
Thanks.

Many times, people say "well done" because they are more often than not, meaning well done as in the person has not gone over their daily allowance. After all, many people are here, to keep track of their calories and hope to keep within their allowance.

Regarding seeing their diaries, I do not consider that my responsibility, the only responsibility I have is to my own day's eating and drinking, everybody else's is their concern, it really is nothing to do with me.

Regarding feeling concerned for their health, that too, is none of my business and I would hate for somebody to feel their could judge me on what I am doing, eating, drinking and what my calories counts are, because I am old enough to make my own decisions and I do not necessarily consider another person to be more wised-up than me when it comes to my own body. In actual fact, I would go further than that and am cast-iron certain that another person would not know what is better for me than I.

weight2go

If we all were perfect we would not be on here. Its what works for you. I made mine public because I wanted show I can make good choices. And sometimes I am human I will make a bad one and get over it.